What do you do when you are not happy with your relationship?

[Anonymous]

[Guy13]

The first thing I do when unhappiness creeps into Relationship is evaluate from Present to its Beginnings. What were we or I doing then that made everything work so well and feel so good? At the same time, I recognize that struggles and disagreements, especially during holiday seasons, manifest themselves...

Disrupting the patterns that cause the pain is what I do. This has required professional counseling and not dating advice for strategies. The biggest notification that "he still cares" is to take it upon yourself to disrupt pattern and change flow of the Relationship. Good luck !!

[TheVigilantFox]

Leave, I wasn’t happy in the relationship (if you could call the nightmare that) I was in so I left.


She was toxic and abusive and I wasn’t prepared to put up with it a minute longer so I just stopped bothering with her as I tried to communicate but it fell on deaf ears so I just stopped talking to her and blocked her all over and changed my number.


It was the best thing I ever did for myself.

[CrazyGirl2]

Quite honestly, I end it! It’s that simple! I have never understood cheating, because if you are so unhappy that you want to have sex with another person, then just end it and look for someone else! Cheating is a chicken-sh1t cowardly thing to do, because it shows that you are SO afraid to be alone, that ou have to line up your next partner first then you end the relationship. Be courageous, and ethical) end your relationship THEN look for another partner!

[DizzyDesii]

Try to talk him into setting me free by allowing him to breakup with me so i dont feel as guilty

[Genie23]

You let your partner know and try to fix things but even if you guys make multiple efforts and it still doesn't make me happy... We'll part ways.

[jennifer_bloom]

Your options are temporarily distance yourself - negotiate and discuss things - offer ultimatums - improve yourself and your life - or break up.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

I first ask "Why am I unhappy?" and then go down that list, and try to communicate with that person about it to see if we can't find a common ground and see if there's a reason for their behavior or if it has something to do with my own. If we communicate and compromise, the relationship usually goes fine after that, but if they're not willing to talk about it or they're not willing to put in effort for it, I end up leaving after realizing that's their plan.

[Phoenix98]

Well I would first obviously try and fix things because I'm not gonna throw away a relationship if the issue is fixable.

But if I/we are unable to fix things and still aren't happy then I'd leave because at that point if nothing can fix whatever the issue is then there is no reason to stay.

[Orion76]

You be honest and ask yourself do you feel important? Do you matter to this person? The answer is simpler than you think if you have to repeat yourself everyday saying things like “this bothers me” or “can you please stop this” and I’m talking about things your partner is aware that they are fundamental to you then well I’m sorry to tell you, you are not important or they don’t care or simply that’s how they are.

[Orion76]

But first be clear and be firm give them a chance or two maybe 3 be fair to them and to yourself. Good luck

[OddBeMe]

Self awareness is rare but I try to be as honest in my analysis as possible. I have many family members and friends who are toxic and keep at a distance, which helps my psyche.


An SO is harder to decide on, but I’d say the biggest variable there would be “how much time do you spend together?” If it’s not much, it’s not a good relationship.

[Keishio]

Take a step back, maybe some time away of you can a think about the decisions you can make. I've been in this position and was certain a break up was needed. I took 2 weeks away to visit family and something in me changed. I saw things from a different angle and left early to come back to my partner

[Anonymous]

Depends why you are not happy.

Maybe you need to work on yourself, maybe work with her to rebalance the relationship, maybe she needs to make changes. Maybe the match is just not right.

Not every relationship has good foundations and should survive but I would want to be sure there was no value in its future before moving on.

[FictionalCharacter]

If I’m not happy, I usually try to break things off. So I don’t continue feeling unhappy and have my emotions rub off to my partner and make their life miserable with the way I am feeling.

[melanieeeB]

Communicate, try to find a solution together and change whatever is the problem and if nothing works or if there is nothing to forgive or whatever then leave

[SexyRedd1966]

Once I've tried to work it out and it ain't working I'm out... life is too short to keep wasting your time in a situation that's not working

[TrueConfection]

It depends on the reason. When things aren't going well, I mostly wait it out and things get better again soon.

[SolitarySolace]

Break up? That’s what you’re supposed to do. But everyone sees being single as a bad thing. It’s not a bad thing to be single. There’s far more benefits to being single than people realize.

[LovingLoverReturned]

Talk about how I'm feeling and tell them what I want or need.

[SnowedIn]

Talk with the person I'm in the relationship with.

[WTFdivorce]

Try and work it out but don't dig yourself in deeper. Take a shot at therapy then make plans to sever the relationship. Sometimes leaving is the best way.

[Massageman]

One cup of talking with the other party, 2 cups of listening.

[Drachen]

If the problems are not resolved, I will left him.

[BJP21]

I need space and quiet time. Do not speak to me until Im level headed.

[LiamJHayden]

If it's fixable, work on it. If not, end it.

[Anonymous]

Why don't you talk to her and let her know you're not happy?

[Lucy68]

Talk it out and be honest

[Nikki1989]

You fix it or move on with someone else.

[Sparkie460]

Separate from each other for a while

[LemiaOfThunder]

Let the person down gently

[MountAverage]

Either improve it or end it.

[KrakenAttackin]

Don't waste time, get out.

[EaterPeter]

If you're married you're doomed

[krin_m]

Communicate and try to resolve the issue!

[dustybiker]

Share.

[Anonymous]

Id end it if I couldn't figure out what was wrong.

[SweetTwistedSatanist]

Well... Ye Talk!

[Iron_Man]

Talk it out

[CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS]

Break up. Simple.

[Snedger____]

Communicate

[Anonymous]

Suffer.

[In_Trance]

You fix it

[Anonymous]

End it

[Anonymous]

I cheat

[Anonymous]

separate?