Is it okay to cry in front of your boyfriend?

[Liannaaaaa]

So I've been under a lot of stress lately from work and also my good friend has been seriously ill. I'm really not a crybaby, we've been together for a year and I have never cried in front of him before... only in private because I didn't want him to see but last night I broke down and started crying in front of him. He asked me why I was crying and I explained to him that it's just the stress and being tired and he was like "oh you're crying just because of that?" that statement only made me cry more and soon he was like "okay I'll go to my place call me when you've calmed down" and he sounded annoyed. After a year I trust him enough to see my tears, I felt like crying and I couldn't hold it back and that's how he reacts. I mean I know crying is a turn off but I would have hoped at least maybe a hug or not being mean about it. His reaction felt like a slap to the face no wait a minute it felt worse. So apparently you can't cry in front of your boyfriend ever? what do guys think when their girlfriend cries? Do they all just get annoyed like my boyfriend?

[thetundrawolf]

This is why we date.

Anyone who would look at your pain and frustration and furrow his eyebrows, and say, "Is that all?" is likely going to remain that way years later.

Personally, I would like someone who would hold me when I am crying, for whatever reason, rather than belittle my pain.

He has some serious maturing to do in my opinion, and NO, it is perfectly acceptable to cry in front of him (just not all the time over any little thing imo).

The idea of having a wife means that we share everything with each other. We listen to each other... This guy is not much of a listener but that is why we date! To find these things out *now* rather than later, when they can contribute to separation.

[jammasterjay]

I agree with madhatters4. If I'm honest when I was younger it made me feel a bit uncomfortable when a girl cried in front of me- because I didn't really understand my own emotions, let alone girls' emotions. But that's no excuse for his reaction; I never reacted like that, when you care about someone your concern is making them feel better. Even if he was uncomfortable with it, his behavior has shown him to be unworthy. I'm sorry things are tough right now, but remember most problems are temporary and things DO get better!

[In-sight-ful]

I cry in front of my boyfriend ALL THE TIME but I am generally an emotional person. He generally will give me a hug or rub my back but sometimes he just sits there and lets me get out all the tears then we talk about it. Your guy may just not feel comfortable with tears, talk to him about it and tell him how he reacted hurt your feelings and tell him how you have preferred him to react, men aren't mind readers.

[madhatters4]

you should be able to cry in front of your partner

the way your bf handled it was rather insensitive and crass. I would be really disgusted if someone thought the best solution to a person being upset is to leave them alone and come back when they are better.

So apparently you can't cry in front of your boyfriend ever?
no you just can't cry in front of YOUR bf
what do guys think when their girlfriend cries?
Do they all just get annoyed like my boyfriend?
no
I think something must be wrong and I wonder how I can make them feel better

[Nik1hil]

You wanted him to cuddle you and needed a chest or shoulder to sob , so actually the guy is a stupid , idiot or a moron. Or maybe he is going through a really bad phase of life that he cannot even see others pain or he would badly blast in cry and he left you creates more space that maybe even he was about to cry. And boy's Are not supposed to cry , so maybe he left you so he can cry alone.

[FallenRangerz]

Fuck no, when my girlfriend cries I immediately just hug her and wait it out until she starts to feel better or sobs less then I would try to make her laugh and cheer up. I would never just leave like that.

[centigrade]

It's absolutely fine! How a guy can act like that when a girl is crying in front of him, I don't know. It should be instinct to hold her and try your damnest to comfort her. I'm sorry your going through this :(

[centigrade]

Omg. I cannot believe I did it :'(...

*you're

[zorro8888]

I don't have a problem with it, but maybe it's the fact that you didn't actually tell him about the most important part which would be your friend beinh ill, ot seems like you were simply having a panic attack related to stress and fatigue only

[Anonymous]

My girlfriend has cried in front of me, it's okay just let it out

[Klaatu51]

not at all he might think you're weak LOL

[Zango91]

That warrants for free hugs and kisses.