How do you feel about sharing a bed with a platonic friend of the opposite sex?

[Quintessence]

If a guy and a girl are just friends (and they both know it), do you think it’s alright for them to share a bed? Would you be alright with sleeping in the same bed as your friend of the opposite sex?

Or is it weird? Or does it get weird, say, after a certain age?

[ebbyeb]

Hmm.. it might be a bit awkward, but hey! If this is a close friend, then it wouldn't matter to me at all. I mean hey, they're a friend and I trust them. Besides, a good 90% of the time we'd be sleeping! So there'd hardly be any interaction haha.. I mean, realistically.. you'd just get in bed maybe chit-chat for a bit then go to sleep. I probably wouldn't think too much about it. I think my biggest worry would be accidentally bumping him in my sleep.. since I kinda roll around. Or maybe he's one of those guys that'll randomly get a boner in his sleep so that could be pretty awkward to see if I did.. but eh, nothing he would be able to control lmao. I mean hey, he's human lol.
Nice question though!

[Paige90]

I think it's very possible to do it and I have several times! I have even slept in the bed several times with guys and both of us were naked! I can be friends with guys and sleep with them without having sex with them. Have you done it?

[Wonderer89]

I wouldn’t have a problem with it if I was single, that kind of thing doesn’t bother me but I’d never do it while in a relationship. Seems disrespectful and I’d have a problem with my partner doing it

[Wonderer89]

Thanks for MHO 😊

[19magic]

Id probably do that if I crashed at his or something

[Darknut123]

Then you would reach round at 2am, wanting that Wang. If only to be the guy in that predicament!!

[hahahmm]

Would not do it for several reasons:
1.) i could easily forget boundaries when I’m half awake and spoon or something like that. Or she could do thr same... Even if invited that could be bad for the friendship later.
2.) appearances. it’s an intimate thing and their SO & other people would never believe nothing happened. That’s unnecessary complications.

[Quintessence]

You spoon unconsciously? o. o

[hahahmm]

After a bazillion years of only being in bed with women I’m intimate with it’s natural to hug in bed. So yeah it’s possible. I would not risk finding out by accident tho

[Cosytoasty]

No problem with it as long as she doesn't smell. I've done it before without it being awkward, if you've done any kind of travelling it's all part of the compromises (in some places you can only get a room with a double bed).

[MarshallAllister]

Yeah! I share a bed even with other guys! We're friends :) granted, if it's a girl. and she's okay with a boner in her side then we're all set

[Quintessence]

Lol, when I say "share a bed", I mean that we both keep to our OWN sides of that bed!

[MarshallAllister]

Yeah, separate or same, all the same lol

[Steven-Lee97]

If they are just friends literally sleeping in the same bed at the same time. Then no that's fine. However think about the guys girlfriend or the girls boyfriend. If you don't feel comfortable telling them you slept in the same bed then it's not ok. However both single? Absolutely fine

[vanguarda101]

Possible, not recommended. Pheromones released can mess things up. Unless messed things are in order.

[Quintessence]

Do you think those come into play even in long-term, strictly platonic friendships?

[vanguarda101]

Sharing bed it a highly personal experience. And platonic suggests the other person doesn't know. Bed time is where you are most vulnerable so subconsciously you bond to those who you share with very closely. It end up eventually in one's leg going through other's leg and, well, woo.

[Quintessence]

Platonic, by definition, refers to a relationship which isn't sexual. And like I said, both parties know it. I'm referring exclusively to a situation where both parties are on the same page and aware of each other's boundaries.
And, if that's the case, then why do people have less qualms about same sex friends sharing a bed?
I've shared a bed with other girls. I haven't 'bonded' with them in any romantic or sexual way.

[vanguarda101]

You have chemical blockade for same sex pheromones.

[vanguarda101]

I mean, humans do have.

[vanguarda101]

The pheromones builds up over time, specially on a long term sharing. We were DNA level encoded to not resist this.

