What would be your reaction if you caught your girlfriend with another man in bed?

[jennette465]

[Andres77]

I caught my first wife two times.
I was dropped off a block away by a friend. Walking to my house to surprise my wife because we finished training early, I noticed extra cars in the driveway.
I snuck around back, looked in our bedroom window. Totally broke my heart.
I didn't respond as I should have.
So when the same thing happened the next week there was another car in the driveway.
I didn't respond well that time either.
She never knew I saw her.
I was too shocked and weak and embarrassed to confront her.
Eventual divorce.
She called me after the divorce while she was having sex with another guy to rub it in my face.
I didn't respond how she wanted me to. Funny.
2nd wife, no infidelity, just crazy.
3rd wife. We had an agreement during our engagement. During the marriage she's been faithful.
If I were to come home and find her in bed with a guy (as long as the kids were out of the house) I'd probably join in. We've talked about it a lot. She hasn't done anything since the hour we married.
Bottom line: I don't own her. She does what she wants. It just so happens that she chooses me every day. I've tested her before and she passed every time. No worries. So my trust grew. She's so upfront with me about everything she does every day that I'm no longer worried.
If she was with another guy I'd certainly want an explanation but I wouldn't stop them... unless it was to say "wait for me!". Get the explanation afterwards.
She had a few mfm threesomes in college.
We've had a few FMF threesomes with her girlfriend at her request.
I figure that it's time to pay her back.
So if I found her with another guy I'd initially assume she was taking advantage of the fact that I agreed to a future mfm threesome and that I'd be welcome to join in.
If I wasn't... I'd still wait but I'd watch to the end and see him out the door and then we'd talk.

This revenge thing. A couple is two adults. The idea that one is going to punish the other or get revenge I think is totally bullshit.
If you don't like it then end the relationship.
Punishing another adult is not appropriate.

If you want details of how I reacted with catching my first wife then DM me.

I hope you're not dealing with the end of a relationship.
Good luck.

[Lucifer_01]

I don't wanna say anything but... I know you are the real hero man... I respect you... you are strong person I have ever meet... I RESPECT YOU.

[Andres77]

@Lucifer_01
Well, I wouldn't say that.
I said I didn't respond well. I didn't say how foolishly I responded or how weak I was back then.
Thanks for the kind words though.

[MrOracle]

My house is secured with cameras and electronic locks (card-keys), so it would be very unlikely for her to bring a guy to my place. Thus, I presume this happened at her place or some other place I happened to be at.

I would probably take some pictures and video of them for evidence, then I would change her access to my house from "girlfriend" (24/7 access to the main house, but not master bedroom or office) to "prohibited". This would alert me anytime she tried to use her key card or if the cameras recognized her face.

Then I would box up any of her stuff and set it out for her to pick up. Finally, I'd text her to come get her stuff, and attach a picture of it setting outside, and a Pic of her and the guy together. Last, I would block her number and email.

I do far too much to tolerate disloyalty.

[Bricealan]

Reality bites. I did. Went to her apartment one Monday morning before work. (Her car, that my dad and I had worked on all day Sunday, was not in her parking space, and I could not understand why, as that week was the start of her vacation)

I tried her apartment door, which was unlocked, and VERY unusual for her to NOT lock her door to her place. In her living room, there she stood, naked, lighting a cigarette. (Her smoking pissed me off) and she immediately grabbed up a pillow from the couch, to cover her pussy. (Really stupid, - I have not seen you naked before?) She rushed me out, and I went to work really upset.

Went to her place after work, and like a moron, I broke a dish or something on her coffee table, and REALLY felt stupid. Could not get the vision of that guy on top or however he was fucking her, out of my mind.

Even more stupid, I helped her move to a new place... and she paid for the new tires I put on her Mustang, and the repairs my dad and I had made on the car.

Never saw or heard from her again.

I suspected that she had been fucking other men all along, but ignored it.

[oldawg]

My very first reaction would be hurt and disappointed by what I am seeing and to hold back the tears I would see red then I would explode into a person who I don't like to become because when I get like that all right there is no control nothing hurts me nothing can stop me the guy would end up in the hospital she would be out on her ass I wouldn't touch her but she would get an earful. Yes it has happened to me. I'm old school and a biker since I was 18 and I hung out with a violent crowd where violence is a way of life. But that was different I was in control because violence is part of the game. To any guy a piece of tail isn't worth a friendship good friends are hard to come by, but women are a dime a dozen

[justlookin69]

In my house, in my bed….. ummmmm, someone (s) going to be on a milk carton for the disrespect. But I could neither confirm nor deny that situation from ever happening 😈



Real talk…. I’d definitely be pissed at the now determined future ex-gf. Depending on the guy if he knew about me or not, would depend if he’d receive a fatality attack vs a brutality attack. If he knew nothing of me, then no ass whooping or lead shower for him. If he’s a “supposedly” best friend… then it’s Mortal Kombat.


As for her, the girlfriend, then it would be class action wrath all the way to the 9th gates of hell for her.


I wouldn't tolerate that shit nor forgive it.

[TommyMountainFigure]

I have. right around the time of my 18th Birthday. I was crushed. I'd never been hurt like that before, or since for that matter.
How did I react. I was too numb in shock to do much at all. because she was at it with my then best friend and it was deliberately set up too.
I just walked out heartbroken. I never let either of them see how hurt I was. I wished him dead at the time.
I found out about 10 years ago from her brother who i still talk to that he died of something or other.

[Mofunfour20]

"Have fun guys, dont mind the noise. Ill just be loading up my truck"

If she's not interested in me then why waste time trying to talk her back into the relationship. To say anything else would be emotionally chaotic. If she doesn't care about respecting me then Im gone. Why do girls test guys like this, im not begging for her allegiance. Id just cancel the lease like last time and move on.

Even women describe themselves as a series of holes
-Patrice O'Neal

[DannyUk2017]

I would stabb them both to death! Like i've seen in a cctv video... damn so satisfying to see them both blead to their "love affair"... i mean simple things comes to simple people... Don't want me nomore then we part ways, but you're getting like glue for my financial security, but you give Love, Pussy, Ass, Mouth to another guy just for 5 min pleasure?, Hell No!

[humpbackjack]

If I caught them in my bed dude better run. I’d like to say I’d just tell him to get out and then tell her we’re done but if they’re doing the deed in my pad it would piss me off. If I caught them somewhere else then I’d just tell him she’s yours now and tell her all she had to do was be honest and I would do my own thing also but her way destroys all trust and now that our kids are grown we’re done and I’d bounce out

[Pj1981]

If I really loved her I would sneak up behind them and blow his brains all over her face. I figure it would at least make her think twice with the next guy. If I don't really care about her I would only hit him with a brick just for the disrespect of fucking in my bed then I would send them on their way.

[Luopio27]

Cheating on its own is like a kick in the balls, and doing it in your own home is like a knee to the face followed by a knife in the back, with a twist and turn.


That is not just cheating, its emotional abuse by people who lack self respect, honor, dignity or humanity.


I would cry, and get ready to call her parents the next day to inform them how they failed in raising her up. I would do the same for his parents.

[TwistedSukuna]

As someone with crippling social anxiety and shit self esteem. Even I would just straight up leave her. I may not think much of myself but I've never done anything to deserve being cheated on like that.