Do you get post-break-up flashbacks?

[Gent207-2]

As the Breaker and the Broken I experience flashbacks to the times that we were happy. These memories come on suddenly and often without cause. Old places we visit, the songs we danced to, somehow hurts worse than the actual break-up. But as time goes on and I mourn the death of who I was, and accept the end of what I had, I gained control of these emotions. The sting of places and sounds grew less.

But the number one thing that still sends me over the edge is the smell of her perfume. Yes even now 8 years later those memories come flooding back at the hint of it. One could say I am not over her. But biologically that is how we are wired.

[sage2021]

I don't believe we truly "get over" someone we had a love relationship with. We live through it, and as time goes on the pain is still there but you keep going.

I was reading that the sense of smell has a memory. Anytime you are in touch with her smell, you will probably have a flashback.

I think it is normal to have flashbacks of a happier time in your life. And sometimes it does come out of nowhere - like when you're taking a shower.

I had post breakup flashbacks and still do and it's been many years since our divorce.

Listen to certain songs, like Boston really make me think of him. He was in a band when we were married and they used to cover Boston's music. He was a fantastic lead guitarist and singer.
So, I have limited my listening to music because too many songs still remind me of him.
Some of us live a little bit harder, a little bit stronger.

[MelissaMay01]

I do yes. Whenever I hear his name or see him on one of his friends social media I miss the times we had together & it has been a while since we broke up but I think I’ll always have some sort of feelings for him as I was with him for a huge part of my life.

[EricSummer]

Yes, this has happened to me after a breakup. However, it instantly fades when I start a new relationship with a different woman. I remember places that I used to go to with the ex, but the stinging is gone.

[shades777]

Triggers, you see or hear something that emits a old memory.


if you wish to get over, you need to let go of the memory.

[asphaltrhymes]

Nope, but it makes me think of sitcom scene ideas lol in my imagination or rom-coms movie scene ideas, lol. Like so tongue in cheek, like oh no the flashbacks are starting again, lol so Charlie Chocolate Factory like, ahahaha 😂🤣

[Nikki1989]

Yes, but they don't last.

[pethouse]

No, never been in a relationship

[Akam93]

Not at all.

[In_Trance]

Lol no