Why won't this guy talk to me?

[Anonymous]

There is this adorable guy at my gym that I can't figure out. Many times I will catch him watching me work out but when I catch his eye he quickly turns away. When I'm taking a class he comes to an area near where I'm working out to do his stretching right behind me though there's plenty of other places he could go to. There have been times when I'm a few feet away from him gathering my things and I've said something to him, acknowledged him, and he'll answer me but won't look at me when he's talking, although I've seen him approach and talk to other girls at the gym, some are married and some aren't, and carry on conversations with them. Sometimes he'll come around me or walk in front of the machine I'm working on almost like he wants me to see him and other times he avoids me completely. I'm pretty sure he's not gay because a girl working next to me on the machines that he talks to said he loves attention from women. I can't tell if he's just shy or if I should stop trying to start conversations with him? I can't read his signals -- sometimes I walk by him and he'll look at me and smile and say hi, and other times he seems to stay far away from me and pretend like I don't exist?

[Terdog]

There is no pressure when you are around women you have no interest in, but if you fancy a woman then, often, you are not yourself. So he is probably intimidated and shy when it comes to you. He probably even thinks you are out of his league. The other women you mention, he is different because he doesn't have any interest in them so he is relaxed and able to be more of himself.

I'm assuming there is interest from you, otherwise you wouldn't be asking about his behavior. Soooo, find a way to catch him outside of this environment, perhaps as he is leaving the gym, or a time in transition. Find some way to break him into a more casual environment so he might be more relaxed. If he has problems with eye contact, then avoid eye contact with him so he he has a chance to look at you and again maybe become more relaxed.

One last thought, being also in a gym myself, I am always extra cautious to not make eye contact with any women or gaze because I know women are more conscious of their looks and activities. So you might have to make more of an effort to make a conversation or break a guy into a "normal" routine in such an environment. Just a thought...good luck.

[Reeses-pieces777]

he could be a guy who doesn't want to be in a relationship right now or he's not interested or he is interested but trying to hide it. just get to know him better, maybe go out for coffee or something? I'd get to know him if I'm interested. good luck :)

[Anonymous]

shy

[Asker]

How can he be shy -- he talks to a lot of people at the gym ...

[Opinion Owner]

Shy towards you because he likes u.....