Can you ever have a healthy relationship again after being abused by a women?

[Anonymous]

When you invest your whole heart and she verbally and physically abuses you then when you stand up to it she suddenly decides to break up. I wasn’t allowed to end the relationship cause her sister threatened to kill me

[Chazmatazz269]

“… ever…”? Of course, with time and diligence, all things are possible.
It’s not going to be easy though. Pretty much all available resources are directed at female victims and male abusers. I recommend Ann Silvers’s book, “Abuse OF Men BY Women”. She’s a passionate, intelligent and professional counselor with a great deal of experience working with men and women on both sides of the abuse issue.
https://annsilvers.com/products/abuse-of-men-by-women-it-happens-it-hurts

Despite the low chance that you’ll find the help you need through the usual resources, i think you should try. The people and organizations responsible for their entirely biased resources should know firsthand the impact that they’re having as well as the impact they’re NOT having. They may never change. But they can’t change if nobody tells them what they’re doing wrong.
I strongly recommend you deliberately not date for a while. If you happen to meet an understanding and compassionate woman through your healing process, you may naturally want to be closer to her. She cannot save you. You have to do that for yourself. If she’s still around when you come out the other side, happy and whole without a woman, then go for it. But you need to focus on you for a period of time.
Keep your head up and good luck!

[lightbulb27]

yes, but the mess needs a diagnosis as to what went on and the wisdom gained. It isn't fair to label all women the same as those two anymore than "all dogs are bad".

sometimes you can thank your lucky stars it stopped as soon as it did.

[KrakenAttackin]

@lightbulb27 I hear you, but women have too much power in the courts and on social media.
I remember a wise man once saying "If you have conflict with a woman, everyone will automatically take her side. Having the facts on your side won't save you". I found out FIRST HAND how true this is. Modern women are very dangerous, like children with loaded firearms.

[lightbulb27]

@KrakenAttackin I'm sure truth in that. probably based upon location and mentality somewhat.
but yes, people will believe women. So tread lightly and build a good foundation.
don't want to live in fear rest of life do you?
women get burned too...
there's reasons for traditional values... even that isn't 100%, but it's there for your protection.

[PeachyPie93]

Sure just get some help for your issues and take your time before you jump in another relationship. Never let a woman walk all over you even if you love them. The first sign of disrespect you leave even if you love them deeply. If you don't leave they think that behaviour is acceptable. Never let someone make you feel like you are less then them, if they do, they have no love you. So you shouldn't ever waste your time and love on a bitch.

[Anonymous]

My wife did it, so I believe you can too. The first step it to take time to recover though, so don't try to get into another relationship right now. That can wait until you're ready. For now focus on keeping strong friend and/or family relationships, and getting fulfillment from your work and recreational activities. Get to a place where you're happy. Then you'll be able to invite someone special into your life again, if you choose to.

[Anonymous]

I like to think so. My heart is not closed just very guarded. I've found peace being single. For the right woman I'd do it again. But I don't come cheap anymore. She'll have to convince me she worth not staying single for. If not, I'm fine to remain single.

[CriticalCatDad]

No, no because the world will never consider it abuse if it’s by a woman towards a man. Women have too much privilege and power and play it off as if they don’t.

[Asker]

I’ll be honest that’s the part that messes me up the most about this her family and friends rallied around her and I was the person being abused no matter what they heard I was in the wrong. Eventually it progressed to a hopeless thought process that she basically could do whatever she wanted with no consequences. I could even call the police because I’m biracial and she was white

[CriticalCatDad]

Leave and live your life for yourself

[Anonymous]

A woman can't physically abuse or verbally abuse a man, because for one, a woman's insults doesn't affect a man, and second, a woman wouldn't hurt a man as much since women's punches are softer than that of a man's punches, if a woman starts hurting you you need to man up and take it, and if she breaks up with you then there's plenty of fish in the sea, you have to be the bigger man here.

[Asker]

If I hit her back then I go to prison

[Opinion Owner]

yep, it's just how society is.

[strateguy632]

certainly i give each new one a chance she is a different person. despite some rotten ones that i dumped after trouble

[Jacobbbb]

Sorry that happened. You can when you recover from it. Look to the future.

[Asker]

Yeah it feel like I invested everything and it was just used and discarded

[Jacobbbb]

Well all you can do is move on

[Fireguy17]

yes, but it can take quite a while to trust someone again.
Sometimes getting some help would not be the worst thing you could do.

[exitseven]

Yes, you just need to find somebody who won't abuse you

[KrakenAttackin]

No, I will never, ever, fully trust a woman again.

[OddBeMe]

Maybe not. But I guarantee is it’s that chick, it’s your childhood.

[Anonymous]

Sorry but you're a wimp if you can knock her to tomorrow the moment she raises her hand on you

[WhitneySnow]

That’s crazy. At least you got rid of her.

[Asker]

No she got rid of me she broke up with me so how it ended was we was driving to the store and she was bullying me in the car and I asked her to stop and she didn’t so I pulled over to the sidewalk to safely let her out. She ended up walking home calling her mom upset saying she couldn’t be with a man who just kicks her out of his car she completely left out the part where she was relentlessly bullying me

[WhitneySnow]

Still. At least she’s gone. Just block her and move on with your life.

[Asker]

So I have blocked her but one thing that I haven’t been able to process is the abuse. I was nothing but good to her my brain couldnt process it like I thought the way I cared and loved that it would have me in a happy marriage but instead it leaves me with a whole new level of trauma

[WhitneySnow]

You should go see a therapist

[slatyb]

Yes, you can. I have.

[boobliker]

it's down to trust that all it is.

[sirderpsalot123]

You can if you take time to recover

[msc545]

Probably NOT.