guy im talking to tells me he's "kind of on a break" and they both "needed time away from each other." He doesn't want to lead me on he says but still wants to talk to me and understands if i dont want to. Is he cheating or is this fine. we be talking talking. does break mean he's going to prob break up if he's messing with other girls or he's just going through a hoe phase and using me. Would you get back w ur man if on break he messed w other girls? bc ngl i wouldn't :/
So I will tell you a story from a personal experience. My ex-wife and I were dating... we went on a break. It ended up being a three-month break. I dated other girls during that break... because I didn't know honestly what her deal was or if we would ever get back together.
But we still talked from time to time... and if she asked if I was dating other girls I always lied. Because honestly, she didn't want to date me about wanted to know if I was dating? Thats none of her business if she in not my girlfriend.
We eventually we did start dating again, and we got married and we were married for 22 years. I lied about it for over 22 years. So, was it cheating? I say no because we were not in any official relationship or status.
Would she of thought it was cheating? ABSOLUTELY!!! That is why I lied about it. Do I think she was right for feeling that way... ABSOLUTELY not.
At least this guy is being honest with you, I wasn't with the other woman. So, on that level he is better than me.
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Depends on what their idea of a break is. Did they set rules in place? Or is it just open to their own interpretation? If they said it was ok to talk to other people than there’s nothing wrong w that they both agreed. Some people take breaks to see if this is really the person for them, to get out to see what else life has to offer. Maybe they fall in love again after a break. Maybe they’re allowed to date other people but nothing sexual. I think I’d be ok w dating as yes we’re not together but we both know there’s a possibility of coming back together, otherwise why even take a “break?” Why not just breakup if there’s not even the slightest possibility of getting back together? Now sex wise, I don’t think I’d be ok w that unless we decided ok yes we’re officially broken up. I hope that makes sense.
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Depends on what you are on a break from. If you are on a break at work do you still have to work? Then why would you still be loyally to a relationship you are on a break from?
That having been said the whole “on a break” thing is pretty fucking stupid to start with.
Nope... not unless they have broken up.
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Breaks are stupid. You're either together or you're not. Breaks in between create so much vagueness and gives false expectations which usually ends up in disappointments. You kind of expect loyalty from them still yet can't react when you happen to learn they have been with someone else till the decided to end the break with you.
Sounds like he wants to just sleep around or they both do. Being on a break is supposed to be time apart for each one for emotional gathering of their relationship. If he wants to see other women in that time, then those two shouldn't get back together cause he wasn't really in the relationship. That's my opinion.
You have to ask. And define it. Preferably before the break starts. "Can we see other people?" If the answer is no I'd argue that there shouldn't be a break and just work out whatever it is.
Break means no commitment for a while but it's not a breakup, basically it's like a temporary breakup, people do use it to sleep around unfortunately
Talking isn’t cheating.
dates and sex would be. A break is just time apart to think things through. If it’s an excuse for strange…u messed up.
Yes, you can see other people, start a new family and get many abortions.
What the heck does “on a break” even mean? This ain’t work. “On a break” just sounds stupid smh
The point of being on break is to fuck other people guilt free and have the chump wait around until you're done
Why a break to start with?
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