[Quintessence]

Human pheromones are actually a wildly contested phenomenon. They exist, yes, but their function--if they even have one--hasn't been readily established. There have been a LOT of studies that refute their role in our communication.

[vanguarda101]

Well, field experience and theories debates are often different from each other. Not saying it is impossible though. But it is "funny" trying to resist. Been there. You both need to be Buddha spiritual level to maintain specially a long term bedship without drifting into each other tender care.

Unless you are our next step in evolution :P

[Quintessence]

Lol! Well, this in itself sounds like an interesting experiment that I could conduct for myself. 🤔 Let's see...
I'll start "sleeping" with a male friend for whom I have no romantic feelings. If YOUR hypothesis is correct, then romance ensues. But, if mine is correct, then it'll be proof that I've evolved and transcended my basic human nature. :D

[vanguarda101]

Pretty much.

It does take a tremendous amount of effort to suppress our basic instincts.

Try holding breath, poo, pee, the urge to eat while hungry. You control to an extent only.

[vanguarda101]

It was nice talking to you, I like what I see when I read you. Will get some sleep now.

[Quintessence]

I dunno... I think I got overlooked by some basic biological drives, such that I don't have to worry about suppressing them, because they're already pretty absent.

For instance, my body does not and never has signaled thirst for me. This has been a major problem--I've passed out from dehydration a few times in my life. I simply NEVER feel thirsty, even if I'm dehydrated to the point of losing consciousness.
Another--and perhaps more relevant to this topic--example is that I have a very low, virtually non-existent sex drive. I've even started to wonder if I might be asexual. I don't get aroused nearly as easily or as frequently as everyone else.

[Quintessence]

It was nice talking with you, too. :) Hope to chat again sometime.

[nickyBBB]

I wouldn't mind if we were friends for a long long time lol

[Mynameistrey]

I (male) shared a bed with my close friend (female) after crashing at a friend's house after a night of partying and there was limited room. We both agreed to and it wasn't very awkward, we just made sure to not spoon haha.

[EpicFunWin]

In my own opinion, if they are just friends without having physical touch. That's fine.

[PhenomenalPancake]

I'd be okay with it. As long as she's comfortable with it, so am I.

[Jayson101]

I've done it before. She was trying to sleep with me to start drama with a mutual friend, her boyfriend. maybe I should have done it but she needed to sort out her relationship with her boyfriend

[Shaft50]

Done that quite a few times... a couple of times I slept on the covers while she slept under... other times it got sexual...

[romierome]

It's fine I've done it, but... As much as I thought we would just sleep it always turned sexual

[Quintessence]

Really? Were you guys close friends to begin with?

[romierome]

Close friends, just met, friend of friend... It's just that I have a body type that automatically arouses a female and it becomes more fun than serious

[Askhole]

Honestly, whats the difference between that and camping?

[Quintessence]

One scenario involves a bed with a mattress, the other involves a sleeping mat/bag?

[Askhole]

Soooooo, open burrito, closed burrito? you're still eating beans.

[Quintessence]

Lol, but that doesn't really answer my question. Just swaps 'bedroom' for 'tent', and 'bed' for 'sleeping mat'.

[Nik1hil]

nah!.. of at least bed should be more then 6 X 6 feets

[FashGordon]

I wouldn't do it if she's not my girl then I don't need to be in bed with her.

[AlwaysBelieving]

I did it once in college when the room reservations got screwed up.

[Quintessence]

How did that turn out?

[AlwaysBelieving]

It turned out fine.

[LegateLanius]

I don't know. I've slept alone for so long that it will get hard to be used to.

[Saurav11]

It's complitly ok with me. I don't mind. An it's not weird at all.

[DanOh2017]

Horrible idea... That's what pull out sofas and guest bedrooms are for.

[AnandoRudra]

I don't think that. I could control my self. So I try see any where else on in ground of room...

[Jude_Wills]

I wouldn't mind if we are a friends for long time but I will not share my pillow 😂

[Billybob46]

If I had to, I would let her slept under the covers while I wouldn't.