Sharing your bed with a guy friend?

[Anonymous]

Can a guy and a girl sleep on the same bed without it leading to anything? If so, what does this say about his level of attraction towards her?

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Thanks for the helpful answers guys :)

[Butterfly1002]

Haha yep they can and it really doesn't mean anything about the level of sexual attraction just how tired everyone is :) I've shared a bed with a guy friend with nothing happening many times, I've had one turn out to be gay (so I'm fairly certain it is safe to say he had no attraction for me) and another one tell me later on that at that time he was in love with me and wanted more to have happened. It really could go either way. Sleep is sleep and although it may take place in the same setting it is very different than sex...
Sorry if this knocks down any hopes that this guy may like you cause he very much could (he definitely doesn't think your a gross hag)
Best of luck I hope it all works out in your favor ;)

[Anonymous]

It doesn't mean he wasn't attracted to you. It just means that he had more control over the situation. I've laid in a bed with my best friend before (he's a guy) and nothing has happened. He was in my room and I was watching I Robot on TV and he came to visit out of nowhere. He was tired and I told him to lay down and watch TV with me. He laid down we were talking for a while and he ended up falling asleep lol. So I don't really think there's anything wrong with that. I've done it and nothing has happened. He may be attracted to me but I don't know point being that usually they don't want to seem to forward and be rejected I'm guessing.

[ladsin]

yeah, could ruin a friendship

[Opinion Owner]

What could ruin a friendship?

[nandyme]

1) when the guy and girl are friends. nothing more, nothing less. and they have made it clear to each other.
2) when they are super duper exhausted
3) when they just want to talk about things, dreams, feeling , etc. just enjoying each other's company. possible without being all over each other
4) when they are abstaining for any reason.

1 means that there is no attraction, 2 happens sometimes even with people madly in love 3 happens with even the most in love couple from time to time- shows that their relationship is so much more than physical 4- i feel sad for both parties :P

[ladsin]

Eh, I've done it before. But not typically it is pretty hard (lol) I mean I will likely be thinking about sex and be struggling to figure out whether or not I should make a move on her.
(the one time I did was pretty easy though, she was my friends gf and I was at a party with her and she got pretty sick so I tried nursing her back to health and just passed out next to her so no guy would try anything XP

[Argus14]

There will always be a little attraction there. However it is possible for two people of the opposite sex to sleep in the same bed together without either trying anything. Not all dudes are rules by their penises, unfortunately our brain gets in the way sometimes.

I take it you wanted him to make the move? Or are you just a little insulted that he didn't?

[Asker]

Kind of, which is why I'm not sure if it boils down to self control or non-interest on his part. I suppose I could've made a move but I really enjoyed laying next to him and just talking.

[jakedj93]

I personally would avoid the situation entirely, because I don't honestly believe there is no such thing as ZERO sexual attraction. I am friends with some girls, but I don't get too close to them, because I know how that ends.

So no it won't always lead to anything, but I am 100% certain the thought of screwing will come across his mind at least once.

[ambertaylor]

There doesn't need to be an attraction, just a solid friendship which both sides have made it clear that there is no romantic potential.

I used to house share with three guys, I was the only girl, we were all just good friends and knew there was no romance either side and most weekends I'd share a bed with one or more of them and just hang out and eat and chat, no big deal. Sometimes we used to pull all our beds in to the front room and make one massive bed to have movie days.

[Butterfly1002]

OMG my roomies and I used to do that (pull our beds together to have one giant cuddle puke) and it was so much fun but our friends thought it was soo weird but omg I miss those day!!! So happy to see someone else does that too and we weren't the weird ones haha

[ambertaylor]

Yeah no one else understood! Outsiders were like what...you all gang banged in one bed? hahaha I miss those days, living with guy friends instead of girls was definitely a great choice.

[XRabbitHeartX]

It's probably possible but still odd. I would not want to share a bed with simply a friend. It's too close for comfort. The few times guy friends slept over I'd always make them sleep on a separate mattress or on the couch. It just seems inappropriate tbh. It might not always lead somewhere but it's just sort of "ugh" for me to share my personal space like that.

[DivaMonae]

Well you guys are friends not dating or friends with benefits so you should both be able to control yourselves.

It doesn't mean that he isn't attracted to you or you're not attracted to him. It just means both of you have self control.

It has been done before and hopefully can still be done

[NovemberJoseph]

If the guy isn't gay, then 100% for sure at least once the thought of sex with you is going to pop in his mind. There is no straight guy on this planet that won't think of sex when he's lying on a bed with a female friend, unless of course she's REALLY ugly but I rarely befriend ugly girls enough to ever sleep on the same bed as them.

[Cheeseburgers]

If a girl sleeps in the same bed as me, and we don't sleep together, it's a chip shot straight to my emotional balls.

In other words, she doesn't view you as a sexually attractive person.

[Asker]

Does it also mean that the guy isn't sexually attracted to her if he doesn't make a move?

[Cheeseburgers]

No, he could simply be afraid of rejection.

The human mating dynamic is predominantly: Guy makes the move, woman reject/accept his advance.

In the bedroom it's no different.

[Prilee1992]

Because they're gay male bestfriends. haha kidding
I would never sleep with a girl that I wouldn't want to hook up with. Unless she's my mother.

[MaskofInsanity]

Yep. I've had male friends crash and sleep in my bed without escalating at all, because we're actually just mates with no hidden sexual tension lol.

[lucky24]

I do it all the time in hotel room with my friends when we go on trips. I don't see the big deal, it doesn't have to lead to anything

[EyeSeaYew]

That makes no sense.
Why would you be in the same bed as your guy friend if you guys are just friends? How does that seem logical to you?

[Asker]

Because somehow we ended up on the same bed? How does this not make sense to you?

[EyeSeaYew]

Because normally guys and girls share a bed when there is some sort of romantic or sexual attraction.

[markscott]

I could see how I might fall asleep on a female friends bed, and sleep the night, without anything sexual happening. I can also see how a guy or girl could plan to use the situation to manipulate him her into sex.

[HudsonHawk]

I have a best girlfriend that I sleep in the same bed as at least once a week and nothing has ever happened an we have been pretty drunk sometimes... I've never made a move because I dont want to fuck up that friendship, and also she feels safe with me and I dont ever want to betray that...

[Anonymous]

Absolutely. What happens is up to you. it doesn't mean that you don't like the person it just means nothing is happening.

[lkjhg69cum]

It can but where is the fun in that?