Why does a narcissist break up with you then go out of their way to play games and throw mixed signals?

[Anonymous]

Has anyone else experienced a narc like this? He breaks up with you, then gets jealous you are seeing other people, calls you crying then doesn’t care , then cares, then wants to be friends, then doesn’t, blocks and unblocks, ignores you then talks to you …

I don’t understand what the motive behind this is.

[Summeroflove]

Narcissists are manipulators and feel entitled to have control over someone else. Even if they initiated a breakup they still desire number one control. Number two they desire to be desired that feeds their ego when someone’s emotionally attached. Three narcissists need people they can fall back on therefore they can keep you just enough interested in case all else fails and they need someone to fall back on…. For a time until they so it again.

But a good percentage of it is quite simply that they want control. They like the feeling that they’re someone that someone else just can’t move on from. They like the feeling that they can manipulate someone’s emotions. Any emotions…. Whether they provoke sadness. Missing you… depression. Or even anger. They like having that control. It feeds them and makes them feel powerful.

Now there are unstable people who just have mixed feelings. Not excusing it but those people at minimum feel remorse for their behaviors. Narcissists don’t feel genuine remorse. They may feel regret for themselves at times. Maybe they regret breaking a relationship off because there is something they aren’t getting anymore. Romantic, sexual, financial, etc.

[Mamaliv]

Block him, he is trying to guilt trip you back in to his life. Even if you wanted to try and be his friend still or not you have to separate yourself from he because he won’t stop.

[Marykender]

To control n manipulate u if there is shortage of suppl