If your partner cheats on you do you tell the other person?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been with my boyfriend for two years and just found out he’s been cheating on me and got into a relationship with another girl in the past month. I confronted him and he went off on me about it and asks me if I messaged her. So clearly she doesn’t know about me. He’s cheated on me before with his baby momma and I gave him another chance. I’m done with him now though. Do I tell her and save her from being hurt by him when he cheats on her again or do I just let it go?

[Anonymous]

It's understandable to feel hurt and betrayed in this situation. Whether or not to tell the other person your partner has been cheating with is a personal decision, and ultimately depends on your own values and priorities.

If you do choose to tell the other person, it's important to approach the situation with care and respect. Be honest and direct, but avoid being confrontational or angry. You can simply say something like, "I wanted to let you know that I was in a relationship with [your partner's name] and recently found out that he has been cheating on me with you. I thought you deserved to know."

Keep in mind that the other person may not react positively or may not believe you, and it's important to be prepared for that possibility. It's also important to be aware of any potential risks or consequences, such as retaliation from your partner or their friends and family.

Ultimately, the decision to tell the other person or not is up to you and depends on your own values and priorities. It's important to prioritize your own well-being and emotional health, and to make choices that align with your values and beliefs.

[Asker]

If I were her I’d want to know. I wouldn’t want to be with someone who is so willing to cheat. If he’s done it to me this many times he’s going to do it to her too

[Opinion Owner]

I know dats right. It's understandable that you would feel that way. If you believe that the other woman would want to know, and you have evidence of your boyfriend's infidelity, then it may be worth considering telling her in a respectful and compassionate manner.

However, it's important to approach the situation with care, as the other woman may be hurt and emotionally vulnerable. It's important to avoid blaming or attacking her, and to focus on providing information that can help her make informed decisions about her own relationship.

The decision to tell the other woman is a personal one that should be based on your own values and beliefs. It's important to prioritize your own emotional well-being and safety, and to take steps to protect yourself from further harm.

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[Red_Arrow]

Tell her. Show her the texts you had with him. Show her pictures of the two of you together. Whatever it takes for her to believe you.

[MysticAngel5000]

I would really want to know about this. I would not want to stay with someone like this. If he's been doing this despite having a girlfriend, he's likely to do the same to me and can't be trusted. I'd want to know so I could LEAVE.

You should tell her the truth. Tell her that you are his now EX girlfriend. Tell her you guys were together for 2 years and you just found out he has been cheating on you with her. She can choose to leave or stay. That's all on her. Definitely remove yourself from the situation and just be honest with her so she can decide for herself what she wants to do.

[Little_Bumblebee]

I would definitely tell the other person - with evidence.
Cause I would want someone to tell me if it was the other way around. Don't let cheaters get away with crappy behaviour.

[Asker]

I have evidence of me confronting him about it over text. We’ve been long distance for about two months right now

[Little_Bumblebee]

Just because if a stranger told you your boyfriend had been cheating, you wouldn't believe them and probably just get mad at that person.
But with proof you show it's not a lie

[SamA_nold]

Yes. I would. If they know and they choose to stay with that person, that’s on them, but at least you gave them an option

[Anonymous]

yes tell her. tell everyone actually. even tell his mom. everyone deserves to know what an asshole he is. DO. IT.

[Anonymous]

Why would you like to be the bitch? You stay silent!

[Akam93]

Fuck just leave his ass.

[Anonymous]

I would. They have a right to know.

[BarryLiverstone]

Just let it go

[BarryLiverstone]

Unless is she your friend and does she trust your advice? The challenge is if she isn’t your friend she’s more likely not to trust anything you have to say so just let it go