How to get him back?

[cheekyta]

I falsly accused my boyfriend of cheating for the 4th time and treated him really bad. He called me to say he’s done with me but I asked to meet him the day after. When we met he was friendly with me but still looked upset and mad he even had a red fist from punching. We talked and he reminded me all of the bad things I did to him. I apologized him many times and he said he forgives me but he can’t love me anymore. I pleaded him to give us one more chance, he asked me why would I want to be with someone who doesn’t love me anymore.
after 4 hours of talking he accepted to decide about our relationship after a month but he asked me to consider it a breakup rather than a break cause he doesn’t want us to get hurt more than this. He also told me that he doesn’t want to see me for a month.

Is there a way to have him fall in love with me again?

[InfoBot]

You didn't value what you had and now you've lost it. You let your insecurity take control and you've pushed him too far. People who are riddled with insecurity are ugly, even if in looks they could be considered beautiful. It's an ugly trait and it ruins relationships.

Use this experience as a lesson and work on making yourself a more secure person. This relationship is probably lost but you can still have other relationships in the future.

[random56286]

Fall in love again yes, with you... Typically I would advise him to find another girlfriend. If you are jealous, you will ruin every relationship you are in. Either drop it now or find an equally insecure guy so the two of you can fight with each other.

[cheekyta]

The problem was he wouldn’t spend enough time with me even twice he went two weeks without seeing me. Other than being insecure I was a good girlfriend for him.

[random56286]

Your insecurity is what is driving him away. If you are insecure, you have doubts about him and the relationship. You will show it in the way you act and treat him. That will make it harder for him to figure out what your feeling for him are and make more distance between you.

[cheekyta]

But I promised him it’s not going to happen again. He now doesn’t trust me and I understand.
But could he telling me he doesn’t love me anymore be because of how hurt he is? will it be solved after a month of no contact you think?

[random56286]

No! The only way for it to be solved is for you to have an enlightenment and through that experience discover happiness comes from making others happy.

[Anonymous]

There's nothing you can do. Respect his wishes and if there is feelings there he will come back. But the fact you admitted that's the 4th time it really shouldn't lead to that having to get you to realise

[KingZeus]

He can't trust you. Enough said. I bet going out with his guy friends is hell..."hopefully she doesn't think I'm cheating again". Just move on and let him do the same.

[cheekyta]

Oh he was free to even see his ex girlfriend let alone guy friends!

[KingZeus]

I don't know the exacts of how you got together so I was just throwing that out but if it's an insecurity that you accuse him often. It's pretty hard to walk with you in my opinion. No likes being accused without basis, even if you say you'll never do it again you were clearly showing potential that you aren't in a stage of life where you are long term relationship ready.
If you all decide to start it up again, all I can say is good luck. There's a good chance one of you will burn out and tire from this relationship.
Nobody, no matter how noble their cause, changes in a day.

[DeterMind]

You didn't trust him and blamed him for something he didn't do. Why would he want to be with you? You messed up and now he's gone. Sure he could fall in love again, but the odds are low, and you bothering him won't help.

[Buckzor]

If I got accused of cheating 4 times when none were true, and got treated badly, that'd be the end of the line for me. He's obviously not interested in a relationship, so i'd advise you move on.

[Jackblue]

Ask him to see you once more and if he says ok when you see him dress in a sexy outfit get on your knees and beg him for forgiveness. Tell him you did wrong and you would do anything to make it up to him.

[rubix3d]

If my girlfriend seriously accused me of cheating that many times I wouldn't give you another chance. Just find someone else and don't make the same mistake again

[TrajanJJ]

I would not want to go back with a girl who continuously accused me of cheating.

[MisterSir]

>"I falsly accused my boyfriend of cheating for the 4th time..."

fuck me that is one patient dude...

[Anonymous]

He shouldn't date you at all. You know what? I think you were cheating that's why you accused him 4 times. Its ok most women cheat and aren't worth a dime

[kimseuloh]

Sorry to break it to you but you ain't getting back together after that

[adaiza]

If he really loves u, telling him u love him and u want him back wouldn't be a big deal.

[BOUNTYGUY9]

dont waste your time meet a new guy

[NinMarie]

Nope. You fucked up. Sorry

[septwill1988]

Good luck

[jsetsebas]

Stop being paranoid

[Anonymous]

Seek help!