How can someone be in a happy relationship yet always crying ir complaining about a ex boyfriend or girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

I finally got my friend to block her long-time ex boyfriend and deleted all old photos of him. She is now taking a break from social media for 90 days and isn't talking to anyone in our friend group now. She also has been in a happy relationship for 8 months yet seems to always be crying or bring up two of her ex bfs in some way or another.

[Oliverlogan263]

Damn man that's a real mess of a situation. I can kinda get why your friend would still be bothered by stuff from past relationships, especially if they ended bad. But at the same time, it ain't fair to her new dude that she's always going on about exes and crying over stuff that happened way back. If she's tryna be with this new guy then she really needs to give him her full attention, you know?

This social media break is a good call I think. Sometimes you just gotta take a step back from all that stuff online to get some clarity on real life. And talking with her current friends about ex drama all the time prob wasn't helping her move on either. I know it's hard to cut people off completely but she really needs a clean break from those dudes if she wants to fully commit to someone new. Blocking them everywhere was smart, outta sight outta mind and all that.

Hopefully with no distractions for a while she can focus on being happy in her present relationship. Her new boyfriend doesn't deserve to be in the shadows of some guys from her past. I'm sure it'll be an adjustment not talking to any of you guys too, but maybe the space will do her good to gain some perspective. Just be there for her when she's ready to open back up ya know? Sometimes you gotta isolate a bit to solve issues within. Wish her the best moving forward, sounds like she's at least trying to make positive changes.

[boggboss]

She can't be