I caught my boyfriend in bed with someone else?

[FashionistaChick]

Today I went to my boyfriend’s house because I haven’t heard from him since 3pm yesterday when he dropped me off home. He told me he was going to see his daughter who lives 2hrs away (which is normal on the weekends) we share locations with each other also. So a couple of hrs passed and I haven’t heard anything from him normally he’ll say baba I’m here to let me know he’s safe. Well I haven’t heard anything since then so this morning I called his phone & it kept going to voicemail. So I decided to go to his house and ask his mom (who stays with him since COVID) she opens the door for me and greets me happily as always. So I asked her have she heard from him and she panic and said what’s wrong, so I told her I’ve been trying to get in touch with him
& how he isn’t answering so well let’s see if he’s here. She yelled his name 3x, & no response I noticed the key on the couch & I started to walk up the steps the tv is as loud as can be when I walked in his room he was laying in bed with a girl (he told me NOT to worry about) I snatched them covers off of them and said “really this what we doing”? I left out the room and slammed the door. As I was walking out his mom stopped me and asked was he there and I said yes in bed with another woman, he held her chest and tried to call for as I was walking out of the front door. I stopped sharing my location with him but he’s still sharing his & when I just looked it shows he’s now driving to see his daughter. Im all cried out, I’m hurt, I feel disrespected, and I just don’t know how to process things, prior to this happening he cooked me a nice dinner, we took a long walk, he brought me flowers, he tells me that he’s in love with me and never loved someone the way he loves me. His mom always asks him in front of me when is he going to marry me, and he always says soon. He met my parents, grandmother sister, & my niece is like why would he do this to me? Why not just break up

[meetkitty123]

Real sorry that happened to you I can hear and almost feel your pain through your words.
I wish I had words to console you.
The worst feeling in the world when you have a loved one who fails you.

The worst part is he didn't even seem apologetic. At least from what you've written doesn't even look like he showed any emotion that he cared that he clearly hurt you for me that would be the hardest part.
I usually just tell people to hang in there and move on but your story is so intense sounds superficial to say that to you.

I personally don't believe I could reunite with such a person who did that to me.
Closest I've come to something like this with high school. And I found out my so-called best friend was sleeping with my boyfriend I had since beginning of middle School because I wouldn't take that next step and he found it somewhere else.

Then again as an adult one of my most painful moments of having my heart broken was when a fiance of mine that I've been with for three years the only father my daughter knew and the father to my newborn punched my toddler in the tummy he lost his temper he was never like that before he just snapped. That ended our relationship the betrayal I felt was nothing I could compare it to. I went through a three years time frame of just wallowing in sorrow and angry at all men. But his betrayal did lead me into meeting my current man and we're happy together been happy romantically 6 years and we've known each other a total of 9 years.

Perhaps during a time like this you should keep a little journal this way your thoughts aren't driving you mad and you have an outlet.
Hope you don't mind by follow you this way if I see you post anything where you need further opinions I'll see if I can offer anything.

Once more I'm really sorry that happened to you.

[FashionistaChick]

I’m distraught, the worst part about it we just had an amazing time together and then this? Like why not just break up with me instead of hurting me

[meetkitty123]

He did something beyond stupid he did something selfish. not only selfish to you but selfish to everyone who was involved but that's not on you you can't feel bad for the other people who got hurt you can only do your feelings you can't think about anyone else's right now you don't want to get stuck in a relationship based on his family members or even your own family members who might like him I did that mistake one time I stayed for a man's children I put up with hell you won't be happy if you do that whatever you decide to do has to be based on what is best for you.
and like I said I still don't even understand how he could done something like that and then not show any emotion whatsoever towards the fact that he hurt you that right there to me is absolutely more unforgivable than the act of cheating itself. disregarding your feelings and ignoring your reaction acting as if what he was doing was completely normal and acceptable he didn't go after you and he hasn't called you that's really not good character it doesn't sound like kind of person you want to have in your life or at least I wouldn't want to have in my life.
some men who are people better said and I don't want to be sexist just think they could have both it's probably why he didn't break up with you why give up a good thing if he could try to have both it's greedy that's what it is.

[FashionistaChick]

He just stopped sharing his location then started sharing it again and said “just be good baby girl” like wtf is wrong with him. I don’t have it in me to cry anymore I’m done he’s definitely shown his true self

[meetkitty123]

I would see if there's a way to block his sharing location messages and he's acting like an idiot
What the hell does "just be good baby girl" means
He sounds full of himself

[Yanifah]

I'm sorry to say this, but that's not likely the first time. Just the first time you caught him. I've been in your shoes and I know that agony. I wouldn't wish it on my mortal enemy.

I don't know if you would want to try to forgive him and repair the relationship, but I do know you'll never completely trust him again, so the relationship is likely doomed. You deserve better.

Break ups are never easy, but COVID break ups are another level of hell. About two months ago, I went through a very sudden, expected one. I was left in my apartment 24/7, no where else to go, and alone with my thoughts. But time passed, seemingly at a snail's pace, and I'm doing ok now. It'll be the same for you, and I'd bear your pain if could. In the end, you'll be better off.

[RemoErdosain]

I'm sorry to hear this happened to you. I don't know if this will help at all, but it's way more common than you think. As for his words and gestures, anybody can do that. Cheaters are liars. I find it worse when on top of cheating they treat you like shit for no reason. At least in your case the cheating was the only thing that was off

[FashionistaChick]

Yes it’s common but I’ve always expressed to him that if he feels that urge to do so just leave me alone

[RemoErdosain]

Yeah, you can tell that to a cheater and they will cheat anyway

[RemoErdosain]

It's not like they're honest to begin with

[JustTheTrue]

He is dumb and stupid. It is rare for a guy with a kid to find a partner and he just act this way? That’s dumb and stupid.

[FashionistaChick]

He introduce me to his daughter and he’s daughters mother and they always ask about me

[lovelyrose12]

I am sorry this happens to you. you will find someone batter

[FashionistaChick]

Thank you

[lovelyrose12]

Your welcome

[Liam_Hayden]

My advice to those whose SO has been verified as a cheater is to dump the other person. The cheater will almost always do it again and again, so unless you are okay with that it is better to leave and find someone worthy of you attention and affections.

[worldscolide]

because people are stupid.. they think they can get away with it.. or think they won't get caught.. People who cheat are not worthy of relationships. They are best ignored.. Men and women both by the way..

[JPrez]

Dude is a low life. Sorry this happened to you. Keep your chin up and move on. You will find someone to treat you right.

[spartan55]

Who cares why? How about he is a piece of shit cheater? Hopefully you have the sense to dump him.

[_DARKNESS_]

Don’t stay with him - leave him ASAP

[OddBeMe]

He wants both of you.

[Sevenpointfive]

was it his ex?

[FashionistaChick]

Someone be “dated” briefly they were fuck buddies

[Sevenpointfive]

i say he can have her. that's a jerk move