How can I unlove someone 🙁?

[Anonymous]

I'm in love with a guy friend. I thought he felt the same way , but he doesn't. Since telling him how I feel, he's distanced himself. I miss his friendship so much. How can I unlove him?😧🙁

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[Being_a_good_Indian]

Maybe you just went through a bad breakup or perhaps you're in love with someone who doesn't love you back. These experiences can be painful and you might be wondering how to move past them and be happy again. You can stop loving someone by creating distance, coping with your sadness, and moving forward with your life.

[Asker]

I just don't know how to cope with my sadness. No matter where I am, I want to cry. At work, the pain overwhelms me so much that I have to go to the restroom to cry. Whe I'm out shopping have to hurry back to my car and cry

[Being_a_good_Indian]

After a breakup, it takes about six weeks to stop crying. If you're still crying over a breakup and it's been a couple years, that's OK, too. It's also important to allow yourself the time and the space to cry. Believe it or not, crying provides a release that actually will improve your mood and help you feel better in the long run.

[Asker]

Thank you very much. I appreciate your time and advice. It's very helpful

[Anonymous]

You are physically distanced from him, yes?
Distance your mind from him now.

[Asker]

I try not to think about him, it I don't know how to stop.

[Opinion Owner]

There is a saying: You don't fight the devil but instead turn toward god.
What that means is, you don't have to stop thinking about him, you just have to think about something else. That is the trick. Thinking about something else is how you stop.
For most people their environment or what they see tends to create a corresponding image in the mind.
When I was love-sick their was a game and that game was the only thing that commanded my attention. It saved me from doing some stupid stuff and the pain I was feeling.
You have to get lost in something else. Real or imagined.
The only other way that has worked for me was to do something crazy in which ensured that person would never love me. Instantly my feelings went away.

[Asker]

Thank you so much. I appreciate it. . That makes total sense. . That's helped me a lot. Thanks again

[Anonymous]

you can't. you have to give it time. eventually he'll be just a friend or a distant memory.

[MountAverage]

By cutting him out of your life entirely for a longer period of time.

[jillybeanns]

What did he do to make you think he felt the same way?

[curlyfirecracker]

Time. Focus on you.

[LoveYourself24]

Time will heal everything

[Asker]

Do you think time can help you to unlove someone?

[LoveYourself24]

Definitely. Been in that situation before. But time went on, and the sad feelings went away with it

[Asker]

Thank you

[In_Trance]

Find someone else

[Asker]

I don't want anyone else

[In_Trance]

Then why would you want to unlove them?

[Asker]

Because it's too painful loving him 😔