Do any of your exes hold a special place in your memories or do you just go and try to forget them?

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

I generally try to stay in good terms and remember my exes for the good things and not the bads.
Although there's one with whom I had a very brief relationship, not even an official one and that we ended in very good terms, and yet it makes me feel bad every time I think about it. I don't really understand why.
What about you?

[PeacefulRainDrop]

There was one that did for the longest time but I finally found a guy that I wouldn't leave if Trent moved back here.. he was my first relationship his family up and moved debated moving to him for years but switching states abd we were teenagers maybe we wouldn't get along.. we have talked all these years but honestly we both met someone else around the same time which is cool and both dating those people now.. I wish him all the happiness in the world he deserves it!! he's a gem but hed always hold against me what I did.. I left him for an asshole.. then he cheated on me then went back to Trent he always felt like home to me.. my parents disliked him a lot for no reason that I could see.. he was just misunderstood treated me like gold.. so id go back and forth of dating him and dating someone else cause I wanted someone to treat me like he did abd I valued what other people thought too highly he's not the type of guy girls would drool over walking in the room but he was adorable to me.. a guy that grows on you the more you know him.. thought after all these years he must be the one so I did drive and visit we had a good time 2 months later we both met other people and Matt treats me better than Trent did.. both guys are fantastic and I realized its my life fuck whoever can open there mouth saying he's ugly you deserve better shit.. if I could go back id slap Marie and Brittany for saying that about Trent.. and I wouldn't have gone back and forth so much I would have been fuck you dad he's whats makes me happy but life happens and I have a complete new slate with Matt and I know what I have.. use to always think the best is yet to come for men but he's everything to me.. I adore him.. and if I didn't go through what I did with Trent I wouldn't have been ready for Matt.. looks/height are not everything to me its how the guy treats you behind closed doors is what matters most.. and having Trent as my first boyfriend my expectations were very high if one man could another can too.. like I only need one.. when I was determined to make it work with Trent he didn't believe me and honestly I can't blame him so with how I did it to him numerous times... I will always regret that cause he's the second best man I ever met! I never thought id find anyone he found Danica before Matt came into my life.. so I said I was happy for him.. and now im happy with Matt then I ever could be with him...

[little_bird1]

Well at first, after the breakup, they usually still hold a special place... until I fall for someone new. I don't hold grudges for any of them, even though some treated me very poorly. When I was younger I used to hate their guts, but as I grow older I realize that their behavior really has nothing to do with me but with their own insecurities, issues, life circumstances, etc. etc. No one is born evil, some people just choose the wrong path which makes them assholes. They might seem as if they don't care and are living the time of their lives, but deep down they are very unhappy. And most of them are still assholes even after so many years, still struggling, still being assholes to other people. It just makes me sad, I feel sorry for them. I usually try to help those assholes to make them better persons, even offering friendship after the breakup, but some people are just hopeless. In a way, they all taught me something - empathy. I am so proud that I am able to care about even the worst people in the world. I like to leave on a good note knowing that I did everything I could and that it wasn't my fault. Clean conscience - easier moving on, peacefully. I guess that's why all of my exes still have high opinion of me, none of them can say a bad thing about me because there simply isn't. All of them know it's them who were the problem.

[websterII]

x's are like dogshit in life.. mourn the death of your relationshipo.. then wipe the crap offyour shoes and move on.. dont taklet hem back even if the come begging. they are officially BAD NEWS. if you have kids it gets complicated.. but in such a case.. just pretend they are the best baby sitters in the world for your kids.. a bit expensive.. but the best.. and only deal with your x to the minimum required to ensure your kids are safe and happy during your encounters.. what happens to the kids uner her watch is none of your business and ditto for while u have them. you owe your x nothing.. they deserve Nothing.. forget them when your not angry anymore perhaps you ar eready for nother relationship. definatley learn tho. . use the pain of your dead realtionship to self assess and figure out better ways to handle things so your next beautiful wonderful relationshi that is so good u got married odesnt turn to crap too. but forget x's mourn relationship and f9orget.. they not worht 1 second more of your life.

