Is it possible to get him back?

[lilly3000]

I’m 21 years old and my ex gotta restraining order on me…the situation is we were first each other, he’s obese white guy and I’m skinny half Asian girl that aways try to look the best so I won’t look ugly anywhere.
He has this fat female best friend who also has fat boyfriend and they call each other sibling’s.
I used to be coworkers with his female bsf at sbux while we were together, she didn’t like me.
It turns out she keeps telling my ex to get a restraining order against me.
He has a lotta male friends that’s bad influence on him, Like it’s cool treating a girl bad and making her suffer.
He dumped me 3times, 1st one was because I was going back to Japan,2nd time bc the long relationship wasn’t working out and 3rd one bc he didn’t want a girlfriend.
While we’re dating before the 3rd split up he will keep making tinder accounts and I’ll tell him to deleted it and he delete it front of me but makes a new one afterwards.
after 3rd break up he said we can be friends with benefits until he’s ready to date. But every time after we hookup he will ghost me and come back couple weeks later.
I was getting disappointed on his hotNcold actions and depressed.
One day I saw his car in sbux parking lot and it was time that he was ghosting me again so I pulled up and approached him and asked for answers. And he kept ignoring me so I continue to following him and I grabbed on his car door. His friends thought it was funny so they called the cops. His fat gurl bsf pulled into parking too bc she saw our cars.
So after the cops came, they told the cops that I was stalking and the cops recommend to get a restraining order against me and the next day I got a call from the court that I have a 20 day restraining order and after hearing
By the results of me grabbing onto his car door makes it violent. so it went through as a 1-year order.
It’s my 1st boyfriend ever, I don't know why, but I really love him so much him.
Ik I fucked up by being annoying, but is there anyway I can get w him?

Updates

7 mo

I know he has a one year restraining order and can’t do anything while in order. but in year is there any medication tricks or anything seem to get him back?
I’m pretty sure he won’t get anybody because he’s not attractive.

[Anonymous]

Unless he wants you back, you’re not going to be able to get him back. Him filing a restraining order on you should be your hint to leave him alone and move on. You’re 21, skinny, half-Asian, and you dress your best. There are plenty of guys in this world who would want to date you. Why waste your time on someone who doesn’t?

[HollyK21]

I don’t know how much harder he can say he’s done and to leave him alone for good except a restraining order. He could not be any more clear there is no hope. You are making yourself look like such a crazy person, even the fact you still want him after all this. Just salvage what dignity you have left and stop it already.

[HollyK21]

You’re being so shallow for no good reason. Just because you think he’s fat and unattractive doesn’t mean another woman will. Like are you ugly and he’s as good as you could get? A lot of women care about more than looks because that shit fades, and once it does, who he is underneath will be what matters most.

[lilly3000]

His underneath is not good either because he’s an asshole to everybody and he’s think it’s cool to be one.

[lilly3000]

Sorry I shouldn’t be hung up on looks.
I don’t wanna date other guys , I just want him back no matter what.

[HollyK21]

So if he’s the one who’s so bad underneath then why are you the one with the restraining order? That all his friends who know you seem to have encouraged him to have done? It wasn’t free or fast for someone to have success with that either. I’m not saying he’s perfect, I’m sure he had things he could’ve done differently but he’s not going to extremes where your family or friends are concerned for your safety how his people are concerned for his. Now we are only getting your side of the story here, but it sounds way too victimized for someone who’s faced such serious consequences.

[HollyK21]

I’m sorry but that just isn’t going to happen. There’s no pills or potions to change this situation, he’s fully done once that restraining order for filed. You need to move on.

[lilly3000]

Well, because I was really obsessive of him and clingy. I tried to give him space when he told me to give him space but he coming back and ghosting me after there’s a hook up.
i’m just hoping that the reason that he got a restraining order because the fat skank keep telling him what to do and he’s weak.
And it’s a year restraining order so hoping that year after he’ll forget all about it and come back to me.

[HollyK21]

I’m not trying to take away from what you’re going through but I must say it is entirely unnecessary and immature to keep talking about peoples weight. Like that is such high school, mean girl, bully behavior. You can fully dislike her without shaming weight, height, looks, etc. I know you never felt good when people made jabs at your features, so don’t do that to others. It’s just so wrong.

Anyway, he can’t just up and get a restraining order. It takes time, money and effort. It takes proof as well. Your obsessive behavior (amongst other things) are what put you where you are now. I get it, he was your first everything and it’s hard to walk away, but it is out of your hand a now.

I am giving you full benefit of the doubt here and assuming you are not a desperate, crazy woman, so stop acting like it. He didn’t get the restraining order because of his friends, and you’re being so jealous and jaded hah you can’t see beyond his friend and instead see the root of them problem, which is you and your clingy, overbearing, obsessive nature.

[Curmudgeon]

"I’m skinny half Asian girl that aways try to look the best so I won’t look ugly anywhere."

While I understand that first love thing, DO move on. I can't imagine you not having countless suitors throwing themselves at you.

[melnc]

You know, I wished you were in front of me so I could punch you so hard in the face for your stupidity.
🤦

[Hannajenky]

No. He literally has a restraining order against you.

[lilly3000]

Yeah for now, I’m asking how to get them back after that

[Summeroflove]

Leave him alone or go to jail

[Anonymous]

Leave the man alone you weirdo.

[jahaims]

You're mentally ill

[verified]

Ain't reading all that