I feel so depressed and I don't value life, she was all I had for more than 7 years, please help me.

[brokenheart0703]

well here is the story. We broke up 2 months ago, it got really bad with her and her family and she went with a rebound right away. She's with another guy now. Well I had tickets for a concert schedule for last week. She said it was too soon to hang out and it wouldn't be fair to me or the guy she's seeing. We send emails only by the way. She however talked to me so nice last weekend on emails & I gave her the tickets so her and her best girlfriend could go. I put em in my mailbox as I saw her and her best friend pick them up. We didn't see each other though. Well I don't know how she can have respect for her boyfriend if she came for the tickets. I'm sure her boyfriend doesn't know. She said maybe sometime in the future we could hang out but that now it was too soon and it wouldn't be fair to her boyfriend or me right now :(

well I'm just wondering if she really cares for this guy seeing how she came to get the tickets when before that, she wasn't even emailing me until the weekend so that she could get the tickets from me. She somehow convinced me so instead of her going with me, she goes with her girl. She was really grateful the next day though. and just 4 days ago I sent her an email and told her I wanted to get her a present for Christmas but it was up to her, even if she didn't wanna see me, I would drop it off at her front door.

I also told her 2tell her little sister happy birthday as well. She replied with this:

"Aww wow - thank you very much, my little sis will appreciate that =D also, yea I was thinking about your mom & her birthday yesterday, tell her happy birthday too if she'd b okay with that..lol you are very kind & I'm glad to hear that all has been going well, esp with those programs..well I thought the same about you with gifts & really its up to you & I wasn't sure if I should either lol glad to hear from u, & again thank you thank you 4 the concert tix, very kind of you =) take care!"

she knows I always wanted2get her an Ipad, I got it but I'm not sure now I wanna give it2her. I cried a lot2day.I miss her. I really shouldn't give her the touch pad. I checked her BFs page and his main picture has him and my ex ex 6 year old little sister :( it broke my heart to see that. I wish we could go out to dinner for Christmas but I know she won't. It seems she's happy with him. I don't know why she says she's thinking of giving me a present as well :'(

[goflipaburger]

I know this is going to feel like a punch to the stomach: you need to cut ties. You need to stop emailing her, don't call, don't write.

Why? Because as of now you are still dependent on the THOUGHT of her. The thought that she might see you in a positive light, that she might just be in rebound, maybe even that she might come back.

Whether she will or won't come back someday is irrelevant. You need to take back your individual life; seven years is a long time and I know its crazy-super easy for me to say this but: You need to live for you. YOU should be going to concerts with friends, you should be out and about doing whatever it is you like to do. Don't strap yourself down to this feeling.

Keep the ipad for yourself and just... again, this sounds awful and horrible, but it really helps me: cry your heart out.

Just go to a comfortable spot and just cry, let it all out. Talk to yourself, pretend you're giving her an exit speech of why this is the stupidest thing she's ever done.

You need to take care of yourself, you need to treat yourself to something positive.

SO, what I suggest is that you go give yourself a few hours to just cry it all out, then make yourself a little schedule that has goals you want to meet. Be realistic, it can be a mental calendar lol. Like... for example: Next month today, if I'm still not feeling okay, I will talk to a professional.

or: Tomorrow, I'm going to get up and (insert favorite activity) and see my friend (__)

Don't be afraid to cry and don't be afraid to get help and talk about it. Just treat yourself well and things will fall back into place. Who know what the future holds for you-- maybe she will come back, maybe she wont. You need to be prepared for both situations because I am POSITIVE you can find happiness in both paths, although it doesn't seem like it now.

And I know I'm just a clueless 20 year old, but I've helped a lot of people through divorces and if there is anything I DO know it that you need to treat yourself well.

Just take care of yourself, okay?

[brokenheart0703]

you are rigt, she said we need time to heal before we can become friends

[goflipaburger]

:) Just take it easy, you can do it!

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry, man. This situation is extremely hard as she was your girlfriend for seven years. I do however, have to hit you with the a verbal 2x4. You need to stop. You need to stop contacting her. You need to stop e-mailing her. You need to delete her from your Facebook, you need to block her AND the current boyfriend. You're stalking their pages, and you're only hurting yourself. You see how you felt seeing his main picture. GODAWFUL. So stop doing it to yourself. Reading what she wrote to you does not give me any impression that she wants you back, or that she's on the rebound at all. After seven years and she gives you a mere, "take care!" She's throwing in smiley faces, and is glad you're "doing well." I'm going to go on a limb and say that she most likely knew this guy while you guys were together. It seems like a rebound to you, but I'm telling you it's most likely not. I'm going to guess that she's been out of love with you for a little while, and that's why it was extremely easy for her to move on and jump into a new relationship. I'd know. I did the exact same thing. Everyone said it was a rebound. Three years later, we're still together. I knew it was never a rebound. Stop buying her gifts. Do not even think of buying her an iPad. Money will not get her back. You throwing your cash around will not win her affections back. She's in a new relationship, and you kind of have to cut this off cold turkey. NO CONTACT. And that means NONE whatsoever. No texting. Delete her number. Remove everything that reminds you of her and put it in a box. It's going to take a long time for you to move on, but in order to start, you need to start looking out for yourself. She's not coming back and you need to just grind this into your mind, and start believing it.

[Hellboa]

dude, don't talk to her...AT ALL. block her off your email, delete her number. It's the only way to move on. She got tickets from you doesn't mean anything. Don't waste your money on her. She has a boyfriend. it's over. There is another lady out there that you need to find. she's looking for you. Good luck :)

[Anonymous]

Dam man seven years, she probley was talking to him for a while before breaking it off, cause I mean was she acting different at the end of the relationship. did she use to live with you and did you run everything, cause that's the key to a relationship, you have to be the alpha male. what kind of job do you have and what's her job, and do you know what job her new boyfriends has, but yea stop buy her stuff, the more you buy the more she will like the other guy and she will think less of you

[Giogiogio2011]

Get over her and move on. She is trash, end of story. She used you for the time she had you for and now she's done. Welcome to "Love". That's how it works, They love you until your "Value" runs out and boom they are with someone else not giving you a second thought.

This is why I tell people to never give up on their dreams for someone else because they damn well won't give up theirs for you. What does it leave you with? In a deeper hole then what you started in.

[Nicefuture]

You are stupid,Why did you buy tickets and present for xmax? you dumb she is no longer your gf,save the money for your new clothes that you should go buy and the new hair cut to meet a new girl.

7 years? so what,to her it was like 7 days that's why she got a new bf,she didn't value those years so

Stop running after her and go find a better girl.

you look pathetic by the way.

[Kain6th]

Really harsh. jesus. be more sensitive maybe?

[Nicefuture]

OK.

Sweetheart/honey forget her pleeeease,she doesn't care,she is playing you and playing the other guy too,sweetheart go get a new gf.

Works?

I DOUBT THAT,Well he is pathetic in her eyes he needs to wake up now And earn some respect for himself.

[Kain6th]

YOU need to learn how to talk to people who get out of a looong term relationship like this.

[Nicefuture]

Teach me how to talk please?

[Nicefuture]

How should I talk Mr. KAIN?

[luv4all]

time heal all wounds, take it one day at a time. you need to stop communicating with her and move on. good luck stay positive.

[Anonymous]

GAG also stands for Get-Another-Girl.