[MuffinBoi]

I'll accept that I've had a great time with them while it lasted and just move on. Eventually my memories with them in the relationship become vaguer and vaguer, to a point where I may forget about those moments completely. Many of my memories with my ex have been lost at this point.

[Cynicaldreamer]

I treat my exes like garbage: I throw them out and pretend like they never existed!
Thankfully as I get older and lose feelings for them, my memories of them fade as well. Yes, I had good times with them, but not enough to make me want to hold on to said memories for the rest of my life. I rather move on and make new, happier memories with others.

Note: to anyone thinking I'm harsh or mean, my exes were an absolute headache and broke my heart. Believe me when I say sometimes it's better to block out and forget past mistakes... err, exes.

[leftis25]

100% agree of what you said

[1Sophisticatedme]

I usually forget and move on. Even if it ended in good terms i would move on still and i don't look back. That way it wouldn't be such a big deal if i start dating someone else and run into coflics with my now boyfriend.

[aWes0MeNeSs]

I have one I'm still friends with and have been for years. The other has been pissed at me since we broke up 4 1/2 years ago and we don't talk. Oh well.

[340sunny]

I've got great memories of times I've spent with exes and I'm glad I have them even thought the relationships didn't work out. I try and hold on to those so I don't remember all the fights, but I don't actively think about my exes. Maybe here and there

[Cherokeehp]

I don’t really try to forget, I just don’t have a special place for them either. Trying to forget would be stupid. They weren’t perfect relationships, but I learned something from each of them. It happened. They were a part of my life. Even though there was in who hurt me particularly badly, I still don’t try and forget. I just carry on. I said my goodbyes and I moved the fuck on. There’s no love or friendship that lingers.

[Hazelstar]

I have loved my exes and both of them are having special place in my heart. But I would cling on them if I will still be able to contact them. As soon as I broke up with them I cleared / deleted / changed anything that could remind of them. I'll make sure that their history is wiped out of from my life and I don't keep any connection with any of my exes because I want to move on. I don't want to know what is happening in their life. Ignorance is bliss for me in this case.

[adollarandadream]

the three relationships i’ve been in didn’t end ugly, but the first two i didn’t take too much away from the relationship. the last one however, hit me deep because she introduced me to new things and experiences. though we didn’t last i still was glad i met her. i dress better because of her and she gave me a love for art.

[DizzyDesii]

Its not them that makes me smile. Its the memories like the sex in public places or the naughty phone calls or the compliments they gave. So the ex is like an invisible person to me but the memories is the things we did

[jsincal]

I’ve loved 2 of my ex’s. My last ex holds a special place, but things didn’t work out for a reason.

I don’t try to forget because it never works. Let the memories come and go.

I do miss the good times. But I don’t miss the mess.

[dmvgirl16]

Yes i would say some exes hold a special place in my memories but I try to forget them but its hard but I always end up forgetting them

[JackSmy]

I TOTALLY ADORE, and LOVE, almost all of my "ex's" as we all ended well, just wanting different things, and going different places in our lives! Still in touch with many of them!!

[DellBell]

I have a love bond thanks to them so it's never gonna go away because of all the shit they did to me.

[DellBell]

Trauma bond why did I say love bond 🤮 no I definitely don't have that 🤮 I would never go back to them ever!

[PinkMichae]

There's a few who didn't treat me bad that I stayed friends with and will always have a special place in my heart.

[slatyb]

Many do. Most I remember fondly, one I hope to never see again. There's one I wish I could still talk to.

[virtue2332]

Anyone I truly cared for will always be special to me.

[_SOARER]

My first girlfriend does
I loved her whole family
I wish I could spend time with all of them again.

She holds a special place for her generosity and the hospitality her family showed me.

[pleasestopthis]

Well kind of because my ex is my only ex. There were good times but I remember painful memories the most.

[ItsTheNephilim]

Not a special place but yeah, I still remember them.. Just like any othwe random memory of my past.

[ItsTheNephilim]

Other*

[MannMitAntworten]

Some do but only upon reflexion while I am single. When involved they essentially vanish from memory.

[jamesgoldman]

I was friends with them before we started dating and have stayed friends afterwards