I learned many years ago that we don't own anything in life we only have possession of it until someone else takes possession of it... if it's material things like money or car someone can come up and steal it they've taken possession of it you didn't own it if it's a person then that person can be taken by another person or that person can be taken by job halfway around the world or God forbid they could be taken by death we don't own anybody or anything we only have them until they're gone so enjoy that person while you have them because you don't know what tomorrow will bring tomorrow could bring you a child or it could leave you alone tomorrow could bring you a million dollars or it could leave you penniless tomorrow could bring you God or the devil if you truly love someone and you find them cheating on you that doesn't mean that person doesn't love you it just means that there's something missing from your relationship with them it could be love or it could be sex they could need more sex than what you're giving them whatever it is it would be senseless to just leave them without a word without talking and finding out what the problem is because basically sex is fun, it's adult fun and if you only give your partner 5 minutes of fun a month then they're probably going to look for more fun from someone else as I said that does not mean they don't love you sex doesn't mean anything of course it could mean that they don't love you and they're just staying with you for a place to stay or for your money or whatever but you owe it to yourself to find out what the problem is maybe you can fix it if you can fix it wouldn't it be worth holding on to... Love
Good philosophy. We don't have control over money, status, body, or another person. Only thing we have control over is our reason faculty, our ability to think.
I worked for Texaco as a sales clerk years ago. We had to get one day of training. The trainer was this old redneck lady who had this hilarious sense of humor. But she talked about hiring people with criminal backgrounds.
She once hired a guy who was on parole for aggravated homicide. Turns out his wife was brazenly cheating on him and he one day came home and found her in bed w/ the other guy. He killed the guy in a fit of rage but didn’t harm her. He plead guilty to homicide. Not sure how long he got out away but it was at least 10 years.
Anyway the trainer swore there was bylaw about catching someone in the act of adultery where the cheated person can get off Scott free if they kill BOTH people. Seemed far fetched (maybe it’s true in a southern state) and I’m sure most of the time you fate would be the shawshank redemption.
But really having my wife cheat on me in our own fucking house... and walking in on it. I seriously don’t blame some people for exacting revenge in the heat of the moment. You really have to be a disrespectful POS to do that to your spouse. It wasn’t a one time heat of the moment sin. If your banging someone other than your spouse in house he or she lives in (and pays for) that would be enough to drive anyone insane.
@On_cloud_wine I would like to think. But I have a hard time believing in 2021 you can get away with double homicide even if it was aggravated and the heat of the moment.
The only justifiable homicide cases I’ve heard of recently is when a pedophile was caught in the act which is completely fine with me.
This actually happened to me many years ago. I walked in my home, heard her moaning, and heard a mans voice too. i quietly approached my room, saw her riding a black man. They did not see me. I went to my office. Got my 50 caliber desert eagle. Made sure it was NOT loaded, walked back to the room. Pulled my gun, Pointed it at them and advised them that if they valued their lives they would leave right now. They barely had time to pick up their clothing and run out of my home. She told me i was an asshole, that it was my fault what she was doing. Suffice it to say i am happy i got rid of the whore.
Smart move in keeping it unloaded, being angry makes you do stupid things. I probably would have handled it much worse (I can forgive a lot but disloyalty is one of the rare things I couldn't forgive (hell if a woman tried to kill me I would be much more forgiving, at least they where upfront about their feelings)).
This happened to three people I knew, short version. Guy A and girl A was married and guy B was married to girl B. Guy B and girl A was fooling around with each other and people knew but keep it quiet. One day guy B drove his company’s van to guy A and girl A house for a little fun (they were in the middle of it) and who should come home yep guy A. What happened next was unbelievable, because girl A heard her husband, so she did what she was good at lie. She screamed something like I told you to get off of me you are raping me. Guy A opens the bedroom door yells at guy B. Cops are called Guy A comforts his wife. Girl A saves face plus she works at a DA office. Guy B gets 5 years. Girl B divorces guy B A few years latter it is proven girl A lied. Guy B gets out but is talked about. Guy A divorces girl A.
