Should I walk away? Or stay?

[yeonie]

I'm dating a guy and we established that we like eachother, we've been dating for 2 months already and we do like each other. However, he is always busy with work, and he drowns himself in work to the point he forgets himself and it worries me... and sometimes makes me feel I'm not even his priority even though he says I am but he has to work to keep himself busy from overthinking and such and I understand, but also I want the attention and love.. he doesn't talk unless I do and once we do its always an hour and so, then he goes back to working again I communicated to him that we need to communicate more to know each other and he is been trying but he is struggling.. so I gave him the space he needs until I got frustrated because we only go on dates once a week which mostly the only time we get to talk. Today I discussed that he is acting cold and we are not having fair communication, he said he can't provide me more than this because of his work and he admits that he should give me more attention but this is what he can do now, I told him I'm fine with it but I feel that I'm just a burden so I'm gonna leave the choice to him to call this off or not and he said he doesn't want this anymore because he is hurting me and he doesn't want to be the source of it and it hurt me, I told him he is a coward for walking away in the very first obstacle and he said he didn't mean to and he wants to talk about it later. When we go out he is super caring and nice to me but the problem is if we don't meet... I just don't know what am I to him, he says he likes me but still... I'm super confused, I know he likes me but I still need from him the efforts... I don't know what to do. Should I leave and walk away? Or should I stay? Please help :(

[quaranta]

His work time won't change, and if it's a tiring type of job he will be equally exhausted in the evening, regardless. A thing is a thing. Sometimes, people decide to meet anyway after work instead of just in the weekends, but apparently it's too much for him.
He stated clearly what he can give and what he cannot, and even that he can't change that and that it's a "take or leave", as he is ready to rather end dating than giving more, so the negotiation is now up to you: if you accept these conditions, you stay. If you don't, you have to go for someone with a less demanding work because your needs will be probably the same with another guy too.
I personally find meeting a partner once a week more than enough, and if texting happens only during the evening that's also cool for me because otherwise it would be too much. But I have different needs, you have yours, and you have to find a compatible situation with the way you work, not deciding if what you need is right or wrong.
However there is a weird point in your post, you say:"he has to work to keep himself busy from overthinking". Why? It looks like he is going through something extremely heavy. If so, well, no surprise he is exhausted or depressed at the end of the day. If he has a lot of things going on or some emotional burden he is not going to be able to give much, regardless of the amount of free time. His head is elsewhere. Maybe he is not ready to have a relationship in the current status, actually.

[Labokachulaa]

It sounds like he has something mentally/emotionally affecting his daily life. Are you sure that's something that you want to get involved with? Are you mentally, emotionally, and physically ready to put up with someone else's needs? It sounds like it may be nothing , but you have to take into consideration that there will be days that you're going through something. You will then have your issues and his that you're dealing with.

It sounds like he may not be ready for a relationship, people who date when they don't necessarily have the time to put in any effort confuse me. What is his goal? If he doesn't have time for himself and his needs, how would he have the time for you and yours?

You may need to have a talk with him and figure out what's going on with him. I ultimately think it's up to you to decide whether you choose to wait and see if things improve, but most people have all said the same thing it's time to move on. It's not fair to you to wait for him.

Also, you mentioned that he likes you, what has he done to show you that he's genuinely interested in pursuing a relationship with you? I'm not asking to be mean but to help you see it from a different perspective. From what you've said I don't see much effort on his end.

[Alex8736]

let's rephrase. if u needed to work to pay your bills to put food on the table and a s/o told you to choose as a priority what would you choose?

[Guy13]

Good luck. Do him a favor and leave him.

[yeonie]

I dont understand tho, am I the one mistaken here?

[Guy13]

He is only going to string things out when he should cut it off. If you leave it will be doing both of you a favor. It's like watching an impending train wreck from my position.

[LazerBean]

It's not like he's going to stop working. If you have a problem, leave.