I'm not the one cheating, so Why is my cheating boyfriend always so mean /hurtful to me?

[holhartedly]

He already has All the control in our relationship, and does whatever he wants and I don't say nothing about how it makes me feel cause it'll just start a fight, or he will pretend to understand but won't make any changes. I've changed everything that he wanted me to change but still he keeps throwing the past in my face. He's not caring, sweet or romantic like he used to be!! He constantly checks out other girls right in front of me... Asks me to make him some food, and while I'm outta the room he will jack off to other girls ( videos of ex co-workers) and then pretend to be asleep when I get back in the room! He only has sex with me maybe once a month! I broke up with him last night and he didn't give a crap... We live together and I have no intention of moving out right away! But until then how do I get over him, so I'm not crying everyday anymore?

[teamvic]

Just think about how much of a relationship that WASN'T

Think about how bad he treated you and how normal relationship you're supposed be feel safe and protected.

Pretty much everything your relationship wasn't

Also don't let that dude manipulate you into doing stuff for him.

He doesn't give a shit about you. He probably cheated on yo ass

Especially if y'all on fucking once a month. Oh he definitely was cheating

But I don't see why you don't want to leave the house or whatever. You should get as far away from him as possible

But what do I know

[rosemilk]

well the most i could say is that i'm very glad and proud of you that you broke up with him. and i hope you are quickly figuring out the process of moving out.

as for this guy. he's just showing who he truly is. sorry you had to waste your time with such a trash human being. he does these things because he's a narcissistic douche who thrives off of control. and you allowed it. so it only made him walk over you more. he was probably love bombing you in the beginning, hence why you said he used to be caring, sweet and romantic. it was to hook you.

i hope you can recover from this. it honestly seems traumatic. you may even need to talk with a therapist about this. time will heal you in the meantime.

[HollyK21]

I’m so sorry, what a shit human being. He’s treating you like this because he has all the control and knows how much you depend on him. You can do so much better. Find a job, save up, move out, be done.

[melnc]

Living together under one roof is not a reasonable idea. If you are financially able to move to a better place, then do so.

[hahahmm]

Well, whether looking at porn is cheating or not is debatable but regardless, you have the power to leave instead of just talking about it endlessly or crying. Take control of your life.

[ProbablyClueless]

Projection. He feels bad about what he's doing, so he's taking it out on you.

[jahaims]

Because you are a moron that let people abuse you

[holhartedly]

I do not "let" anyone abuse me!!! I do not have friends or family where we live, nor do I have any income. So I stay and deal with it best I can... Thank you for your "valued" opinion of me. you sound like a real genius!!