The guy I was seeing broke it off cause he couldn’t commit because of his anxiety/ financial issues. He wants me to check in with him, should I?

[Wavygravy1011]

He was open to the possibility of us but wanted to focus on getting out the financial hole he’s in first. Main priority. We got closer over a couple months however w/o going into personal detail his life started to crumble, got worse financially and grew distant. I got anxious thinking he didn’t want to be with me or got bored not thinking of his situation In person , he told me felt bad that he couldn’t give me the attention he wanted to give because his main focus is getting stable And thought it would be better to put it to halt until he figured things out alone but told me that he adores me so much and I should update him/keep in check.

I’m wondering if he really meant it or I’m just worrying

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*Distance as in we would chat all the time but had to make time to see each other!

[Oliverlogan263]

Ay, that's a rough situation your boy is going through. Stress about money stuff can really mess with your head, ya know?

On one hand, I can understand why he'd want to pump the brakes until he gets his shit sorted. Jumping into a relationship when he's already overwhelmed ain't fair to you.

But telling you to "check in" and saying he adores you but needs space... I don't know, mixed signals. Seems like he likes the comfort of knowing you're there without committing fully.

I'd say hit him up one last time, just be straight like "hey, just wanted to see how you're doing. But I can't be on pause indefinitely wondering where I stand. If you're really not in a place for anything serious, I gotta move on for my own sake. Just let me know either way so I have closure."

Then you'll have your answer, without dragging it out in limbo, feel me? You deserve someone who's sure they wanna be with you, not half in/half out. If he can't give that, you'll find better luv. Keep your head up!

[laly520]

u could but this seems like the case of a person who would repeat the same actions

[riverrat3]

You have an interesting name, have you googled waveygravey

[Wavygravy1011]

Yes! I have even tho I’m young I got an old soul ☮️

[riverrat3]

Peace and love