Crying in front my boyfriend

[Anonymous]

Me and my boyfriends see each other rarely because of his work and we are in different cities.. we have been together for 2 years and I never cried in front of him or cry for him on the phone..but lately I was so stressed and we had a fight and he didn't talk to me for 2 days and I was like " you can live without me 2 days so you can live your whole life without me " .. then he called me and we had phone sex.. after that I cried for him on the phone... he was so kind and cuddled me .. but I really feel stupid for crying..i hate crying in front of anyone or anyone listens me crying.. and I know that guys hate girls crying in fights... is that too bad?

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[toulouse]

@" you can live without me 2 days so you can live your whole life without me " .

thats retarded. its 2 days everyone needs to get things done. you don't need to see him every day and if you feel you do, then get a boyfriend who wants that, don't try to change a guy into something he's not.

crying and the other hand- is physiological. and so what if someone else hates it. you are not hurting anyone and its biological.

guys get erections- would you say I don't like erections don't get them around me?

people have tears. they have them then feel angry, sad,. worried, confused. tears happen, the water is good for your eyes, it cleans them out.,

you could hang up next time if your that controlled by his opinion of happens with YOUR body.

personally I think of you can't be comfortable around him, and you are that paranoid, you shouldn't be with him. I don't think you feel respected & you def do not respect yourself in relation to him, if u've been with him for two years and you are worried he doesn't like 'crying' f*** him.

whats the point of you crying and feeling pathetic and having him humor you- which clearly didn't work or you wouldn't be asking US if its OK to cry.

that's like saying my boyfriend doesn't like me peeing, s it OK I just couldn't wait,

first of all. chill put. think about what you want. and if your boyfriend is the person you can in REALITY be comfortable with. not as an IDEA in your head.

and stop worrying whether your body functions are OK based on his opinion.

what happened is you felt neglected & you cried. you're looking at crying which is not the issue - at all.

was phone sex, what you felt you needed after just basically saying if he's going to take off he can keep going?

i have a feeling it didn't help you feel secure- hence you freaking out AFTER.

i think it is not clear whether you guys have each others intersts at heart. you seem to be picking and choosing pieces of each other and discarding are ignoring the rest.

id give it some serious thought.

make a list of

What support you think get from being with him. And

What support you think is missing.

Another list of

How you do support him. And

How you do not support him.

Then do the math. take it seriously, and be very honest with yourself.

>>btw did you have some sort of 'arrangement' where you WILL see each other every day.

Or hear from each other evert day?

If he BROKE that, that's indicative of him not respect ing you.

If there is NO agreement, that is indicative of you not communicating and not respecting him,

you left out that detail. if he betrayed a trust or if judy felt neglected arbitrarily.

its very important what context of conditions, that happened on.

if you fight, its NORMAL & natural to want space to clear your mind.

you also didn't say WHY you fought.

[Aksel]

Talking about too long...

[toulouse]

penis envy?

[slipslender]

lmfao. sorry. but really?! that dramatic line about living without you followed by phone sex followed by tears galore?

wtf is this? As the World Turns? siiiiiigh.

anyways, I hate crying in front of people too. hence it rarely happens. but he's your boyfriend, so I think it's okay that you were emotionally vulnerable in front of him.

[Anonymous]

i can't get how he cuddled you if it was all on the phone !

but no its not stupid at all if you cry or he cries I guess its perfect guys if you expresss you feelings to each other so open and clear like that.

crying doesn't mean you are weak or desperate ...its just that you are comfortable to cry when he is around :)

[ImALuvrNotAFighter]

You don't have to feel stupid; that's not a big deal at all. You two have been together for two years, after all. However, you SHOULD be concerned about the amount of drama in the relationship.