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I've thought this through in my head a fair bit, probably more than is healthy.
It would initially depend on if they were aware of my presence. If so then just confront them.
If not then I'd try to sneakily take a picture of them in the act. Take the dog, go to my parents. Then message her saying "I think we should see other people" and when she asks why just send the picture and say "seems one of us already is"
I'm not sure my partner is capable of cheating but she'd have trouble if she did as all the bills, rent etc is all in her name. I could quite easily drop it all and move on if she cheated.
I'd ask the other person to leave then I'd ask her to get dressed and come down stairs. When she did, I would sit her down and ask her, do you love him? If she said yes, I'd ask do you love me? If she said yes, who do you love more? Basically trying to ask questions to figure out the next step. That is my mental game plan anyway 😅
I would say to both: Oh my bad, I'm sorry to have interrupted you guys. I was looking for my keys. Continue in what you were doing. Say to the girl: Take good care of him now. He's all yours. He's not my problem anymore. Then lastly say: Bye guys.
I would then proceed with making him my ex boyfriend that day, blocked him off my contact list and find someone else.
If it were my bed, tell them to get off of it and for the guy to give me some cash for new sheets (not gonna even wash those). As for the girl, break up and then have them both gone from my life.
Also, @Unit1 made a good point about it technically being a home invasion, if she invited someone into my home without my consent.
To him I would tell "You could have just told me but seeing as things are now she is all yours. By the way - she has syphilis, so I hope you used protection."
And that's it. I'm heading home. If that place is my home, then they have 5 minutes to get out before the authorities come and force them out and charge them with home invasion.
If it’s mine I’d tell them to leave without any exceptions. If they refused I call the police. If it’s her bed I’d just leave.
The relationship would be over. No exceptions. No I’m not fighting, listening for an explanation, etc. I don’t do cheating. It’s not worth me going to jail or my self respect. It’s over. I’d mail her her things and change my locks. Then it’s on to the next one.
Seeing for myself would be the absolute worse!!! Once I found out after the fact. I was hitting everything that moved! So in person I just might go to prison. Emotions get the best of me and when I’m pissed I get extremely overwhelmed. It’s so bad that I’m crying and swearing and fighting. The way my mind works I’m picking up the nearest thing in sight and whoever is the slowest is in trouble. I kicked a girl down a flight of stairs once. There’s no telling😂
If my emotions get the best of me at that split second, I might beat the bloody breaks off of both of them.
I'm just being honest here.
If my emotions don't get the best of me then I'm just going to leave and cut off all means of communication of her.
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If they are cheating in my bed I would calmly (anyone that knows me would know that if I am being very calm about something like this it is worse than me raging) tell them they have 5 minuets to leave the property, it is not worth me loosing it and decking someone like AP. Any where else, calmly leave the building. Immediate blocking of all avenues of SO contacting you (change phone & email, block them on all social media. If SO was living with you (a flat/house you rent/ own) and you have been paying all the bills, change all the locks, pack up their possessions (taking care not to damage anything even though you want to rip everything to shreds) leave them under shelter outside the use a one time email telling them to come and collect their stuff and where it is. Then go ghost with the exception of immediate family and work. She is no longer a part of your life.
If it's her place, I just leave and never come back. If It's my place, I tell them to both get the f*** out. If it's our place, I tell the dude or chick doing my girlfriend to get out before I beat his/her ass, if he/she leaves, I'd probably just sit down somewhere and wait for my girlfriend to speak to me, listen to what she has to say and then leave and take a drive. Safe to say things would be over.
She would, immediately, be an ex-girlfriend. Just as I closed the door to leave, I'd tell the guy to get to the clinic as she has a virulent STD that I had cured just before it caused permanent damage. This means I got a couple of free fucks: one with her reputation and one with his mind... hee hee hee !
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