Should I try and talk to him or just walk away?

[Anonymous]

A guy friend of mine and I were getting closer and starting to cross the line from friendship to something else recently (cuddling, sharing a bed most weekends, flirting, texting a lot, spending loads of time together).
I asked him could we talk about what was happening between us and he joked and brushed me off but continued with these behaviours.
Then after 2 months of this he just stopped replying to my texts and became cold. He still does some of the flirty stuff but barely. I only see him every week or two now and only if a mutual friend is involved. He hasn't invited me to do anything one on one in at least a month.

What happened here? We were very good friends before all this so i can't understand it.

Anyway I am considering having a conversation with him for closure more than anything and wondered if this is the right thing to do or if I should just walk away.
Guys how would you view a girl who tried to have a conversation about this and girls would you bother with a conversation or take your pride and go?
Baring in mind he was a good friend before all this.

Have a conversation

Don't bother with a conversation

[hsshannah96]

He’s a chicken. He wants to have the relationship stuff without the title. He will be non committal due to his past trauma. I would honestly try a conversation and if it doesn’t go well just ditch him.

[Iron_Man]

He’s already blown you off MoveOn

[Asker]

I want some kind of closure though and this would mean leaving my friend group

[Iron_Man]

If you want closure and peace of mind talk to him if not then you’ll have to leave the group and make your own separate friends or see the group people without him

[Asker]

Does it seem weak to try and have it or though? And also why the fuck would this happen in the first place?

[Iron_Man]

Obviously he’s an immature guy and you’re more mature and serious

[Iron_Man]

Only you can tell yourself if it’s worth it

[Asker]

Yea I guess you're not exactly wrong there

[Asker]

Thanks by the way

[Iron_Man]

You’re very welcome make a very wise decision on what you’re going to do with the group

[Iron_Man]

I don’t think that guys worth it That’s my opinion

[Asker]

I think you're right, he's done nothing but fuck me around, but he was my best friend so I guess it's a bigger loss than just the potential relationship

[Iron_Man]

It was probably not a good idea to get affectionate and cuddle with each other

[Asker]

I 100% agree, in my defense I never initiated any of it, iv always been pretty strict about keeping my guy friends as just friends. We slept together a couple of years ago tho so the line was about blurry to begin with

[Iron_Man]

Wow I didn’t know that you had sex

[Asker]

Yeah I don't mention that straight away in these questions because it was years ago and we've not been friends for months since etc so it seems like a fresh friendship in a way, just with a lot of water under the bridge

[Iron_Man]

But you told me he’s blowing you off all this time

[Asker]

Okay sorry to clarify, hooked up drunk 2 years ago, he dissapeared for 4 months after that, friends again for about 4 months then he dissapeared for 8 months, friends again now for 6 mo this, he's being blowing me off the last month, info in this question is related to the last 4-6 months

[Iron_Man]

There’s no way you can have a relationship with a guy that’s always leaving that’s not even a friendship just MoveOn you don’t need all the stress

[Asker]

I'm right in thinking that isn't a normal friendship then? Because I thought it was weird and not very nice but he just brushed it off. Okay thanks again for your replies

[Iron_Man]

You’re so welcome and I wish you the best have a great Christmas

[Asker]

You too, happy Christmas!