How long would u hook up with ur baby mama for after a breakup?

[Anonymous]

So my ex and I broke up after we had two beautiful babies, but we have never stopped fucking and we go out on dates and spend a lot of time together. He told me he will never stop fucking me, I just want to know how long would you continue to fuck ur baby mama for? I don’t ever want to stop having sex with him either. But I’m not sure we are the best in a relationship. We were together for 11 years just for background

[Oliverlogan263]

Ay girl, I feel you on still wantin' that intimacy with your babys' daddy, but this situation ain't really good for nobody long-term. Couple things to think about:

- Y'all kids pick up on the relationship vibes between you, even if you try to hide the complications. They need stability.

- Breakin' up once is hard enough, but if you keep goin' back and forth it'll mess them up real bad down the line.

- Are you really foolin' around just for the sex, or do you still have feelings and hope y'all will get fully back together?

- Either way, you need to close that chapter for good so you both can properly move on, instead of relying on each other physically.

Personally, I wouldn't let it go past 3 more months tops. Enjoy what's left but set a hard deadline. Then y'all need a clean break - no more benefits, just focus on properly co-parenting as friends for the kids' sake.

I know it's hard breaking off a 11-year bond, but trust me long run you'll both be happier and healthier separated. Don't drag it out, girl! You deserve a real relationship someday, and so do those kids.

Stay strong, you got this! I'm here if you need anything.

[Asker]

I’m not sure we should be back together it’s hard because we have kids and I wanted their parents to be together under the same roof, my kids are newborns but ur right it’s better to establish stability. I do care for him but honestly sex is the only time we get along so maybe this was not the best way to keep the peace.

[Oliverlogan263]

Yeah, that's a real tough situation. I can understand wanting your kids to grow up with both parents together, but it doesn't sound like getting back with your ex is the healthiest option right now. A few more thoughts:

- Your newborns need stability most of all. Living apart but cooperating on co-parenting is better than staying together if you don't really get along otherwise.

- The kids will pick up on tension between you even if you try to hide it. They need to see you treating each other with respect.

- Sex may feel like the one good thing keeping you bonded, but it can also blur lines and make the breakup messier in the long run.

- Maybe give living separately a real try for now, like a 6-12 months. Focus on being good co-parents and building a routine. See how you both feel then.

- Counseling could help if you want to salvage the relationship down the line. But for now, keeping a clean break is probably healthiest setup for the babies.

I know it's not ideal, but seems like the mature decision here. Kids just wanna see happy parents, even if they live apart. You guys will figure it out - just put the little ones first for now, yeah? You've got this!

[aceleon]

i won't be like the rest and tell you this

as long as no other guy shows his ugly face near my supposed ex i don't see any reason to stop fucking her if she still wants me to, what kind of idiot would deny free sex with no unwanted creatures near?

[Asker]

Thankyou lol finally someone who agrees lol

[aceleon]

want to clearify one thing i said no other guy near her and it includes a cheating case while we were together.
if not i really don't understand why someone would give up the sex, maybe outof fear of catching feelings again.

[Asker]

There was no cheating.

[aceleon]

and i asume there won't be other guys entering your life (since ifit was the case i wouldn't agree to this) then what idiot would ruin something this benefitial? all the good part of relationship and none of the bad parts.

[Asker]

Definitely not

[aceleon]

not what? won't be other guys?
it is still only him? right? (you were kind of vague)

[integrale77]

That's crazy if you break up with someone it's usually the end of everything.

Sounds like you've slipped into a fuck buddy or a friend's with benefits style relationship.

You really need to think of putingnan end to things otherwise it's going to be hard to move on.

[Al_Musafir]

Messed up

[Asker]

Which part

[Al_Musafir]

Babies outside of marriage
Break up and still having sex

[Asker]

They were not outside of marriage and yes we still have sex but I don’t understand why that’s wrong

[Asker]

Yeah you too

[Al_Musafir]

So you two got divorced?
What's even the point of splitting up if you wanna continue having mindless sex?

[Danny_dan92]

Exactly ^

[Al_Musafir]

@Danny_dan92 ikr! And she's above the age of 25 smh...

[Danny_dan92]

Clearly thinking with her pussy.

[Asker]

Sex does not make a realtionship

[Asker]

You guys sound like women haters

[Danny_dan92]

So if he finds another woman and gets married etc. you’re still gonna wanna fuck him huh stupid?

[Danny_dan92]

No, we’re just not retarded 😂

[Asker]

No we’re not dating other people that I would think is wrong when he starts to date and I do too it ends

[Al_Musafir]

Asker, indeed it doesn't. But it's very weird to me when you are with someone for 11 years and under a wedlock (as you say), had a baby, broke up with his father and continue to have sex with him. If you didn't see anything wrong writing your situation then I don't think there's much any of us can do.

@Danny_dan92 or is in denial about moving on from him.

[Al_Musafir]

Not women haters, just trying to find logic here. Not justifying the acts of your baby daddy either. It's retarded.

[Asker]

@AI_Musafir Some people are good together while others are not. We were not, but sexually we are very good together.

