Ex Wife Ignored Me?

[ShakaZulu74]

I was totally ignored by my partners ex wife. They have been divorced for over 25 years and are just barely on speaking terms. We were at a cafe and she said a quick hello to my partner and totally disregarded me and then went on her merry way. Is this normal?

Updates

9 mo

She’s been married twice and divorced and both divorces were very messy. She took both ex husbands to court and took their homes.

[hahahmm]

I have two ideas on that:

A.) Is she in great shape? Maybe he still banged her more recently than you think. Like within the past 2-3 years. and she's super bitter about you being in the picture.

Less paranoid observation:

B.) What I hear happens is that two people are married and one person never does X for the other person that they know matters to them. Then they get divorced and suddenly the divorced person is doing X for their new girlfriend like it's their favorite thing. Maybe this is a bunch of things too like going on nice vacations. Whatever it is. In one case I heard of a guy who acted like an atheist his whole life which really upset his wife. Eventually they got divorced and instantly he's acting like a devout Christian for his new girlfriend who is into that. Ha ha ha.

I mean it's kind of natural for people to change from one relationship to another since they learn from mistakes in the last relationship, hopefully. But then people who fake who they are definitely change a lot.

All this can rub the ex the wrong way if she is stuck on thinking about the past. For someone like me, I really don't care if my ex from 20 years ago is doing whatever.

If I'm you I would just ignore what happened 100% cause you can't force her to be nice. You said yourself that they barely talk, so I don't see why you would expect her to say anything to you at all. Yeah, it's rude on her part but it is what it is. We are not entitled to other people giving us attention.

The odd thing about your story to me tho.. is I know of some formerly married people who had BAD blood & yet they can still be civil to each other and each other's new partners. Even if under the surface there's friction.

[hahahmm]

Re Update -- what exactly do you want from her? To become friends? No. Then just keep it moving. We can't control what other people do only what we ourselves do.

[Likes2drive]

Sounds pretty normal for an ex but she could have been polite and said hello to you too, it’s been years since they were a couple, you have nothing to do with it

[DishLady]

Why tf would you expect her to acknowledge you? Honestly, do you hear how idiotic that expectation sounds?

[boggboss]

Pretty normal why wpuld she say hi to you she dont know you lol

[ProbablyClueless]

Yeah, that's pretty normal.