My boyfriend cried in front of me, what does it mean?

[Anonymous]

We've only been together for less than a month. He's super outgoing, fun, and friendly. We're actually complete opposites. He's very vocal and open, while I'm very shy and closed off. The other day we were lying in his bed and he got a letter concerning a family member who had died a couple months prior. He was very close to this person, and the letter just really got to him. He started crying and I just kissed his cheek and laid there with him while he told me all these things about this person, all their memories.

I've never seen a man cry before. I've had many close male friends who I've never seen cry. Even my friend whose father passed away unexpectedly when he was only 16. I've never once seen my father cry or anything close to it. So it threw me off. I can't tell if it's because he really trusts me, or because he's just an open book, or someone who is really emotional.

Guys, have you ever cried in front of your girlfriends? (why if you don't mind sharing). Is it normal this early on in a relationship?

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Oh afterwards he said "I'm not used to crying".

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For all you unintelligent commentators, it is very easy to hold back or hide the fact that you're crying. If you read the question, you would now that I grew up in a world where the men in my life never let anyone see them cry. I'm asking behind the significance behind him allowing me to see him so vulnerable, not the fact that he actually cried. For all of you who left sensible and helpful answers, thank you for understanding my question.

[brnxsweet]

Well in this case he was probably just very emotional and overwhelmed. Nothing wrong with a guy crying, in front of anyone, he's only human. Yeah the relationship may still be a little new but I'm sure he already feels comfortable enough to do something as little as cry in front of you. Considering he's very open, I don't think it was a big deal for him to do it in front of you either.

[Asker]

Yeah, that's true. It's just very foreign to me. I hate crying in front of people and I do it as little a possible.

[brnxsweet]

Me too, I never let people see me cry, I'd just feel uncomfortable doing it in public

[FirstL0ve]

I think it's a real good thing he cried in front of you. Shows he feels comfortable around you and trusts you. He can open up around you. Not a bad thing. And not emotional, that is a legitimate reason to cry, so I would not say oh well he is really emotional.

[redeyemindtricks]

You should keep him.

"... and I just kissed his cheek and laid there with him while he told me all these things about this person, all their memories"

And he should keep you.

[ElijahWolf]

^She's right

[Taurus1992]

I have. It means they are very comfortable with you. So much they trust you and can make themselves vulnerable. That can happen at any stage really. Life doesn't wait for us to develop more before it sends us bad tidings after all. And I cried because my family excommunicated me..

[matheus_mb]

I won't cry in front of anyone I don't trust enough. So, yeah, I think he trusts you and feels safe to cry in front of you when he needs.

[Mesonfielde]

I think that means he was very sad.

You know, like why people typically cry and stuff.

[Asker]

Lol. Your attempt at a sarcastic remark is remarkably unfunny.

[Mesonfielde]

Well, technically despite the sarcasm, it's true.

[ivaneca]

@Asker, random stranger butting into your sarcastic conversation with a random opinion - sarcasm isn't supposed to be funny, it's supposed to ridicule someone or something.

That's all, bye now.

[josh25]

A lot of guys don't like to cry around people. But when my dad died I bawled my eyes out around my girlfriend and anyone for that matter. If a guy cries around u it means she trusts u.

[Goldie757]

Men have emotions too. He feels like he does not have to hide that side of him. Guys who are open arw a blessings. Trust me guys who can't open up are frustrating asf.

[AzureGirl]

He feels comfortable to express his feelings in front of you. It's a good thing.

[Unicrone]

It's normal. I do it all the time. I feel comfort in her and know that she will be there for me. Other friends probably won't which is why you haven't seen men cry

[MeLoveBogota]

Guys cry too not that often but it happens. Probably he loved his relative and you seem a good women. Its shows that he has BIG trust in you.

[Entity]

It means he has the ability to cry. Turns out a lot of humans do.

[ElijahWolf]

Hahah man I love your troll posts on here :'D You're the kind of person I like to see on forums :D

[Entity]

That can't be good...

[ElijahWolf]

Haha, believe me it is :'D, seen your comment a few times already xD, You're awesome keep doing what you're doing :D

[AJ22thatway]

@ElijahWolf @entity STFU you're both lame as shit

[llorando]

It means that men cry too and that he trust you enough to express his feelings in front of you.

[BruceTrails]

I'm very sensitive so I can cry quite fast and its so annoying but I can't control it.

[AndrewTroy]

I'm not 100% sure, but I think he could be upset about something.

[llorando]

100% sure he's upset/sad because someone close to him died.

[Koji8123]

I guess if I break an arm or something..

[sweetsoft]

he is a keeper

[ElijahWolf]

He trusts you

[jmmmfi2]

He sounds like a pansie

[Anonymous]

He really trusts you