[Danny_dan92]

Sounds to me like he broke up with her and is wanting to fuck around. Including continue to fuck her. And her, like a typical female has his cock as a blindfold.

[Asker]

@Danny_dan never knew this post would trigger anyone. “ typical female “ lol

[Danny_dan92]

Stupid/shitty people piss me off

[Asker]

@Danny_dan92 Awwweee so sorry buddy

[Al_Musafir]

Asker, I just wish I never be okay with such mentality.

@Danny_dan92 easy sex for him. Still he's a father to a kid and is messing with the mother of the same child so casually after spending over a decade together.

[Danny_dan92]

One day he’ll give her an STD he gets from another female. Cause best believe he’s banging other girls.

[Asker]

He’s a father to two kids and we did not spend over a decade together, we were together for 11 years that’s different. Also I’m still gunna have sex with him so again and again. Having sex together is natural not me being easy. I think more men should be thankful when a women has sex with them. Instead u get mad and call her ways. But yet fear rejection.

[Danny_dan92]

Insufferable

[Asker]

You both can have ur opinions but you guys seem like trolls. It’s very interesting how mad this post has made u

[Asker]

Yes insufferable probably how ur ex describes ur sex life.

[Danny_dan92]

Odd projection from a hoe

[Asker]

I’m a go for having sex with my ex husband lol

[Asker]

U probably have a nasty skinny pink dick that no one wants.

[Danny_dan92]

Have fun stupid. Go get pregnant again 🤣👍🏼

[Al_Musafir]

Asker, you have no idea how I live and how I work when it comes to marriage and relationships. Screwing around with no commitments and that too after having a history seems pointless to me. But whatever, don't wanna look here much.

[Al_Musafir]

@Danny_dan92 can clearly see her trying to overcompensate. As if it's a very applaud worthy thing to have sex.

[Asker]

@AI_Musafir I stand by what I said which is the way you guys are projecting your opinion is uncalled for but also I never would’ve thought I would piss some random men off from a question. Now I’m called all these names. And two men gang up on me

[Danny_dan92]

Imagine asking a question about your behavior and then when you realize people don’t agree that your behavior is acceptable you call them trolls.

Sorry you wanted an echo chamber hoe, but I already had my fun sleeping around. If I want sex, and sex only. I’m gonna fuck multiple girls. Not keep fucking the same one after a “breakup”

[Asker]

@AI_Musafir not looking for a cookie just asking a simple question and wanted to know others experiences

[Al_Musafir]

Asker, not sure where you got that I'm pissed over an internet anonymous identity. Living in your delusions much? You asked for opinions, we shared it. You didn't like and are accusing us of things. Sort yourself out, for your own good. Take care.

[Al_Musafir]

@Danny_dan92 let her be. She'll either find out the hard way or when it's too late.

[Asker]

Danny you got called a troll because of how you communicate which is with anger and complete disrespect off rip. Like ur that little kid that tells his mother to stfu bitch ! And that’s fine that’s something u wouldn’t do it shouldn’t make u so angry. You say I need help but I think u need anger management

[Danny_dan92]

That’s typically how these type of women learn

[Danny_dan92]

I don’t talk to my mother like that. Never have never will. Also my mother isn’t a hoe. She’s been married too and loves my dad for 38 years.

[Asker]

Lmfao that’s very hard to believe so I guess your mother taught you how to talk to women than? Lol she raised a pussy, but I guess u think you’re a man don’t you? 😂😂 apparently divorced women are sluts with gapping pussy walls, oh and anyone who fucks their ex is A slut and should burn. Oh wait u fucked ur ex so ur a hypocrite

[Al_Musafir]

@Danny_dan92 she won't get it. Ignore her, man.

[Asker]

I’m the one that needs to be ignored lmao

[Asker]

Never mind u both started this

[Asker]

By all means don’t try to be nice now

[Danny_dan92]

Divorced women that keep sucking and fucking their ex husband are sluts. Let’s be more specific.

Since you love cock in your pussy so much you should go be a porn star 👍🏼 since you allegedly just like sex without attachment…. Unless that isn’t what is happening here. Which proves the point I said earlier. You have his cock as a blind fold, you’re loyally attached to him while he’s out banging other females… the time will come when he gives you an STD.

[Asker]

You’re wrong I’m not a slut for that. And I do have a sexual connection with him so I guess that’s the attachment. Not interested in being a pornstar I don’t jump from dick to dick. This is one man and a man I have kids with and was together with for a long time. I love our sex but I also don’t want more bodies until I’m ready to date. Everyone path is different.

[Danny_dan92]

Lmao god damn

[Asker]

What do you say?

[Danny_dan92]

This is exactly why we stay away from “single” mothers

[Asker]

So u wouldn’t do the same?

[Danny_dan92]

If the relationship is over. That’s it.

[Asker]

But why should the sex end?

[Danny_dan92]

You need help honestly.

[Asker]

? So u never fuck an ex

[Danny_dan92]

Only did once. But I wouldn’t keep fucking an ex.

[Asker]

Whats wrong with that? If it’s something u both want

[Danny_dan92]

Good luck

[Asker]

Yeah you too