Is this it, should I just walk away?

[freeflyfriday]

I’m a single father. Haven’t dated since my ex passed away and recently met someone that took my breath away a lot like she did in the past. Well aside from everything seeming like it was great, she was already making plans for the future. I was cool with it cause at this point in life I typically won’t date unless there is the possibility of a future. She stays busy, I stay busy and everything seemed to work. Over the holiday, I was having some issues with my grandchild (stovepiped a diaper) and my daughter has always had issues during the holidays cause the holidays seem to bring up memories of her mom and also the loss of her grandmother. Well while I was elbow deep in my grandsons diaper, I was using speech to text and just spoke a thought out loud. Basically saying that she wasn’t my girlfriend yet so some things I didn’t feel comfortable with her yet. I sent it and failed to realize that it had picked that up and she took offense to it. I mean I get it since we were openly sharing pretty much everything about our lives. Personally I thought that she was over it since for the past week everything seemed to carry on as usual. but fast forward to today and she drops the bomb when I mention that I wanted to take it to the next level and start dating and have a relationship and she seemed shocked followed by telling me that due to my response at the time that she stopped thinking of it as anything more than platonic and thinks that we should just be friends. So I guess my question is, is this salvageable? I mean I realize that the fuckup is on my part, but she’s a Diamond in the rough and I don’t want to just walk away like she meant nothing. She made me promise her that I wouldn’t just quit regardless of how guarded she was but now it’s almost as though that doesn’t even matter. I don’t know, I’m just wanting advice and opinions based on other people’s responses. My male friends would just tell me to move on because she likely already has.

[Anonymous]

You can try again if you want meet up with her and talk it out
But I think you are more important in this mess your happiness and your health is all you should care the most.
Therefore it’s best you move on not because “ she doesn’t want you “ but because as I said you are and should be the focus here. You deserve to be happy and find someone who loves you for real like no jokes.
I know it’s hard because you seem to like her and you are a good men but you have to fight this thing out of the window and start a new fresh “love life.”Thank god 2023 is coming. Look for a new better women you can try online , asking friends it doesn’t matter.
As long as you find what you deserve. This women doesn’t deserve you. But trust me one day one day when we all sit down and realize oh shit time is flying we see grays hair multiplying we used to be stupid thinking “we can have everything “so I know one day she is going to feel bad maybe she missed this opportunity.
In a way you win because you gave her a chance she didn’t took it than that’s her LOSE
She is the one who’s blind. Your eyes are way open and true so your eyes can now finally find a better women who’s waiting out there for YOU as you are now.. so yeah forgot this lady.

[Selene1600000]

You probably won’t like this, but this isn’t just about one accidental message her reaction suggests her interest wasn’t that solid to begin with. You can try once: own it briefly (“I messed up, that didn’t reflect how I feel, I do want something real with you”), then give her space and let her choose but don’t chase or try to convince her. If she sticks with “just friends,” accept it and move on, because someone who’s truly into you doesn’t downgrade the whole connection that quickly.

[DizzyDesii]

Lmao yea i wouldn't want you anymore after hearing that. I’d be too hurt. May as well move on

[Anonymous]

My feeling is you better just move on. Sorry.