If you saw a friend's partner cheating, would you tell your friend that they're being cheated on?

[Itsmeirem]

If you saw a friend's partner cheating, even yo are not very close, would you tell your friend that they're being cheated on?

[Finchie40]

Well a good friend is going to tell the truth no matter what , but a not so good friend isn’t , so it just depends on the friendship I have with that person , so in most cases yes, because the friends I have now are my close friends that I know I can trust and I know have my back the same way I have theirs so I will tell them the truth , but first I will make it clear to my friend , that I don’t want to be stuck in the middle of it whatsoever, so promise me you don’t throw me into it at all , no matter what you choose to do , after I tell you what I witnessed , and then I will tell them the truth , once I have their approval. Because if I was getting cheated on, I would want to know the truth as well So it’s always best to tell the truth , especially to a good friend that you know has your back as well. So If they want to take a cheater back into their life , that’s on them , and if they want to end our friendship over it , that’s on them as well , but I know my friends will not kick me to the curb , because they know I will bust their balls until they realize how dumb they are being by taking a cheater back into their life. eventually they will realize how stupid they were to take that cheater back in the first place , so I will just sit back and watch it unfold and bust their balls over it , because the way I look at it , if I lose a friend for being honest with them? then they weren’t a true friend to me to begin with. Understand a cheater is going to lie constantly to make themselves seem like they were a victim when really they are the POS. I have lost some friends’ from being honest , but then I realized they weren’t really a good friend to me because they chose to took back their cheating partner that blew constant smoke up their ass , to make it seem like I was the bad guy for opening my mouth and telling the truth in the first place. So I realized they weren’t really a good friend, if they chose to take back a cheating partner , but it’s their life and their choice , so I wish them well. And hope they can work things out between them and be happy , even if they decide to kick me to the curb. One thing I learned about friends’ through the years , is that friends’ come and go , but a good friend will not go anywhere , they will have your back the same way you have theirs , So if it isn’t a close friend , I would probably not say anything and make it not my business

[razelove]

I'd probably hint at something they should look into. If they aren't that close and I say their partner is cheating with nothing to back it up, we aren't talking again.

That's like best friend level where you can tell them that, you fight, then after everything is done and dusted you'll be talking again. With someone you're not that close to, even if they do discover the cheating, pride and shame will probably be too high of barriers to overcome for communication to be a thing after that.

It's also pretty likely that they'll blame you for finding out more than the partner for cheating in the short term, if not suspect that you're one of the people they cheated with.

[Kori1236]

A good friend would tell the truth no matter what. But I would be confirming first that their partner was indeed cheating. I would probably probe my friend about their relationship and if there’s been any changes, if they had company visiting etc… and if I knew there was someone interested in their partner I would probably go full fbi and learn about them and get evidence before bringing it up with said friend

[Gwendoline]

Yes I would if i knew for sure. We are friends. The people I knew that were cheated on always seem to say that everyone knew but them and they wish someone said.

[AI Opinion]

As a relationship coach here to guide you through love's rollercoaster, here's the scoop: It's tricky! Witnessing a friend's partner play the sneaky game is awkward city. Weigh the chaos that telling might bring versus their right to know. Trust your gut, love dove, and consider the friendship level. If you do spill the beans, tread softly. After all, love and friendships are fragile but worth every careful step. 💌🕵️‍♂️

[AviatorTom]

No, I would not. I may be misinterpreting what I'm seeing, and my friend's relationship is really none of my business. Telling them could make things worse than they actually are.

[TrueConfection]

See no evil, hear no evil!

[MasterKS]

@TrueConfection Spritual side of cheating! LOL!

[BadApple69]

I did once…. A long time ago. It didn’t end well for me lol.
My friend was cheating on his girlfriend. His girlfriend was my friend too. She came to me all upset that her boyfriend wasn’t right…. Something was wrong. We talked for awhile, and I told her. She was so grateful that I told her and she dumped my friend.
Long story short, she got back with him and they both stopped talking with me…. I guess I couldn’t be trusted with secrets or something. In any case, what people do isn’t my business and now I wouldn’t say a word no matter what.

[AydenHazor]

I would absolutely tell them. Likewise, if I saw a friend cheating on their partner I would tell their partner as well. I didn't abuse by cheating and appreciate my ex wife's friend telling me that my ex was cheating on me, and would do the same for anyone

[Aubrey97]

If I know anyone involved, I'm telling someone. My guy friend was hooking up with a woman who was engaged. I didn't know the guy she was engaged to but I found him and let him know before he decided to marry her.

[Nikki1989]

It depends on how close the friend is. If you're very close to your friend, they may appreciate your honesty. Otherwise, I would mind my own business.

[LiamJHayden]

My friend is getting cheated on? Yes, if I am certain. How do I know that the person he or she is hanging out with is not an old friend who is in town for a couple of days? Is she straddling him?

[Peridot25]

Cheaters need to be ratted out more. I don’t know why people get so upset when that happens. Like, why do y’all want to get away with cheating so bad? It makes no sense 😂😂

[Reymundo41]

Ok let me spin it back on you. Person A has cheated on Person B a lot and we all know it but Person B is still with Person A. You see Person B on tinder one day. Now do you tell Person A or not?

[Smashingdoozy]

Absolutely. We will plan the revenge together 😈

[ManInChains]

Absolutely. They deserve to know so that they can do something about it.

[MicahRaine]

I'd give their partner a chance to tell them, and if they don't then I would.

[DrPepper12]

I don't know and I wouldn't judge anybody for making the decision in either direction. Like all relationships... It's complicated.. .

[RowdyYates]

It makes you wonder how that saying came to be: "Don't shoot the messenger."

[SmileyLady]

No way! They’d find a way to blame me for it.

[Shamalien]

I would tell em, damn the consequences. I’m talking real cheating, sexual cheating, not “she talked to some guy”

[Kelly6]

@Itsmeirem No it's not my business and it doesn't change anything in our friendship.

[MaddieMadz]

Absolutely. No one deserves that kind of disrespect and betrayal. I would want my friends to tell me.

[Maria2002_]

No I’d snapped a picture and send them a photo warning them before sending them a photo.

[MasterKS]

No, its their personal life why the hell you interfere?

[Peridot25]

Because, if you knew, your friend would be upset at you as well for knowing and not saying anything.

[jojouzumaki]

I wouldn’t tell. It’s not my business at all.

[MasterKS]

@jojouzumaki maturity!

[clampfan101]

I’d tell them what I saw. No more, no less.

[AmeerX]

Of course I would tell him. He deserves to know.

[ClassicDropout]

Yes.

[HelpfulWoman]

yes.

[WhitneySnow]

Yes.

[Fireguy17]

Probably

[Shortkay4568]

Yess it would

[jahaims]

Duh.