NOT A LESBIAN ANYMORE?

[Pamlove69]

Not a lesbian anymore

About four years into our marriage my wife was a bit inebriated one evening and she went on to tell me that she was mostly lesbian back in her younger days. She swears up and down she has no more sexual feelings for women. I’ve come to notice that she definitely stares down and checks out women much more than men and frequently comments about how beautiful they are. After what she told me about that time in her life which Lasted over 10 years I think she did more girls than I did. This a second marriage for the both of us. My feelings for her don’t change at all because of this. I love her to death but I am curious about other peoples opinion whether or not she’s being fully genuine with me. Is it possible to just shutdown sexual desire that completely? Please tell me your opinions

[Lowiu]

So Im heteroflexible/bi and even though Im attracted to women too I would never cheat on my boyfriend wether with a woman or a man. It might be that she does still feel attraction to women but that doesn't mean she wants to cheat on you or anything like that.

[LooneySins]

I agree, I am not sure what sexual orientation has to do with it.

[Anonymous]

First of all, I would have personally avoided getting married to someone that fooled around with anyone of the same sex. It's one of the things I would ask about before committing. I admit it's an arbitrary rule, but one I prefer to live by. I have my reasons.

I don't know how long you've known her, but if you're having this level of trust issues while *in a marriage,* then you're going to be a major factor in how the marriage crumbles. You already said your vows, so you're going to have to trust her.

[Opinion Owner]

You've been married for 4 years... I don't know how I missed that. :(
Sorry.

[humanearth]

I think she is lying to herself. She still likes girls

I believe its something your born with. You just can't turn it off

Some day when you have time. Look up the differences is straight and gay brains. (Please don't use Google, Goolgle filters the results)

Duck Duck Go or Start Page are two of the better search engines

[dustybiker]

If I was you I would trust what she says. People are allowed to change their feelings. As long as she’s faithful to you. You have to give trust to receive it. She’s with you now.

[ProVox]

Trust is trust and cheating is cheating; doesn't matter the gender.

[Iron_Man]

Talk to her about it have her tell you the truth 100% was it just she was bicurious or did she actually do things with other women in person

[LooneySins]

I am unsure how her sexual orientation has anything to do with staying faithful?