Would you tell your friend's partner if your friend is cheating on them?

[TadBehaya]

Yes, I would

No, not my problem

[OneViewpoint]

It depends. What are the circumstances?

• Is he just a horn dog who cheats constantly on a good woman? He's toast.
• Is he or she a good person trapped in a sexless marriage sticking around for the kids? No one will ever find out from me.
• Are they both cheating? Not my business to judge. Not getting involved.
• Is she hitting on me? Tough one. Do I end up being blamed? Probably.
• Does he or she have other problems I'm aware of like drugs or alcohol? I probably intervene.
• Etc., etc., etc.

I've run into this a lot more over time than I ever expected as a young guy. I was naive and honestly never gave it much thought. But I've had the wives of friends and business partners stick their foot in my crotch under a table at house parties. I've had married women hit on me and even get physical in front of their husbands. I've had a friend's girlfriend try to date me after a breakup. I've had a friend's girlfriend lean in during a conversation when he wasn't around. Women are every bit as bad as guys. Sometimes a small correction is enough to stop it. Sometimes the nuclear option is necessary. Sometimes ya just keep yer mouth shut and remove yourself from the situation. A lot of the time I just make it really tough for women to interact with me at all. They can be exhausting.

[Anonymous]

Yea, I would.

[DishLady]

Hmm. That's a tough one. If I know about it and the person asks me a direct question I have to admit that i won't LIE about it. It goes against who i am. HOWEVER if it's not a direct question I would ask several follow-up questions (like "what makes you say that? Hmm... I see...") and suggest they speak to their partner directly. I would then go have a heart to heart with my friend bc it's just NOT OK to make someone feel so lost.

[Genie23]

I would talk to my friend about it first and try to make them realise they are being unfair to their partner by breaking their partner's trust and how selfish is this and if they decide to still keep cheating and chose to not confess it to their partner... I would tell their partner and also distance myself from my friend. They'd most likely not be my friend.

[Finchie40]

Only if their partner questioned me about it , because I don’t lie and I will Make it clear to my friend that I won’t lie for them , so they are best to keep me the fuck out of it , I lost some friends’ through the years that expected me to lie for them without my consent , I told them the truth that I am not getting caught in the middle because I think what you are doing is pathetic , if you are that unhappy in your relationship than leave them , don’t string them along because you are a selfish POS person I think cheating is so wrong to do , if anyone can cheat on their partner that should be their answer to end that relationship immediately, not go back to their partner like nothing happened , Incan’t stand selfish people , so they would no longer be my friend if that’s their selfish mindset

[ShellyB]

I would really not want to, but depending how bad it was and my relationship with the person, I might feel like I had to.

[mstbooblover]

Very difficult to answer yes or no. Everything depends on the type of relation that friend has (open, exclusive, swingers, etc.). In any case my friend cheating on his partner is first of all their business, and how would I have known? Confidence? Catching them? There is also the plain fact that it is not wise to break the confidence of a friend.

Talking about it with that friend is an option. Another problem would have been how I felt about the partner. Also a friend most probably... As you see, very case sensitive, but in case of doubt, I'd leave it to them.

[luvstoned4him]

Nope because people are dumb and the next thing you know she and the boyfriend would gang up together to blame you for "almost" breaking them up. I dont need drama in my life.

I always believe that anything in the dark must come to light.

[DannyUk2017]

I used to... until i "became the black sheep/the snitch" since then i said to myself..."you know what, each for themselves", but again when you "don't say nothing at all" the problem switches to "you're not a good friend, you should've told me that he/she's up to No Good"... so either way, what i've learned is that... The Ignorance is a Bliss...🤦‍♂️🤷‍♂️

[emeraldsaphire]

Well yes and no. I'd confront my friend and give them a week to tell them. Maybe longer depending. I think if you are cheating you should come clean about it to your own partner. Otherwise you'll just end up hurting yourself and your partner.

[Orion84]

I would confront my friend about it, first, and urge them to both stop the affair, and come clean to their SO.

If they refused, then not only would I end the friendship, but I would then tell their partner, yes.

[Caroline91]

I don't honestly know if I would. It would really depend on the people and the circumstances. But I would walk away from the friendship either way.

[Luv2BRealExotic13]

Yes, I would. I told my friend that. I may not know or like your girlfriend but no one deserves to be cheated on. That’s compromising them if you’re unhappy with the relationship just leave.

[lilBigPotato]

I can tell my opinion to my friend, but I won't tell her partner unless I've been good friends with him too

[sarah549]

That makes sense

[HighValue]

I'd end the friendship if one of my friends cheated on their partner. People that stay friends with cheaters are condoning that kind of behavior and immorality.

[avery58]

I think I would stay out of it. Especially if they had a family. I'd just encourage my friend to be honest with them.

[Grond21]

I have before, to a friend from here. At first she was happy I did, then he manipulated her and she blamed me while giving him a second chance. A couple months later he cheated again, so she dropped him like a lead weight and was grateful again.

[FreyaRed]

No if there is no benefit for me. I don't like to put my fingers between the hammer and anvil.

[IAMRIA]

None of my business. Also I would never break my friends trust.

[Anonymous]

not my problem.

sorry, i know that may sound cold, but not my problem and i don't put myself in situations that i don't even need to be in.

[Paige90]

If their girlfriend or boyfriend was a close friend I would.

[SotiCoto]

Assuming "friend's partner" isn't also my friend, I wouldn't say anything. It ain't my business to fix the lives of people I don't care about.

[Drumlin2001]

I'd be speaking to my friend first, encouraging them to come clean

[LiamJHayden]

I'd talk to my friend about either stopping or breaking up with the partner, but would not report the friend.

[Danny_dan92]

Yep. Only way people stop being degenerates is when they get caught doing so

[Alex-Snow]

Yes I would to avoid things getting worse. Are you in this situation?

[Anonymous]

You have a lovely pair of tits, what bra size are you?

[loveslongnails]

I'd talk to my friend first. Beyond that, I'd mind my own damn business.

[jahaims]

I wouldn't be friends with a cheater and I would expose any cheater

[Wise4myage]

That would all depend on how close I was to that person.

[Anonymous]

Depends on what friend, some of them are not reliable.

[cavedweller1973]

Because I’d appreciate someone telling if I was being cheated on

[StephanieChick111]

No, hoes before bros.

[Kelly6]

@TadBehaya no, not my business

[Chazmatazz269]

Absolutely

[molonski2]

No.. it's absolutely none of my business to tell.

[soe11]

• Nothing to do with me.

[msc545]

no. I don't snitch on people.

[MasterKS]

Their personal life.

[itsannalee]

Not my problem

[NathanDavis]

Yes.

[zombiewoof]

Not my business

[Neliii1234]

Yesss

[Naomiii123]

Yes I would

[eagle1951]

yeah