Have you ever regretted breaking up with someone?

[brandon]

I recently ended my relationship, and now I’m questioning if it was the right choice. I'm feeling intense guilt and sadness, torn between my mind telling me I made the right decision and the fear of making a huge mistake. The pain is new and more intense than anything I've experienced. It wasn't just about ending things with her it was about ending the internal battle I'd been fighting for weeks. How can I find peace of mind after a breakup?

[DizzyDesii]

Only one guy and it didn’t hit me until many years later when i started dating someone who reminded me of him. Its crazy because he was one of the shorter relationships but he was a really good guy. He was just crazy af tryna forge my name on his lease. He was too clingy and i told him i wasn't ready to live together and he was going to extremes. Then he’d get all insecure and ask if i still loved him and if i’d leave him. I don't know he suffered from depression and I pretty much vowed not to date depressed people again after that experience. Yet i ended up liking 3 more guys who sounded like him and acted like him too. I think I miss him because when he was good and happy, he was great to be around. And he was one of the few men I actually enjoyed being submissive around. His demanding tone when I was frustrated and he’d calm me down was such a turn on. And I loved how he worshiped in God. I dated him summer 2019 and tried to reach out to him like October of 2023. (I honestly would’ve dropped my relationship at the time since I was dating another knockoff of him anyways… yet much worse). But I guess he blocked me I don't know. I didn’t think he’d recall how we ended since 4 years had passed (cause I totally made him cry when we ended). Plus He now teaches at the Uni here, but I won’t act out and showup there… even though he’s single

[devilish-cutie]

no, i make sure im certain about it and i really process it. Sounds like you aren't actually certain about your decision and you need to proress it. Men forget we aren't just rational but also emotional and emotions matter too, both need to be aligened

[Purpleronnie]

No , never. The decision hasn’t always been easy either but it’s been the correct decision. There is just no compromise or way forward.


I have second guessed myself plenty of times , it’s easily to remember the good or to look back through rose tinted glasses or even to catchup with them after the dust has settled and rekindle done memories but there is no backwards , only forwards.

[kmg9150]

Either focus on something else and try to let be more distant in your mind, or sit down and write out why you did, why you think you shouldn't have. Is the her that you miss or the presence of her? We often tend to overlook rational cons when our emotions begin to take over. If it was truly meant then it will work its way around again.

[DishLady]

No. An ex is an ex for a reason.

[winter]

Breakups can really mess with your head, especially when you’ve been wrestling with the decision for a while. I’ve been there, too, and it’s totally normal to feel that intense mix of guilt, sadness, and doubt. It sounds like you made the choice because something wasn’t sitting right with you. You start to question everything, wondering if the relief is worth the pain or if you’ve just made a huge mistake.

The thing is, doubt is part of the process. It’s natural to grieve what you’ve lost, even if you know deep down it was the right move. The key to finding peace is giving yourself time and space to feel everything sadness, guilt, anger without judgment. Remind yourself why you made the choice in the first place. Sometimes we need to end something that’s been draining us, even if it hurts like hell afterward.
Finding peace takes time. It helps to focus on the “why” behind your decision. Don’t rush yourself to “get over it.” Give yourself space to feel everything. Lean on friends, keep busy, and don’t shy away from the pain. It’s part of the healing process. Trust that your decision, made from a place of reflection, was the right one.

[ephedrine]

That is a totally normal response. You need to keep yourself busy to ease the pain. Distraction can really help when the emotions get overwhelming. Try diving into a new hobby—maybe something creative like painting, writing, or even learning a new instrument. Physical activity is also great for clearing your mind; consider going for a run, taking yoga classes, or hitting the gym. If you enjoy being social, spend more time with friends or join a local club or group that interests you. Even simple things like organizing your space or starting a new book series can help shift your focus. The goal isn’t to avoid your feelings but to give yourself some breathing room from them. Staying active can help you process everything without getting lost in the sadness. With time, you’ll find that the pain eases, and clarity starts to come through.

[prada]

I've felt that mix of guilt, sadness, and doubt, too, and it's normal to question your decision. You ended things for a reason, even if it’s hard to see it now through the pain. It’s easy to focus on the good parts when you’re hurting, but try to remember why you chose to walk away.
Finding peace of mind takes time. Try to remind yourself of the reasons behind your decision. Allow yourself to feel the sadness and uncertainty, don’t avoid the pain it’s part of healing. With time, the intensity will fade, and you’ll start to see things more clearly.

[Anonymous]

I've regretted not having broke up earlier but never regretted the break up. Usually I try to get the guy to break up with me; like I ghost him and if he cling on to me, I try to make him break up but if he don't and it become too long I will do it. I only regret not doing it earlier but never regret breaking up because I use it as a last resort things.

[Crazzyyworld]

Time heals.. it might be a best decision. Time will tell.. I rejected someone proposing me after I saw 666 sign. I regretted for I fear of what would happen. Sometimes I think I should have married to him when my situation is difficult but then it might have not worked in the first place. We would have split afterward and wasted my time.

[KittyKat90210]

I've never regretted a breakup. If I ended the relationship it was for a reason.

[serious]

I have always been single and hence no breakups.

[electromagnetic]

Nope. Not at all. All my relationships ended because reasons were valid to end them.

[Bricealan]

Yes, regretted some of those times to this day

[Nikki1989]

No, but I don't take any decisions lightly.

[exitseven]

I did have doubts about it the next day but I do not regret it.

[strangeatcircleK]

I will say for me, it's one thing to not feel a right fit in a relationship and it's another thing to be alone. Being alone, for me, is difficult

[SotiCoto]

I have very few regrets and that is not one of them.

[Theodora1983]

Depends why. Moving for work I did. But it’s was 6 months into a relationship so no.

[luvstoned4him]

nope. they were toxic or shady af

[ProbablyClueless]

No, I have never regretted that.

[elizamichale1]

Not really

[Anonymous]

Sure. Still can't forget

[Dongie]

NOPE!!