How much do you wait to have another baby?

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

I've just had the comfirmation that I'm waiting for my second child.

I think it's a bit too soon because we had our daughter in July, but she wants to keep it so let's start preparing for the newcomer...

[Guy13]

Good news a sibling is on the way !! The researched preferred time between kids to be a year to year-half. The data suggests that those closer in age bond and have better long lasting sibling relationships even though they tend to fight over the same things. And think about it as everything will run much more cohesively being closer in age and size.

The wife is likely to suffer physically or have complications being the pregnancies are so close together with minimal physical recovery time. This should be considered.

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

I am concerned too, but she's so happy and determined...

[Guy13]

Well that ends that discussion. A glowing and happy woman is always good to be around. How long before you know the sex of child?

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

At least ten weeks I think. She's about three weeks pregnant.

[Guy13]

Alright. That will be a big day. Want boy or girl?

[BCA6010]

In my opinion, having all of your planned kids back to back is the best scenario. They will grow up together, their parental needs will overlap, and if the mother is working, she won't have to repeatedly start and stop or quit jobs (or a career) as often. This will also somewhat mitigate some of the associated costs of raising the family in the long run.

[midnightmoon05]

My daughter is 2 years. older than my son. They are very very close. Like best friends. I wouldn’t wanted in any other way. My pregnancy was easy.

my two older nephews are 15 months apart. They are 21, 20 years old now. But was never close. My sister in law was in her early 20s. Pregnancy was good.

my other niece and nephew are 5 years apart. Not so close. - my older sister had a hard pregnancy with her son.

maybe it depends. congratulations to you both.

[Apple1996]

Closer together is better in my opinion. My 1st/ 2nd are 2 years apart, 2nd/ 3rd are 4 years apart and 3rd/4th are gonna be 15 months apart. Only real challenge has been that I'm still nursing my 3rd so will be tandem nursing. Other then that the closer age gap has seemed easier so far

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

15 months apart, so you got pregnant six months after giving birth to your third?
If I can ask, did you have any difficulty?

[Apple1996]

Nah this pregnancy has been my easiest yet

[OlderAndWiser]

"Common wisdom" (for what it's worth) is that the worst age gap between kids is 3 years, and they should either be closer together or further apart. You'll be fine!

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

Thank you my friend.
Let's hope it'a a boy this time

[OlderAndWiser]

Good luck! What is her due date?

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

Next September, the 7th. Would be a really strange coincidence if the baby would actually be born on my birthday.

[OlderAndWiser]

I was born 1 1/2 hours before my father's birthday.

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

That's quite the coincidence!
I admit I have my doubts, but she's so happy.

[OlderAndWiser]

Som women are in heaven when they are pregnant and then caring for a newborn baby.

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

I guess so.
We've talked about this and she said she actually feels herself at her best "barefoot and pregnant".
Whatever makes her happy, makes me happy too.

[mamuma02]

Cogratutation! 🎉🎉🎉

And well seems like there is not much do to about that. Its s good unexpected surprise.

Kids are incredible even tho they are expesive 😂😂good luck with everything

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

Thank you!
Money is not the issue, but mostly that I still an not used to one child!

[mamuma02]

The good thing is that two is good, they can play witch each other in the future while you two get to rest. Its good with sibling, especially if there is not many years between because they will likely be best friends and have a lot in common and won't feel lonely.

I get two soon is sometimes not so good since its not easy to be used two, but thats how it is with anything knew. It will be hard to get used even if you get a third child.

[Razp_Sorbet]

I'd rather my future kids to be close together. There is an 8 year age gap between my sister and I. I feel like I barely know her at times and I don't want that for my kids.

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

I understand, it's similar for me and my oldest sister.

[SnowedIn]

Congratulations!

Ours were about 3 years apart.

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

Thank you!

[HighValue]

If I was having kids with someone, I'd like her to take a year off before getting pregnant again to recover health wise and exercise, etc. so it wouldn't take as much of a toll on her later in life.

From what I have seen though, siblings close in age often have a closer relationship and siblings that are greater than 5 years apart in age often don't have a close relationship. However, siblings that are 12 + years apart sometimes have a close, almost parental type of relationship.

[LazerBean]

4 years is what both my husband and I have seen to be great. He is 4 apart from his brother, I'm 4 apart from my best friend as well as my cousin who was my best friend growing up.

[Anonymous]

well it's too late, she's already pregnant... hope you have the financial means to provide for 2 infants

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

Money is not the issue, we could raise ten if we wanted.
The issue is that I'm not sure it's time for another so soon.

[Opinion Owner]

then... don't have sex... DUH... common sense, not so common.

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

Try telling her that.
It's fine though, let's hope that this time around will be a boy

[DizzyDesii]

Had i gotten to start in my early 20s like preferred, the goal was to have the kids 2 yesrs apart. But i have yet to start and at this rate i may only pop out one in my 20s

[Danny_dan92]

Jesus man. You might want to consider getting contraception or consider getting a vasectomy or have her tubes tied.




Otherwise you’ll end up with a bunch of kids (not sure how many you want total)




Congratulations though honestly

[Summeroflove]

This depends on what’s right between a husband and a wife.

[exitseven]

Nope, We got the last one through college and they are all living on their own. I do not want anymore.

[Anonymous]

I got pregnant while pregnant. You can imagine my shock to be told I was going to have another baby in 3 months after giving birth.

[Andres77]

Congratulations!

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

Thank you!

[artsy_dragon]

Gosh not even had my 1st yet 😂😂😂

[Anemone978]

2 years is good

[Preeti161101]

4+ years

[Anonymous]

Usually 2-4 years

[Jamie05rhs]

Congratulations!