Should I just walk away?

[Anonymous]

So I got over a nasty break up last year and decided to date someone again. I net this really sweet considerate guy and we went out for 2 months and I thought things were getting serious. We slept together for the first time a while back but after when I asked he wanted to end this talking stage he said he didn't want a girlfriend I just wished he told me that from the beginning instead of getting my hopes up. He tried to make it not seem so bad by saying I really like you abd care about you I'm just not in the right mental state abd need to work on myself rn I asked him what is was and he refused to answer. Then I asked he slept with me in the first place he said we're both consensual adults and we enjoyed it bit not to worry he's not the type to sleep around so I ghosted him for a while. The second guy I slept with turned out to not be that great. Then I thought maybe I could wait it's been 9 months since then and we're just casual sleeping with each other so I've been taking a break from him abd he doesbt talk to me unless I hit him up to see if he's doing okay. He claims to enjoy my company cause I'm easy to talk too. I think he knows I'll do anything to make him happy cause I like him and I can't go out with anyone else no matter how hard I tried I couldn't like anyone else. I just wished he was honest from the beginning when I asked him out making the first move sucks.

[HollyK21]

My advice is to consider practicing celibacy and try your best to date with intention. Too often women get afraid of asking upfront what the guy is looking for, and instead think it’s safer to ‘go with the flow’, when in so many cases that road leads to no where.


If you’re sick of feeling used and misled, then the answer is simple — change the way you date. That means asking initially what a guy’s intentions are for talking to you, respecting yourself enough to walk away when he doesn’t want a relationship, and not having sex until you two are locked in. By month 2, if you’re still talking to the guy, he’s been consistent and things are going smoothly, then he already knows what he wants with you.


So if there’s no commitment in place, it’s likely there will not be. It doesn’t take extended lengths of time to realize he actually is interested and wants to date exclusively, don’t listen to anyone who tells you differently. You need to put a lot more value on your body and who you share it with, because whether you realize it or not, those feelings of being used and discarded will gradually wreck your self esteem and sense of self worth. If I were you, I wouldn’t feel like 20 mins of gratification or less is worth the resulting trauma.

[Anonymous]

Yes and run fast! He just wants sex or friends with benefits you 2snt a relationship and he wants the opposite! That pig?

[Anonymous]

That seems like the best thing for you to do.