How to forget your first love?

[Anonymous]

We were dating for a short time but broke up today cos my parents didn't allow me to continue with this relationship cos it would disrupt me with my studies.

Just checked a discord server that I, him and his friends are joined in and he sent a message about wanting to go to hooters that will be opening here soon.

And here I was crying my eyes out alone in silence.

...

I can't believe I ever liked him. He said he loved me, said it was something serious but at the end... He's just another hormonal teenager.

I hate myself for letting this happen, I really better off alone. I'm so fed up, disappointed, heartbroken right now... I wish I had never met him.

I accepted to be his girlfriend cos I genuinely liked him, but I guess he was only wanting to get into any girl's 'pants'

[SnowedIn]

It is possible you may not forget this first love but the pain will fade in time. One step and one day at a time. Do your studies. Pet the cat/dog/fish/whatever. Find the little things in life that make you happy: a fresh cup of coffee/tea, a cookie, a walk in the leaves, new pencils, whatever. And intentionally do those little things. A bunch of little things that make you feel good will add up. And know that it's okay to remember him and miss him but also don't wallow in it. Keep moving forward. Really sorry this happened to you -- it really sucks. I had the same thing happen when I was 13. She now lives in South Carolina.

[Asker]

Thanks, will try. Am feeling just so sad, I'm 17 by the way

[SnowedIn]

You are very welcome. Please try. It's hard. I know that, both from experience, and I have kids (though I've never asked them to do this) and I've loved and lost. It sucks. What I neglected to mention in my first post is that your feelings are valid. Love. Anger. Frustration. Sadness. Doubt. All of them are valid. Don't let anyone question your feelings but also don't let your feelings control you. You control your behavior and your response to those feelings.

Best wishes and feel free to reach out if you need to.

[SnowedIn]

Thank you for MHO!

[Guy13]

Never ever especially if a Virgin love.

[Asker]

Wdym?

[Asker]

There's no way of forgetting? That's it?

[Guy13]

I still remember my first love.

[Asker]

I don't want to remember mine... It's too painful tbh.
I don't know, I'm feeling weird

[Guy13]

See a counselor

[Asker]

Well, I think I'm not feeling that bad yet xD But yeah, maybe that's the best suggestion lol

[Anonymous]

Find yourself a new love interests to take your mind off the ex.

[panamared1]

Keep busy