Do you consider/take actions on leaving your SO If they arnt providing what you need out of a relationship?

[Anonymous]

I'm curious to ask who stays while unhappy too?

How common is it. Do you become happy eventually.

Not considering being a cheater or abusive physically and mentally as well

[itsalyssaagain]

I think for me I’m the type to give relationships my all. Like I’ll try and try and stick around and compromise and love with all my heart. But it’s hard when you see people around you getting the little things, and your partner isn’t attentive to you at all. It’s really hurtful and then that manifests into heartbreak. And then I get to a point where I just can’t take it anymore. That’s when I know it’s over.

[Asker]

I'm at my breaking point right now... is wanting flowers and dates too much to ask for? Even tho he does pay for Bill's

[Asker]

Most Bill's. He helps out.

[itsalyssaagain]

I think generally speaking men don’t see how important and flowers and dates are as we women do. But that doesn’t mean that they shouldn’t beware of how much it means to us and they shouldn’t try to
make us happy. Have you tried telling him how much flowers and dates mean to you?

[Asker]

Yes... i used to tell him like all the time. He only does it when I bring it up to him or if he feels guilty when I buy my own flowers lol I'd just like to be surprised once in a while ☹

[Asker]

That's why I feel he's not that into me... and I've told him that too

[itsalyssaagain]

I don't think him not buying you flowers means he's not into you. Men express their love in different ways. I guess my best advice would be to either accept him for the way he is or find someone else. I know it sucks but part of loving someone is loving them for who they are, and with long lasting relationships there has to be compromise. As long as there's trust and respect to the foundation of the relationship, you gotta compromise and work hard to make it last.

[Keepitreal007]

My spouse isn’t fulfilling my sexual needs at all. It’s been a constant fight for 26 years. I’ve thought about all scenarios and who knows about future but it’s really hard. To have a spouse not care is the worst feeling. Is the grass greener on the other side?

[Asker]

What sexual needs do you have?

[Keepitreal007]

Have sex a few times a week. Have oral sex a few times a week. Play with toys. Have anal once in a while. Wear sexy clothes on date night. Wear a thong at the beach.

[Guy13]

I will consider it, however, I would be the one providing the economic resources. I think we all have tough times in relationships SO I would try to hang in there. Are you tied to your man's wallet or do you have your own income?

[Asker]

He makes pretty good money.
And helps with Bill's if I need help. I make my own money. I just would love to get $6 flowers every once in a while... like what's going on. He doesn't like me like me? Only dates when I initiate. There's NO effort on his end. I'm pretty fed up

[Guy13]

Yep, it is hard to find a guy that understand what picked and/or purchased flowers can do...

[Avicenna]

Yeah, and that's totally normal