How do I get through this divorce depression?

[Anonymous]

My ex divroced me and didn’t want to make our marriage work. Been together for 10 years, married 5 with a 3 year old. There was no trust or respect in the marriage. At the end of our marriage he tried to talk to my friend and also was going to the clubs until 3 am at times lying about where he was and I was crazy. I would stalk yell and fight because I was madly in love with him. But through all of this I still feel like he was so good hearted and the divorce is my fault. Like if I hadn’t nagged and yelled so much or given him space then we could have lasted. I find myself crying everyday and grieving and it’ been 6 months since our divorce. Even through our divorce he helped me move across states when my own family didn’t. I love him so much but he’s already moved on and thinks I’m some whore that’s sleeping around. I wish I could but I can’t even bare the thought of another person touching me. I don’t know what to do or how to handle this. I find myself trying to without my son from him because he’s all I have left😩😔

[Oliverlogan263]

Oh sis, this is just the worst. *hugs* I'm so sorry you've been going through this depression and pain. Breakups are hard enough but divorce after 10 years, that's gotta be soul-crushing.

But don't you go blaming yourself though! From what it sounds like, he wasn't being the partner you or your son deserved either. You did what you had to to try and save the marriage, but some people just don't wanna change even when called out on their crap. And I doubt the yelling made him go sneak off to clubs till 3am!

It's gonna take time, but you deserve so much better than how he treated you. His stupid lies and clubs shows he wasn't ready to commit 100%. You did nothing wrong by wanting honesty and loyalty from your husband. Please don't punish yourself or keep thinking you need him to be happy - you don't!

My advice would be to focus on you and your son. Spend quality time with friends and family, do things that remind you of your own awesomeness. One day at a time. You got this mama, stay strong! He ain't worth your tears, so don't you cry over him another moment more. You got this!

[boggboss]

Find docus stop clinging onto the past accept the divorce happened due to both of u your claiming he was good ar heart whilst explaining he was acting like a cheater

[Anonymous]

6 months has absolutely nothing on 10 years, that is a lot of time invested, so much has happened as well, it will take time to recover from such a heartbreaking situation. The past is a place of reference, not residence, so rather than picking through the ashes of that relationship trying to figure out what went wrong where, try making peace with the divorce the best way you can. I know it’s hard since you have a kid together, meaning you still have to deal with him, but this will get easier with time.

[SolitarySolace]

Better to divorce than to struggle through a failing marriage. If my parents wouldn't have divorced life would have been hell