What should I do? Please read below. I could go on and on but have met the character limit. I’ll respond to any and all follow-up questions?

[Anonymous]

So… Here’s the situation: I’m a 23-year-old male who has never had a girlfriend. Right now I’m in the middle of a very bizarre situation which I’ll try to explain in as much detail as I can given the character limit. I’ve been working a graveyard shift for over six months now. The person who trained me, also a 23-year-old male, likes to brag about his high “body count” (over 20) while he knows mine is 0. He told me that he could definitely help me in that area if I’m interested. Anyway, there so happens to be a 19-year-old girl working alongside him, and the three of us have been stuck in a palpable and strange situation for the duration of over six months now. My trainer will never mention her name, and when the three of us are together, there is such an awkward palpable tension. This girl has showed signs of attraction toward me: she’d come up to flirt with me, blush after I make remarks, stare at me, and make sensual gestures with her face and mouth. I myself have become infatuated with this girl, to an obsessive amount. Until now, our relationship has consisted of mostly facial gestures and mutual compliments: she’d compliment my clothes, I’d compliment her hair, etcetera. However, last week I’d done something I’d never done before: I asked her if she wanted to hang out. I could barely get the question out after stammering like a fool and for some reason repeating the word “oh” over and over before finally muttering the question with my head down, not even looking at her. She responded “maybe,” in a half-disinterested tone, then walked away. I was crushed, yet I thought I saw a coy smile on her face as she walked away. Next week, she won’t even look at me. No more flirtatious gestures, nothing. She seems to talk to me indirectly through other people standing next to me. For example, she walked up to someone whom I was talking with the next week after that incident and started telling him about her obligations…

[Guy13]

I know you’re like 20 SO you probably are not over the hard to get and have strong backbone Games and Expectations. I’m so over that 💩, however, I’ll negotiate in steel backbone if she stops all the woman-drama-gamesmanship.

She might simply be too immature.

[Asker]

So… What are you suggesting? You might be right that she’s immature, though she has this odd way about her where at times she’ll act like a thirty-year-old woman and at other times she’ll act like a teenager. But I myself am probably immature as well since I have zero experience with this.

[Guy13]

Risk, ask her out, and see if you can deal with it?

[Asker]

But I already asked her if she wanted to hang out and she said maybe before walking away….

[Guy13]

Date. She does not want to hangout. She wants intentionality and plans and date not slut hangout 💩

[AdithyaR]

Okay so she sounds like the type to play hard to get.
Gotte be honest with you, you're better off without that kind of energy in your life.
People who play mind games instead of being direct in communication are not worth involving in your life.

[Asker]

But I cannot stop thinking about her. I’ve never felt for anyone what I feel for her. Also, every time I try to ignore her, it becomes impossible and my focus on work becomes a focus on her instead.

[Avicenna]

Looks like you just embarrassed yourself to the extent it was a dealbreaker gif her. It happens. Don’t be scared to talk to other women.

[Asker]

As much as this hurts, I fear you may be right. I must admit that I’m a masochist and thus part of me never wanted this to work out anyway. Perhaps that’s why I was so attracted to her, because I knew she could fulfill this masochistic desire, that desire being rejection after so much pent-up hope.

In the past I’ve never chased after girls, rather they approached me, but I’d always preferred to keep a distance. Obviously hormones have come into play lately, which makes my desire to distance myself harder and harder to maintain.

Anyway I viewed this situation as a win-win from the start: Either she goes with me and I luck out that way, or I continue my self-reliance mindset and see how far I can get celibate.

[Iron_Man]

Why don’t you just break the ice and just start talking to the girl instead of all these little gestures

[Asker]

I tried breaking the ice by asking her if she wanted to hang out. First I asked her what she did yesterday, then I asked her what she normally does during the week, and finally I asked if she wanted to hang out, though this question was delivered in the most awkward and humiliating way possible.

Also, we both tried breaking the ice on numerous occasions, but it never gets far.

[Iron_Man]

Try one more time if she doesn’t do anything then you have your answer move on

[Iron_Man]

Do it face-to-face be serious on your breaks