Am I making the right decision walking away?

[Mystique2031]

I had a crush on this guy! He’s been showing subtle signs of liking me. Everyone tends to think he likes me because he does things for me he doesn’t or hasn’t done for others in the circle. Now I confided in two of our female counterparts (acquaintances) that I liked him. One started flirting with him extra after I told her. I know he doesn’t like her but it made me want to look the other way. The second girl likes me. She has a boyfriend. But she started getting touchy with me after I expressed I’m interested in him. And when that didn’t work, she’s been flirting with him a lot. Texting him and stuff and he’s been telling me things like the way she texts me you wouldn’t think she has a boyfriend, or why is she texting me like this and posting pictures of her boyfriend. I’m like ok maybe I definitely need to step back. He also has been talking bad about her. Saying she’s dirty, she stinks blah blah. He doesn’t know I like him by the way. And so when I see him all in her face it’s like uhhhh hypocrite maybe. It just all seems like a big mess. He went all out for my birthday and just other things he does, and people in the circle have been asking questions. Because he’s known them longer and never gets them anything. He called me special and rare. I don't know but all the other stuff is turning me off and making me want to run the other way

[Anonymous]

I once dated a guy within my friend group and I know everyone’s outcome is different but from my experience I wouldn’t even recommend it. We were together for about 5 months before I ended things and the aftermath was a mess.


We were the center of gossip and I tried to avoid him as much as I could. I felt awkward in our friend group with him there and since we mainly did things as a group, I had to miss out on outings and such because it was so hard trying to hang out with them separate from my ex.


He started making it hard for me once he saw we weren’t getting back together, asking for me not to be invited to certain things (even a wedding!), interrupting my conversations, bothering me, it was horrible. I finally split from that group because I couldn’t take it, which also hurt since we were all such good friends.


This is just a cautionary tale, but I think by walking away you are definitely making the right choice.