You should talk to her. Just tell her what you're feeling and why you don't know what to do, and find out if she would be willing to break up with her boyfriend for you.
This is, inevitably, a scary conversation but if you never have it you'll be stuck in limbo forever. If you feel like she isn't yet ready to go to you, wait a while and continue getting closer -- but don't push it, you don't want her to associate you with the guilt of being unfaithful to her S. O.
Also, many people in today's climate aren't always willing to accept they're sexual orientation, or don't even recognize it for what it is. If you are in luck and she's bisexual or lesbian, she might not have realized it herself, so be wary of coming off as accusatory; people don't like other people to tell them who they are. Perhaps a good strategy would be to bring up sexual orientation in a comfortable setting, and just talk about it and yourself without telling her what she is. If she does happen to be bisexual or lesbian, she will likely start questioning herself, which may lead to self-realization or acceptance.
When you feel that she's ready and you won't be ruining her emotional state too horribly (no matter what, she's likely to either going to lose a close friend or a boyfriend, so don't wait forever), have that conversation. Be aware that you may need to step away from her if it goes wrong.
Myself, whenever I inform a friend (especially one in a relationship) and they don't reciprocate my feelings, I either step out of their life forever or (and this depends on how the conversation went and their personality) a couple weeks. If she says no, your relationship will change and unlikely for the better.
I've been listing a lot of downsides to this, but I believe that you should seriously consider going through with it; I'm straight so I don't know this for sure, but I'm under the impression that it is harder to find comparable partners in the LGBQT+ community due to their smaller population, so I feel that you should not give up this chance for someone you truly care about.
On top of that, I have had multiple friends that I cared about and never said anything to, and this has made me feel worse than if I get rejected.
TL;DR
You should probably go through with it, but make sure she's comfortable first and introduce the topic of sexuality slowly. Be aware that you will be risking your relationship, but you may come out with a perfect partner if it goes well.
Good luck!
Okay I read the comments too. I would say that is a confusing situation. Stick around but don't show too much interest. Just be friends with her meet new people. Maybe in the future. But for now just go with the flow of things and don't let yourself be roped into caring more than you need to. You can care about friends but there is a limit. Don't sleep with her anymore right now that would be the real test even naps! Good luck.
You should continue to talk to her because if you walk away, it'll ruin the relationship. She'll also ask why you walked away and you'll be corned. So don't walk away. Just continue to talk to her and just wait and see what the result was
Irs her decision to make. Not yours. Don't try to sway her too much. Tell her you're there for her no matter what she chooses, whether that be ad friends of as something more
How did she react when you confessed? Great image, by the way.
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I don't know... I would distance yourself and give it time. That sucks, and patience is hard, but you never know what the future could hold. As it stands currently, doesn't seem like you have much of a chance. Sorry. Good luck out there.
You are a disappointment to the Brotherhood of men... Men like you who jump on girls that have keepers and play sweet and nice.. Steep back and respect the man... Until they both deal with it without you interfering
Walk away. Have respect for her current relationship. You might be miss reading her "love" and seeing what you want/hope to see? Regardless, she's NOT OK with it and/or willing to end it for you, so move on is what I would do.
Up to you, ultimately I look at it as you reap what you sow. If she leaves him cause she started to like you, how are you any different? She may do the same to you? I would let it just take it's course or move on.
Dear that's for you to decide. But I do want to say something, 'survival of the fittest' :D
Depends on what you want out of this. Think about this though, if she’d be willing to leave her boyfriend for you, who’s to say she wouldn’t leave you for someone else.
If you develop feelings for someone who is with someone else, my opinion is you should keep it to yourself.
Walk away and find someone else. I always feel bad for the person that they are leaving. Why can't people just go for someone that is unattached?
Just stay friends. Don't be a prick and potentially ruin a good thing they have going.
Wait it out and hope it plays out in your favor
Wishing you the best♥️
Spaghetti is straight till you make it wet... make her want you... and see how it goes.
you should stay.. don't push her but stay
Stay with her as a friend if you choose to.
make sure she fall in with you too
stay with her see what happens
No, since homosexuality is an abomination.
I would make a firm choice. Either him or her.
Stay
Walk away.
walk away
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