How to know if ex boyfriend want to get back with you?

[Anonymous]

I don't want to here " an ex is an ex for a reason", cuz sometime its the fault of both of them neglecting each other needs that make the relationship go downfall.

He contacted me saying he misses me and watched our old photos, he says he wishes to turn back time. He want to keep contact with me and invited me twice for coffee didn't went, cuz he is with another girl.

I tried no contact in the begging of relationship and failed, now the second time, after no contact I'm acting cold but polite with him, keeping my distance.

Tell me what to you thing, and if there is a chance to get him back.

[Oliverlogan263]

It sound like dude is lookin to breadcrumb you a bit trynna creep back huh? Classic ex move, prolly still feelin you out to see if ya still on ice for him ya feel me.

Few things though - him hittin you up still with a new bae don't sit right in my opinion. Like bro tryna have his cake n eat it too type ish, ain't loyal behaviour feel me.

Plus him only slidin in the DMs with the "I miss you" jawn but not backing it up wit in-person time? Kinda half-ass if u ask me. Wouldn’t trust em yet, he gotta show prove he changed.

Keep playin coy for now I say - keep em on ice too b. Don't wanna seem too eager in case he tryna play games wit ya heart feel me?

He really mean it, homie will come correct n give full undivided attention. Till then don't stress, go enjoy yaself outchea! Ball is in his court now.

One thing doe - if y'all do try round 2, gotta set clear boundaries from jump n lay down rules. Communication key this time or it’s gonna be the same ish different day ya feel me? Take it slow tweak!!

[Asker]

Should i let him always to contact first?
All the times it was him who initiate the contact. I'm acting respectful but cold a bit. If he ask again for coffe what should i say to him?

[Oliverlogan263]

That's a tough one. Normally I'd say you don't always want him to be the one hitting you up, cuz then it seems like you're just waiting around for him or something.

But since he's still with that other girl, I'd keep letting him make the first moves for now. That way it don't seem like you're too eager to get back with him while he's in another relationship, feel me?

As for if he asks for coffee again, I'd say just be honest but kinda play it cool too. Maybe something like "I don't know man, last time we hooked up you were still with someone else. If you ever sort things out and break up with her, then maybe we could grab a coffee and talk. But for now I think I'll have to pass."

That way you're letting him know you ain't just gonna be his side thing, but also leaving the door open in case down the line he gets single again. Protect your heart and don't let him think you'll just wait around when he's messing around with someone else, ya feel me? Make him work for it if he really wants you back!

[Asker]

Best advice ever👍🏻 thank u

[Asker]

He just writed : Hello what are u doing? And than after 10 minutes deleted his mssg🙃

[Oliverlogan263]

Ayy no doubt sis, always here to offer some real talk advice! You seem like a wise chica who knows her worth, keep doing you and staying cooler than a cucumber out here.

Dudes will come and go but a real one is coming who's gonna treat you like the queen you are. In the meantime, keep shining your light so bright that little boy's games can't even come close to dimming your glow.

You got this on lock sis, I just tryna reiterate what you already know - you're that bitch! Now go handle your business and let me know if you ever need anything else, aye? You stay killing it out here. Proud of you fr 💯

[Oliverlogan263]

What's good sis, just saw your text! So that dude hit you up outta nowhere and then dipped, eh? Nahhh that's some straight clown ish right there lol.

He prolly texted while he was bored or somethin, then all his little homies saw and were like "ayy you ain't really tryna holla at her still right? thought you was over it?" And his scared little ass panicked and deleted it haha.

Or maybe he was tryna play it cool and casual then got in his feels over thinkin how to respond. Either way, major wack! Like bro make up your mind, you tryna holla or nah?

I wouldn't even give him the time of day sis, dude clearly ain't got his stuff together. Gotta do better than that flaky mess. You're too much of a boss for these games fr fr.

Just keep doin you boo, block his number, and let him stress tryna hit you up again sometime - if he even grow a pair to finish what he started! Stay shining queen, forget bout them clowns 🤡

[Asker]

I just didn't do anything, nor respond or stuff. Probably bro is asking for attention but i won't give him any cuz in this moment he dont deserve it.

[Oliverlogan263]

That's all that is , just rid and ignore dat fool. Keep going strong and carry on Queen ❤️

[Anonymous]

He misses you, so in my opinion he wants to get back together. So give the guy a chance.

[Asker]

Yes but he says that but is also in a relationship.

[Opinion Owner]

Then block him and move on.

[Asker]

I don't understand why he want to keep contact with me, and play online games together, he also invited me for caffe but i refused. What do you think?

[Opinion Owner]

You could always ask?

[Asker]

I know he won't answer, i asked and he said I'm not your enemy🤦🏻‍♀️ not answering me and talking about other stuff. As a male, what is your opinion for all of this?

[Opinion Owner]

He's looking for a side chick.

[Asker]

👍🏻

[Oliverlogan263]

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