What’s worse after a ex dumps you: having them hate you or treating you with cold indifference like you don’t even exist?

[Anonymous]

I’ve had both of them happen to me in my life.

Honestly I found the callous indifference much more horrible and long lasting. It felt like I was not only (understandably) cut off from the future but any memory she had of our time together was disavowed as well. No matter if the memory was positive or negative.

I understood why she wanted to break up (I acted immature and douchey at the time). However it is the feeling of being treated like I was less than human despite the fact I didn’t do anything fundamentally wrong e. g. cheating, abuse, etc.

Having them hate you

Having them treat you like you don’t even exist

[Guy13]

Cold indifference. I rather them hate me and stay far away from me so that I do not have to feel their Vibe in my presence. Intermingling among same crowd would be horrible !!

[Asker]

Anger is just love corrupted in these scenarios. But at least you know a part of them is still thinking about you which at least makes you feel relevant.

I can see someone choosing to disavow a cheating or worse a (real) physically/emotionally abusive partner the toxicity. But to have someone treat you like this when you may have been wrong (and I was on a lot of things) but not abusive is different.

Anyway I likely come off sounding like an oversensitive p*say above. But that shit haunted me for a very long time. Took me 7 years to finally (truly) get over it.

[Guy13]

People are so different. The cold indifference is fine. The intermingling and gracious wench... who is all up in your life because of life demands and career is HELL. Drop dead and disappear A-Hole is so much easier for me than seeing every quarter or every other quarter. It all takes time. Glad to her you have jumped that hurdle...

[Anonymous]

I dumped him and he feels both.

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks to Gag. x

[On_cloud_wine]

Ugh.

[Anonymous]

They are both equal.