Tell me about "the one that got away"?

[Autember]

Why did the relationship end? How long has it been and do you still think of them often? Do you feel that you have moved on properly?

[Anonymous]

I was a Sophomore in HS and he was a senior. We became best friends rather quickly, which soon turned in to much more than that but he outright refused to date me because he was leaving for the Navy after he graduated. We spent the next 7 years talking every single day from sun up til sun down. We were there for each other through absolutely everything and after he got out of the Navy, we saw each other quite frequently but he still didn't want to settle down with me. I think he was afraid of it ruining the friendship we had built, as it was at that point that we were the best of friends. But he told me he loved me all the time. Constantly told me that I was the only one who actually understood him. He defended me as if his life truly depended on it and he never would have left anyone disrespect me. Everyone kind of knew that we "belonged" to each other, if you will. But the last time that I saw him in the summer of 2018 I knew I couldn't go on any longer without a title. Without something that had a deeper meaning. So I went to his house, where he introduced me to a bunch of people as "his girl". He spent the whole night with his arms wrapped around me Infront of 30 or so people for the big McGregor fight. I told him at this point that I needed more than this; something serious. And he backed himself against a wall and said he couldn't. So I ended it and it destroyed me. But six months later I met someone new who quickly became the highlight of my life. This man fit my life perfectly. Same interests in music, same background, same upbringing, and even some of the same trauma from childhood. I fell for him so much quicker than I ever thought imaginable. We have been together for 4 1/2 years now and we are getting married soon. The guy I wasted so many years on still gets a hold of me from time to time and recently admitted that he "fucked up", that he was sorry and that he would do anything to take it all back and just be with me because he now realizes that I was always what he wanted and that I am still the only person who ever made the effort to get to know and understand the real him. I will always have love for that man and I will never regret all of those years I spent beside him because he built me in to the person I am today. Sure, I have thought of the "what if", you know? But looking at my fiance and the life we have built together and seeing how absolutely perfect he compliments my life, I don't have a shred of longing to be with my ex. Not even a little.

[Gagname]

Hi, I’m so happy how things turned out for you!

That other guys sounds great, but he just wasn’t/isn’t right for you, and you were very right to “put his back up against a wall” about wanting something more from him concerning you the two of you..

[EricWeston]

I was in a 15 year long relationship, so its taken me like 6 years to analyze it and figure out that being with her was good in some ways, and horrible in others. I regret that I didn't know enough at the time to truly enjoy everything about living with a woman, but I also know enough now to realize that she isn't a great person, and she's actually kind of scary and vindictive. I'm getting to where I'm satisfied with idea of never seeing her again.

[Wise4myage]

It happened a few weeks ago. It was a really nice Small Mouth Bass. 🤣

[EaterPeter]

Don't think often, have moved on properly.

[tbradley]

Omg I've had a few too many to say