Did he use me? Did I do something wrong?

[Anonymous]

My ex had were dating for an about a mouth and a half. He was my first boyfriend. I loved and cared for him deeply and I thought the same was for him to me. That was until he broke up with me saying that he felt that we weren’t right for each other I respected his wishes thank him for the time and experience that I got from the relationship and I asked if he still wanted to be friends or just not talk at all and he said he didn’t want to talk at didn’t really think anything of it and moved on. That was until the next day when he posted on his snap stories that he had a new girlfriend and I thought to myself there is no way he got one that fast. I never really saw him hanging out with other girls at school but I also knew that he was friends with a lot of girls and I don’t blame him and I didn’t care. So either A. He used me to get back at his ex before me to try and make her jealous. or B. Cheated on me because there is no possible way that he could get a new girlfriend in less than 24 hours if he hadn’t cheated on me. What do you sits think. Anything helps. Thanks so much!!

[Leapfrog00]

Jumping to a new girlfriend right away is a sign he cared very little for you and wasn't broken up that much about the break-up. If he was still talking about his ex when he was with you, there's a chance he could have used you. Getting a new girlfriend in less than 24 hours is a huge red flag that this guy is probably a cheater.

Most people that jump to the next person that quick are in fact cheaters. I have dated more than girl who has done this, and they were all cheaters, and guys do the same thing. You can do so much better than him. So much better! This guy is never going to make anyone happy.

I would say either you got used or he was cheating, or maybe both. Here's my advice. Don't shed too many tears over him because he's not worth them, and there's someone out there much better than him. Much kinder and much more of a better person period.

Since he was your first boyfriend, it's normal for this break-up to be painful. It's your first broken heart. The first time a girl broke my heart, I locked myself in my room and cried for two weeks. You'll find someone else. There are plenty of other guys out there that are decent. They may be rare but they exist! Hope this advice helped.

[Asker]

It did. He didn’t talk about his ex that much but sometimes. I also should’ve realized that he’s had a lot of exes and that should’ve been a red flag but I think I was desperate for anyone to love me who was forced to because they were family. I haven’t cried much I’ve wanted to but just couldn’t or was in public and around people so I didn’t want to embarrass myself. I appreciate your advice thanks so much!!

[DannyUk2017]

Sounds like he was getting "pussy" while being with you. So he tried to see if he will get it from you too (which at that point he liked you), but seeing that he won't move any further with you, he made a "move" on someone else, already or he was with someone else at same time.🤷‍♂️🤦‍♂️

[HaleyCatgirl]

I don't want to say what I think because might hurt your feelings and I don't want that. It is not your fault I assure you that. Is a douchebag that's all I'll say and please move on from that, you don't deserve that. What he did is incredibly it messed up other people will know exactly what I'm talking about.

[Asker]

You can say it. Im really just looking for advice so that in the future I know what to look for

[HaleyCatgirl]

Okay well let me reread your thing and I'll tell you

[HaleyCatgirl]

He was talking to her as you guys were dating and messaging I don't know if they were doing stuff but it's very obvious cuz no one would get into a relationship without at least talking and having that happen he probably wanted to get out of the relationship with you to get in it with her which sucks

[Asker]

That makes sense he’s just an a$$

[HaleyCatgirl]

Pretty much and I'm sorry that happened to you cuz that sucks

[Asker]

It’s ok we all have to learn

[HaleyCatgirl]

Indeed

[Anonymous]

He was definitely talking to her while seeing you. Count your blessings that you found out early on and not have wasted a year with him and have this happen.

Can I just say, you are handling this whole things very maturely. Should be proud of yourself.

[Asker]

Thank you I try to remind myself that everything happens for a reason and every failure is a learning experience

[Opinion Owner]

You are wise for your age. Just remember one day you will meet a guy who will be loyal and faithful to you and show you what real love is