I don't get it... I was reading an online article: How to know If a Man Will Love you Forever?

[Anonymous]

https://understandingcompassion.com/articles/8-signs-man-will-love-forever/

Ex displayed all this stuff but yet he STILL broke it off with me.. I guess this article is false!

[Oliverlogan263]

I wouldn't say the article is completely false, but there's definitely some nuance to consider. Just because a guy shows those signs doesn't guarantee he'll love you forever. People and relationships are really complex. A few thoughts:

- The signs mentioned like using "we" and talking about the future can just be in the honeymoon stage of a relationship before issues come up. Feelings and priorities can change over time.

- There may have been underlying problems, like one person wasn't fully committed or weren't compatible in important ways, that led to the breakup even if the signs seemed good.

- No one is perfect - people can love you deeply but still realize long-term it won't work out for whatever reasons. Breakups don't always mean someone didn't care.

- These kinds of articles can only tell you so much based on surface behaviors. True love and commitment involves way more than just signs on the outside.

I wouldn't lose all hope that a great love can last forever just because this one guy didn't work out, even if he acted like the article said at first. Now you've learned some extra things to look out for too to better judge compatibility. His loss - your prince is still out there!

[Asker]

❤❤! Wow thank you!!

[Oliverlogan263]

You’re very welcome 🌹🌹

[Anonymous]

lol as a man let me say this. There’s two ways to this game for men. One is the game of love, actually finding someone you want to be w. The other is just looking for sex, friends with benefits. They’re both played the same. A man who is just looking for sex will treat her like a queen, tell her everything he knows she wants to hear because you’re controlled by your emotions. So you’re dropping your guard, which means letting him in. You start to develop feelings for him which a lot of times leads to sex. Most women won’t sleep w a man unless they have feelings for him. Same w helping women. Look at your place of work. Observe the men who only help certain women, usually the pretty ones. Telling you you’re the one, shares things w you, talks about a future w you. Those are all things most men know women want to hear. Because then you’re like awwww he’s so sweet, all Googly eyed for him. The game is played the same regardless of what he’s seeking in the end.

[YesterdaysChild]

You can hope, cry, or sing about it all you want, but you can never know for sure.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/DINxSTaX0kM

[Asker]

Yeah ok.

[Nikki1989]

You can never know, and men will promise you the world and deliver very little, so you can't go on their word.

[spartan55]

Yeah, it couldn't be anything that YOU did wrong...🙄

[Asker]

Uh, I didn't say that I didn't do anything wrong. However, true love doesn't give up THAT easily!

Before him, I had a man that would CRAWL to have me back and even CRY in front of me. At least I experienced that type of love and connection. He was my EX-faince. We weren't truly compatible so it did end, and he also got crazy and bad, but I am just saying, I felt somewhat more compatible with this one, but he did not even see it! He closed his eyes and brain!

[spartan55]

Smh... he didn't CRAWL back to you because he was done. It has nothing to do with giving up too easily.

[Asker]

Lol, you're crazy. As if you knew his true intentions. He DID exactly say he wanted to give our relationship another shot, you don't know him so you don't speak for him!

And the mere fact that my recent ex left me only after five months EXACTLY says that. He was too selfish to care about anyone but himself! (My recent ex, not the one that left me a voicemail apologizing for his behavior!). Anyway, what's with your meaness/jerkiness lol.

[spartan55]

So... he broke up with you, then he said he wanted to give it another shot? Are you making up as you go because you said nothing about this until now. So, he wants you back it's all good right? Then you are talking about an ex and how something about breaking up after five months proves something... none of it makes sense.

[Asker]

Okay, it seems reading comprehension is not your strong point.

Ex-boyfriend number One: Shane. - Divorced with a 7 years old child. Didn't like that but I was young and horny at 31, he at 40. We went out for 18 months anyway. During that 18 months (1 year and a half basically), it was on and off full of abuse -physical and emotional, blocking, unblocking, etc. This happend from November 2015 - to April 2017. We broke up temporarily in April of 2016, and by the end of May 2016, he calls me and leaves me a teary voicemail and we meet and we hug and try to resume the relationship. BAD IDEA actually... We split up for good in April of 2017. after the cops were called because like I said, because of physical abuse mainly. He had pushed me and scratched my knees by that point. ... Yeah, what was I doing with my life, but at the same time, I was already head over heals and attatched so hence I couldn't let go of him that easily.. It took the police and a restraining order to know things were THAT bad...

2020 during the summer of the pandemic he tries one more time to come back to me... by this point he had been homeless and involved with lots of drugs... so yeah... I took him back but that only lasted less than a month... I am TOO KIND.

[Asker]

2021, I meet a cocky asshole named AJ that lived in my town. Owned a brand new Beemer and a condo of his own with probably his parents helped him pay some how. Took me to his bed very early on in the relationship. He also had back issues as a result of a birth injury he sustained, but that's beside the point... Little did I know he was a "Moma's" boy. I say that in quotes because it wasn't exactly his mom. His mom was in the Philippines, while his "Loving and supportive" aunt that kinda took him under her wing, started scrutinizing me up and down with horrible, "what's your day job... how are you guys going to support each other once you guys/if you guys get married... oh you're on unemployment right now... shame!" those types of questions... all with a sneering looking and huff, the fat lady that she was! Him, being the "Aunt's boy" that he was, he was influenced bad and started looking at me the way his stupid "loving and concerned" aunt did! Needless to say, not long after, he breaks up with me over the telephone because of that! That day, that party, I was already in tears that I had to excuse myself to the bathroom but secretly I wanted out of there. I sneaked out and never came back to that house! He goes after me and we talk for a long time. He was such a jerk. He breaks up with me over the phone a few days later.

[Asker]

2023, I meet Dan, on here of all places... He liked me and I liked him (at least I think we were both physically attracted to each other. We give it a go and go out from April to August. During the relationship things were heading strong, or so I thought... We kiss, we get intimate, etc. and I was really starting for fall for him very hard... On his birthday party, his dad, the dodo that he is, accidentally hands a kitchen knife to me, sharp side first and it startles me, because I was trying to slice a stupid, crusty slice of pizza that my ex-ordered. I mention it to my ex, and he basically takes the dad's side to where he ulitimately breaks up with me, after trying to BUILD things with me and make plans like moving out of his parent's place, easing up on his video game use, etc.! 😞 This happend in August the end of it..

So yeah...

[Asker]

So yeah, I guess this question was mainly about Dan, my very last ex. I fell for him HARD.. Maybe I guess it's because it's the freshest one out of all of them? I am also about to enter my 40's so I guess maybe I am just desparate to have a working relationship finally that can lead to marriage!

[spartan55]

You're going to insult my reading comprehension? Really? Maybe learn to write something like that contains supporting context so that it ya know MAKES SENSE. (which I guess I was just supposed to know by default)
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