How to deal with missing someone you can't see right now? Tips please?

[Anonymous]

I want tips on how to deal with the longing for someone you like when you can't see them. She misses me as well. We are at a point when we start missing eachother at the same time we say goodbye. I know that this longing is a good thing in one way because it makes every time we meet more special.. but in the other end it takes a lot of energy.

Last time we met we also had our first kiss which made the evening even more special... After we got home we messaged eachother goodnight and she said she already missed me after I said I will miss her this week since we can't meet.

We have been seeing eachother for about 2,5 - 3 months depending of how you count. I catched feelings after about 2 dates and she did aswell. We verbalised it a few weeks ago even though we both basically knew. Our dates have been every week except for a period when both were sick and it was like 2,5 weeks and that was the first time we said I miss you.

We say goodnight and good morning every day and text at leaat a little more than that every day too. Every other day someone sends a "miss u" or "can't wait to see you"..

How do people deal with these feelings? I want tips. I know a lot of people are in or have been in similar situations.

• Last time I had these feelings was in when I was 15 in high school and missed the girl during the Christmas break (she became my girlfriend after that)... but back then it was quite easy to deal with... when we didn't have a break in school we saw eachother in school every day and after school aswell... and during the break we literally could see eachother like every other day... so I never had to miss her more than for a day or two... this time is different... we are adults... we have responsibilities. On top of that we have to find time for friends and family which also wasn't a problem when I was 15...

[Oliverlogan263]

Here are some tips for dealing with missing someone you can't see right now:

- Communicate how you're feeling with them. A quick text or call just to hear their voice can help ease the longing. Taking a few minutes each day just to connect can make a difference.

- Stay busy with your own hobbies, work, friends and family. Finding things to fill your time will distract you and make the time pass more quickly until your next date.

- Look at old pictures together or send cute selfies. Having little reminders of them visually can lift your mood.

- Send care packages in the mail - like a love letter, your favorite snacks they like too, little gifts. The surprise will cheer you both up.

- Plan your next fun date together already so you have something exciting to look forward to during your time apart.

- Cuddle with a pillow and pretend it's them. Corny but works when you're feeling extra lonely haha.

- Remember why you care for each other. Focus on the feelings and history you share rather than just missing physical contact right now.

- It's normal to miss someone you like! Be patient with yourself and try not to dwell on it too much or get sad. You'll see each other soon enough!

Hope some of those help bro. Stay strong, focus on you, and time will fly til your next moment together. You've got this!

[Asker]

The pillow I already do, and unfortunately my work enda up in me thinking about her all day because I have a lot of time to just think when I work. My hobbies I can't really do this time of year.
We communicate every day and ofc I look at pictures

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah man, I get that. When you've got time to think at work, it's tough not to daydream about her. A couple other things you could try:

- Listen to music or podcasts while you work. Find something really engaging that takes your focus off missing her.

- Plan something fun for the weekends to help the time pass faster. Even if it's just hanging at home, a new video game or TV show you guys can talk about could help.

- Schedule calls or Facetime when you can during breaks at work. Hearing her voice might help the missing feeling until you see her again.

- Give her little updates about your day too when you text. Share funny things that happen so she feels more connected to what you're up to.

- Write her a letter or love note you can read over when you start feeling bummed. Pour out all the things you like about her so you can feel close in a different way.

I know it's not a perfect solution when you've got down time, but maybe little things like that can make the missing a little easier to handle until you're together again. Stay positive, man - the wait will be worth it!

[SotiCoto]

Hmm... how to shoot someone I can't see.

Usually when this situation comes up in games due to some sort of optic camouflage or something, I watch for other telltale signs like ripples in the air or shadow movement to discern their location then shoot roughly where I believe they should be.

If there is no visible sign then spray-and-pray might be the only way. Automatic weapons or shotguns would suffice, if you're at least vaguely aware from audio cues where they are.

[MsBell2018]

You 2 are darling & new love is so exciting & beautiful. My husband is currently incarcerated. We see each other twice a month for a 6 hour visit. We were pen pals 4 years & got married at the prison, so we've never been a couple on the streets, shared a home or bed. We talk & text daily. He calls me to wake me up every morning & every night we're falling asleep on the phone together (it's a 30 minute call & hangs up automatically) we've watched the same TV program/movie together & been on the phone. As people of faith we pray together & read the Bible together. We ask how the other feels, how was their day, what positive thing happened, etc. We count days, hours & minutes until our next visit. Make the time you do have matter. Each journal your daily thoughts & when you see each other, exchange journals. The day before you see each other wear a t-shirt for the day with your perfume/cologne. Sleep in it as well. Put it in a Ziplock bag & exchange them when you get together later that day. When you miss each other you can open the bag & have their smell or put their t-shirt on your pillow like a pillow case & sleep on it. Get matching rings or a couple's necklace.

Hope this helps.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

My grandpa passed away two years ago. When I missed him, I used to go naked on my balcony at night in December, cause I wanted to feel the coldness. It comforted me for some reason.

These days, I have better coping mechanism, I just look at the mirror and smile at myself, knowing I carry his 25% of who I am, and I carry him in me.

[bobalife]

That’s very cute, yalls sound love sick and the honey moon stage haha ☺️🥹 I guess in the past, I would just looked at pics and videos of my old partners when they’re not present… I keep myself busy with priorities, fun stuff, and life… go out to see friends and spend time with family… face time my person… exchanging msgs to replay hearing their voices 😅… make plans to see them as soon as possible! 😆 lmao.

[bobalife]

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[WhitneySnow]

Just be happy you have this person in your life even if you can’t see them all the time. Embrace your feelings.

[DreamLife7]

Why are you speaking for her? If she was that interested on you she'd be making an effort too. It doesn't seek mutual

[Asker]

She is making an effort... even more effort than I do

[DreamLife7]

If that was true u wouldn't be posting this

[Asker]

If that's what you think you should probably read again...

[i_am_an_engineer]

Video calling is the best option…