Need real help and advice. My fiancée and I got in a huge fight and haven’t heard from him since?

[Anonymous]

Me and my ex fiancée got in a fight last week because I went on his camera app and looked at his past videos. I saw him in the video talking bad things about me so I confronted him in a calm manner and acknowledged I shouldn’t have gone through his camera recordings. But also what he was saying about me was terrible. He hung up and broke off our engagement. I haven’t heard from him in 10 days. What is he thinking and is there possibility he will reach out and when?

[TommyMountainFigure]

Firstly, bear in mind you caught him bang to rights badmouthing you. He's angry that you caught him out, and he doesn't sound like the sort to apologise! So let me ask you something... What was you expecting would happen

[Asker]

We’ll he also kicked me out of our new home… I just don’t understand his reaction when I’m the one that saw such thing.. I know going through his stuff is wrong but.. I don't know. Of course I want him to apologize one day.

[TommyMountainFigure]

When you catch people out there are two ways they can react.. 1 is to accept their failings with dignity, and simply apologise and accept their fate.. OR do what he did and lash out because he doesn't like being made to feel wrong.. (People like that have no problem doing wrong, just they don't want to be shown up for it)
This will sound callous and I'm sorry for it.. but he did you a favour. You deserve better than that!

[Asker]

Do you think he will reach out ever again? He was my future husband and best friend. At least to me he was.. I wish it didn’t have to end like that. I haven’t contacted him since he kicked me out.

[TommyMountainFigure]

I honestly don't know.. but if you ask me? I think you are better off spending week on your own. Then after it has sunk in what he did? THEN decide if you'll even take him back. I don't think you should.. Respect is very important on my list when it comes to relationships..

[Guy13]

Sometimes it is what it is and wasn’t supposed to be…. What does one do.

[Gent207]

Sounds like you dodged a bullet

[On_cloud_wine]

Your new account is male this time fyi.

[Gent207]

What?

[On_cloud_wine]

@Gent207 she’s posted this under another anonymous account as a female

[Gent207]

@On_cloud_wine why does she keep asking the same question?

[On_cloud_wine]

@Gent207 I suppose people do it because they can only ask so many questions per day when you’re especially quite new, and she didn’t get enough responses or any at all or perhaps ones she liked, and sometimes people don’t go back to review older ones.

[Gent207]

@On_cloud_wine
Sounds tediously desperate and boring. But of course what the hell am I doing here but killing time

[On_cloud_wine]

@Gent207 well it’s important to her and obviously bothering her enough. Sometimes this community can be quite helpful.

[Gent207]

@On_cloud_wine True about the community being helpful. Is she not just simply afraid that what her ex said is true and she's looking got that validation?
Which evening what he said contained a grain of truth he should've kept it to himself and addressed the issues with her in private.
Sounds like she dodged a bullet

[On_cloud_wine]

@Gent207 yo. I never answered her question. Take that up with her. The question is too boring g for me.

[In_Trance]

Reach out one more time and see what happens

[Asker]

No way. Not after how he treated me.