Why do people marry shortly after breaking up with someone in a long term relationship?

[1millonlies]

It’s happened time and time again, the couple are together for so many years without marriage, then they break up. One of them (usually the guy) ends up marrying some random women he’s only known for certain amount of months. I mean look at Selena Gomez and Justin Bieber they went through the same thing. I wonder if people who do this are miserable

[Finchie40]

Because they were hoping to get married to their partner , not realizing they were going to break up instead , so they usually find a rebound hoping the rebound will love them more and treat them better than their ex did. They rush things with their rebound , hoping they get what they really wanted in the first place , if the rebound is smart , they wouldn’t fall for that shit but most people are dumb when it comes to relationships , they are just excited to have someone that seems to be head over heels for them. Thinking wow this person really wants me , they are treating me like Gold , not realizing they are just a rebound. I had a few girls’ try to do this to me after they broke up with their exes , they were pretty much throwing themselves at me and treating me like I was the best thing that ever happened to them , but the truth is , they barely knew me , Yes it felt nice being treated that way by her and the sex was amazing , but her and I really didn’t have much in common , we were just infatuated with each other at that time. The thing to look out for when meeting someone new and exciting, is how often do they talk about their ex to you? , if someone is constantly talking about their ex to you? it usually means they aren’t over their ex. Sadly most people are blind sided by this , and overlook this , because that person is treating them like Gold when really that person is still grieving over their ex. It’s a clear indication not to rush into anything with that person because they are only looking to fill in the void , that they didn’t receive from their ex. Females have a tendency to do this more than guys’ do. Most guys’ after a break up , might go flirt and hook up with other girls to help keep his mind off of things , usually his ex , but he will not commit to this new girl right away. A female on the other hand after a break up , is looking for someone to love her and to treat her better than her ex treated her , she either wants marriage or babies as soon as she possibly can , because she feels her time is running out , I have slept with some girls ‘ that wanted me to knock her up after only having sex with her a few times , I’m like ummmm No , we barely know each other , I need to get to know you more before we even consider making babies together , since she didn’t get her way with me , she latched onto another guy that was willing to knock her up , I would just shake my head to her selfish behavior and look at her like she was this complete moron. why I no longer rush into relationships with girls’ Most girls’ don’t really know what she wants , she just wants what she thinks she wants , without thinking about the big picture , She usually has a selfish mindset

[ProbablyClueless]

Because the person wants the longer term commitment and they develop experience identifying desirable traits in others by dating.

People do the things they want to do. So when the old longer term relationship broke up, it was because the partners understood that something about the relationship didn't feel right for marriage.

[DishLady]

I only know a handful of couples who have done so and here are the reasons:
(1) They weren't serious about Relationship1 and were just biding their time until they met someone better.

(2) Pregnancy (the "Happy Accident" baby of Relationship2)

(3) Youthful error (Relationship1 happened too early in life... the couple matured and grew apart... enter Relationship2, stage left...)

(4) Siren effect (Relationship1 is running relatively smoothly... enter classic "homewreaker" (type guy/gal who can't find a relationship of their own to save their lives), stage left... Hello scenarios 1-3 above)...

[handsomelad70]

Some need emotional support after a breakup, so they rush into marriage because they feel a marriage will heal their hurt. However, rushing into marriage is almost always unwise (The adade says,"Marry in haste, repent in leisure") and usually leads to divorce.

[LazerBean]

Because the whole reason that they were in a long-term, non-marital relationship was because they knew they did not actually want to be with that person forever. They're just a placeholder. Then they get out of the relationship and find someone that they do want to marry. It generally takes a guy 2 years MAX to know that he wants to marry a woman, and often he'll know by a year or less. And that's why they get married soon.

[loveslongnails]

There have been volumes written on this and related "rebound romances", so I couldn't sum it up in a few paragraphs. What I wish were available are stats, data and studies on people who ended long-term relationships, or engagements, and then married someone else soon afterwards. "Soon" would have to be defined; I'd say less than a year.

[Anonymous]

It could be that they lost the one they really loved. Sometimes when that happens, people fear losing the next person they fall for which is why they’re more likely to marry quicker or do things in that relationship that they never did in their last.

[OddBeMe]

I would argue it’s like what they tell alcholohics. After your epiphany…. or “change”…. they say not to make any big decisions. Kinda like being high on hospital drugs. I bought all the nurses coffee after.

[hellothere90]

because they're getting older and it makes them desperate that they won't find anyone else.

[Anonymous]

because they were either cheating or desperate. or so tired of waiting! ! ! ! so they took things into their own hands.

[Noodle_fan]

Yeah i know some people who r like that

Not entirely sure why , may be because they decided to lower the standard

[Anonymous]

I swear that I’m not a bad person but I always feel happy when I see a man that moved on from a girl and she got hurt because of it.

probably because I got burnt out a lot from my ex.

[he-takes-a-part]

Short minded people marry. Insecure. Chances of them going back to now ex is higher be careful

[Dinklex3]

For some, they’ve been cheating lol.

[Jennz6]

I think it’s an emotional rebound

[Bklynbadboy12]

Cause they're trying to fill that void