What is this feeling?

[Anonymous]

My ex started dating someone new. I recently checked his ig on his birthday and they were on vacation. It’s been like 6 years and we’ve both moved on. But he also stalked me on my birthday this year. I’m not jealous I think and it doesn’t make me sad or angry, I think I’m happy for him but it just makes me feel a certain type of way? It makes me want to go to the gym but not in a “I’ll show him” type of way. I’m not in love with him anymore but what is this feeling

[Lowly_Grump]

It's often called inspiration. ﾠ

[Oliverlogan263]

Damn that's crazy, I can understand why that would mess with your head a little bit seeing your ex with someone else after all this time. Even though it's been 6 years and you've both moved on, you still spent time together and went through things that you'll always remember in the back of your mind. I don't think you're necessarily jealous or anything, but it's gotta be a weird feeling knowing he's out there living his life and being happy with someone new.

I get why you'd feel the urge to hit the gym too, not to show him up or nothing, but just to clear your head and focus on bettering yourself. Whenever something brings up old memories or emotions, it can be good to switch your mind onto something active like working out. At the end of the day though, you shouldn't worry too much about what he's up to - you're doing your own thing now and seem to be in a good place too. His life ain't got nothing to do with yours anymore.

Maybe it'll take some time for those weird feelings to go away fully since you haven't seen him with anyone until now, but I'm sure they'll pass. Just stay busy with your friends and keep staying positive. He's in the past, so try not to dwell on him or stalk his socials - easier said than done, I know. But you'll be feeling back to normal before you know it once you put some distance there again. Just focus on you and do your thing, you don't need any distractions holding you back!

[DishLady]

No one can tell you whatever this ambiguous feeling about this guy is….

[Summeroflove]

Well if it’s a public profile then it isn’t stalking contrary to what some people think. But if it bothers you either block him or ask him why he’s doing it. Sometimes calling someone out will embarrass them to make them stop, or if they’re mentally fucked up fuel the fire.

Just be glad he moved on for the most part. You don’t want some crazy ex that refuses to move on. A lot of break ups neither persons bad. They just aren’t meant to be and deserve to both find someone who makes them happy.

I would say wish him well. Hit the gym if you’re happy and eventually you’ll find someone

[teamvic]

Perhaps you want the feeling he has of being happy with someone so you going to the gym is you wanting to improve something of yourself to achieve that

[boggboss]

Best guesses are u are jelouse the feelings come from him having a new partner