I think that is why it’s important to close relationships in good terms. But if you experience pain, regret or sadness then I’ll think that relationship and sounds were never closed. That’s why you experience and associate those painful feelings when you see that person again. Is important closing relationships in good terms, not for them but for yourself.
sounds like emotions brought up. could be protection, means that emotional hit is still there. can't get rid of memories, can re-process them to a different light so they don't have power.
Admittedly I’d rather hide than see one. It’s happened before and made me feel sick physically and emotionally. It’s ok, however if I see them from across the room and we ignore each other. I don’t want them staring at me, trying to ring me up or talk to me. If I happen to see them with a downgrade it makes me feel better and want to laugh, shallow and mean as it is. Chances are they did something very bad to be an ex in the first place. I don’t wish to speak to them and lie in my own vomit.
An ex is just a part of your life , the memories u had with that person flashes right before your eyes but when u think about way u broke up with them in the first place that should be your reason hot to even think about getting back together with them
Could be either. It depends on the nature of the relationship or breakup. Some exes are particularly awful, and you have painful memories from your experience with them.
Sometimes it is because of regret; not because they were really bad.
Of course you still have feelings for them, but it doesn't mean you are still romantically attracted. It could be that the feelings you have for them are simply painful. Maybe the breakup was bad, or resentment grew afterwards. Either way, the pain isn't necessarily masking something deeper.
"Getting hurt AGAIN" ? Are you getting back together just because you SEE your ex? No. You're just remembering why you split up. There's probably some good memories too. If you're worried that merely seeing your ex is hurt you again, I don't understand how it would, nor would you be really over them.
It really depends on the ex. It could be one of those things or a combination of both. You can hate a ex for something she did to you but still have feelings because you can't forget the good times you did have. Memories are a hard thing to erase.
No. Depending on how things went before and after the breakup, it's only a reminder of the negatives experiences you lived with your ex and of how undesirable it is for you to (now in the present) be vulnerable to those experiences.
Our brains are pretty good at identifying what hurts us and makes us sick.. So I think it's a defense mechanism. But you shoudl strive to get over it, because we own the power of who can hurt us,
Protecting you fekin getting hurt again. If seeing then brought up good memories that's a sign of still having some feelings, but exes are exes for a reason.
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